My best friend and i have been friend since we were young
we found out she was pregnant last summer on our senior year
she didnt graduate cause she would miss school alot. I wanted to graduate together, but her pregnacy and her lazyness was her excuse not to go to school, so she failed.i would always get after her cause i would tell her to trie her best i would go to her house and wake her up to go to school but she didnt seem to care. now she is seven months pregnant and it seems that we cant be friends no more because she doesnt talk to me like she used to. she doesnt tell me her problems, she doesnt call me, she doesnt like going out. i dont know whats wrong with her. should i stop talking to her forever and trow away our friendship.
i understand she is pregnant but thats not a reason to act this way.
2006-09-11 14:16:50 · 8 answers · asked by SMILEY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Whats wrong with her is she's 7 months pregnant and she feels her life is not hers anymore, because she's about to be a mother in 2 months. She feels she should be getting ready to to plan her life and future, she feels she should be getting ready to go to college.
She can't do any of that now tha she's gonna have a baby at such a young age, all her friends are about to go off to college and plan they're future.
All she has to plan to do is have her baby, think of a name, figure out how she's gonna take care of this baby( because she' in a way still a baby herself)
The reason she may not want to talk to u anymore is because she's feelings like she has threwn her life away and she doesn't want to hear anyone else reminding her that she's gonna have a baby and they are not, she doesn't want to see anyone because she knows what they're saying and thinking. In a way she feels embarrassed
She may feel like she's all alone.
So what u may have to do is just leave her alone until she wants to talk, but u should let her know ur there for her and that u still love her and when she feels like she wants to talk ur there
2006-09-11 15:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just depressed cuz she could go out and have the time of her life and be an adult be she has to take care of baby and even though its not here yet she can't do anything cuz she might hurt it.
Maybe after she has the baby thing will get better bcuz u can help her and teach her even talk to her.
U guys will talk when she realizes she needs u nd thats when she has the baby cuz she needs support.
2006-09-11 21:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by secret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have obviously never been pregnant or else you wouldn't be considering ending your friendship. she's 7 months pregnant, she's tired, she's hormonal, and she probably feels like no one understands what she is going through. she is also probably really, really scared. i know it's hard for you to deal with but try to imagine what she is going through. just continue to let her know that you are there for her. call her even if she acts like she doesn't want to talk to you. go by and see her even if she says she doesn't want company. do something for HER and not for the baby. have a girls night were you stay in and watch tv all night. and most of all try to be patient with her. this is a very hard time for her and it is these times when you find out who your real friends are. it may not seem like she appreciates the things you are doing for her but she does and she will let you know it in time. good luck to you both. i hope your are able to work this out. good friends are hard to find and the best friends we have are the ones we make when we are young.
2006-09-11 21:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes giving each other some time to "rest" is good.
Mayb she had some change in her personality or emotion bcoz of pregnancy. Usually in a chinese tradition, pregnancy's women need to rest and dun think so much.
Wat i suggest u to do is...
Act normal...
Smile more at her...
Even she like dun care...but ur smile had carve inside her brain.
make her happy...
Bring her out for dinner...
Just be with her everytime...
she will need you...
If u leave her...
who's gonna care her ?
Dont force her to be like last time...
u will make her miserable...
Relationship only will go forward...
it wont stay there
it wont goes back...
And dun think so much...
2006-09-11 21:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by munfei99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her just what you told the world and tell her you want to be her friend but you feel like she doesn't care any more put the ball in her court
2006-09-11 21:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by michelle n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok she is going threw a tough time still be her friend be their for her when she will need you she will come to you. Be supportive and be ready for her when she will need you she will open up to you. Don't give up on your friendship no matter how bad it hurts.
2006-09-11 21:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by okfy9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should express how you feel to her and everything you typed there tell her except not in a mean way because you don't know how she will take it.
2006-09-11 21:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prime example why you unmarried girls playing with fire (sex) have so much to lose. Protection or not, nothing is for sure except abstinence.
2006-09-11 21:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋