Today me and my girlfriend were watching a movie and then she told me that she and her mom had to go somewhere to run errands. Then after dropping her off home i see her friends car pass me going towards her house as i left. I then had a feeling she was not going with her mom. So i called her cell phone and asked her can i borrow some of her books for school and she got kinda jumpy when i told her i was coming down her street. All of a sudden her friends car disapeared..i assumed she probably told her friend to park in the next street over. Then after getting the books i pulled over across the street and found her and her girlfriend leaving as i caught them....then she ask's me are you mad at me? i told her it was really messed up she should have just told me the truth...and she responded that i should trust her...and i told her i did trust her then i ended up with this and she stayed quiet...now i dunno if i should be mad at her about this
2006-09-11 13:54:52 · 20 answers · asked by jimmmy_087 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She's not trustworthy. But if you're not mad, then why would you want to get mad? Now you know where you and her stand. She couldn't even tell you she had other plans. And then turned it around on you.
2006-09-11 13:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by gravytrain036 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude take this advice from someone with experience, you can have the best girl in the world fun-wise, look-wise, and personality-wise, but if you don't have trust you have nothing. You will continue to see this going forward, and your doubt in her will intensify, and you will become jealous.
Trust should rank above personality, looks, everything,etc. You have to have communication with her immediately and lay it out. I have to be able to trust you, no matter how small the lie is, can be. She might try to throw it back on you, but don't bite, explain to her you will put up with a lot of things, but lying to you / trust factor are some thing you will not stand for.
Good luck
F.Y.I. my experience is if you already caught her in this one lie, she has many more in the past and to come. I would go find a girl you can trust and feel comfortable with.
2006-09-11 14:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by simmsdanjen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jimmy don't let her play you. Women can get very defenessive when their busted and confronted. They like to bring up past things that you've done to them to get the blame off them. If you feel as though you can't trust her and you have to resort to following behind her and her friends, then man your wasting your time.
M. O. B.
Move On Bro !
2006-09-11 14:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by ausaramenra2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was just trying to make it seem like she wasn't ditching you but just really wanted to hang out with her friends. It was wrong of her to lie to you though so I think you do have the right to be mad at her. I would just talk to her and let her know that you really do trust her (if you do) and if she wants to hang out with her friends just to let you know.
2006-09-11 14:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She Lied! Trust is something that should be earned and her lying about her where abouts doesn't say much for her trust issues. Talk to her about it. At least she is not cheating on you and lying about it, but you have to have an honest relationship.So you talk to her and tell her she was wrong for what see did to you.Good Luck!
2006-09-11 14:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by lisababyg ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that being gentle and kind to her but letting her know that she offended you is your best bet, if she sees you arent going to flip out she will be 100% with you next time.
If that doesnt work break up with her, because she cant be trusted.
2006-09-11 13:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should be mad at her.she got caught in a lie, and now she's trying to make you out as the bad guy. you'll have a hard time trusting her now. it may ruin your relationship. or you can just let it go. and she may or may not do it again.
2006-09-11 14:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by plummer7cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you trust her when you very obviously caught her in a lie? She's trying to throw you off by attacking you. (The best defense is a good offense.)
To the curb.
2006-09-11 13:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she didnt tell you the truth because you bug out or something when she goes out with her firends. Maybe she really feels that you dont trust her,and therefore she cant tell you the truth.
2006-09-11 13:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's lying to you....not a good sign
Apparently she's afraid to tell you the truth for whatever reason. Watch out, if she lied about this little incident, she's lying about other stuff
just be careful....
2006-09-11 13:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋