Like I know for a fact my parents look through my stuff and read my diary and read my letters that I write to my bf even when I repeatedly hide them. They always find them. And it's mostly my mom....she says she trusts me and yet. I see them snooping through my stuff too, it's not like I go through their crap all the time, reading all their childhood letters and other stuff like that....why they gotta do that to me?
2006-09-11 13:50:11 · 19 answers · asked by K 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i am 23 and had a snooping mom, but the main reason is to make sure that you are ok. Alot of teens won't talk to their par rents because they feel there parents suggestions are never on their side, or they don't want to share things, like drugs, that they might get into trouble for. Parents just want to make sure their kids are ok.
here is more information:
http://parenting.families.com/blog/the-case-for-parental-snooping
2006-09-11 13:57:37 · answer #1 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a mom I can say that although I trust my teenage daughter I seriously do NOT trust the rest of the world. I know it is hard to understand and you want your freedom and feel that parents snooping is a sign of disrespect, but trust me, it is all about FEAR. They love you so much and you are so precious to them that they are willing to do anything to protect you from everyone and everything....even yourself. As long as you are doing the right things and making great decisions don't worry about them snooping because as they see you growing and handling things they will ease up. It will take alot of time, and it will make you mad, but talk to them....and hang in there. Being a kid is only for such a short time...enjoy having your parents care so much. Not everyone is so lucky.
2006-09-11 23:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents go through my things also but that's what they do their just making sure their aren't doing drugs or having sex or whatever the case maybe but when I become a parent i will do the same but its a limit because your child still needs their privacy they need to know OK mom and dad is looking at my things but they give me my space they need that comfort from the parents
2006-09-11 20:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by iluvmydoglady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you honest with them?
Do you spend enough quality time with them?
Do you have behavior problems?
Are you getting bad grades?
Do they make an effort to talk with you but you don't seem interested/concerned?
Are you continuously out late?
If you can answer any of these questions with a "yes" I believe they have a right to invade your privacy. It's important for them to feel in the know. I know it's your business but they don't want you to get in trouble and want to know if you are in trouble. They do this because they care. You may not be making them feel comfortable with what you are doing. You are lucky, most parents these days could care less. You'll appreciate it when you are older.
2006-09-11 20:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are good parents and want to make sure you are not getting into trouble. You will be glad they did when you get older.
Now I don't think it is right to read your diary unless they have a specific reason to do so. Reading it on a regular basis not good.
And yes I was shocked when I found out my mom went thru my things.
2006-09-11 21:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents just want to know what's going on in your life, because they care about you. maybe spending more time with your mother, talking to her, asking her opinion on things (even if you don't really care) will help her feel more in tune with you and cut back on the snooping. and it might also help to have a mature discussion with her about your feelings towards your privacy. remember you will probably not get things exactly as you want them, but that is part of compromise and growing up.
2006-09-11 20:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by Renee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mum tells you she trust you she maybe does. But she maybe snoops throught your stuff to make sure that you are doing everything that's right and good, basically because she cares and is concerned about your safety and well being
2006-09-11 21:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by kara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It their job. But you could ask your mom without biting her head off like most teens do, to leave a few things personal. Have you broken her trust? Prove to your mom that you will tell her about your life...by telling her about your life. I understand you want your privacy but it's also your parents job to protect you from things you don't see as a problem.
2006-09-11 20:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by aerofrce1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, they dont snoop because they dont trust you. its because despite the fact that you need and deserve privacy too, they are having a hard time dealing with the fact that you can handle alot of the problems in your life and dont need them to help you as much. they love you!
2006-09-11 20:54:32 · answer #9 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you what you are and you won't understand it until you have had a child of your own some day. You are god sent, you are precious, you are the love of our lives....we as parents live and breath you...we can't imagine life without you. We look through your things to make sure your o.k. because you stop talking to us at some point like you used to. We look through your things to make sure your not headed in the wrong direction or heading towards death....we just want to make sure your o.k...we want to make sure your not doing drugs because if you died, we'd die...we just want to make sure your o.k...we as parents fear losing our children everyday...your parents look through your things hun because they love you...you might read this and say yeah right blah blah blah but I'm a mom and I did the same thing and my parents did it to me and their parents did it to them and you will do it to yours...and st. helena is in for one huge surprise when her children grow up
2006-09-11 21:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋