Help? How do I regain my confidence enough to date again?

Question

Since the breakup, Ive been very anti social. And I feel slumpish. I forgot how to talk to other guys. I feel so wierd. Any suggestions? please.

Answer 1

masterbate publicly...it worked for me. now i'm not afraid to try anything!

Answer 2

Well, it just takes time. I know how you are feeling. My marriage of nearly 18 years just ended about 5 months ago. It has taken me almost the entire 5 months just to be able to have a "normal" conversation with a man. I know that I am not emotionally ready for anything more than that at this point but it is nice to finally be able to have an intelligent conversation with a man again.

I can say from experience that it does make a difference in the person/people you are trying to talk to. I have met several different men since going back into the work force and most I have to almost force myself to talk to because I am uncomfortable with it but there are a few (1 in particular) that has made it very easy and comfortable to talk. I can talk to him about anything and not feel weird or bad. He is kind, caring and gentle and we have made a good connection.

Believe me when I say, it does get easier with time. Sometimes you will just have to make yourself to try to break the ice. I try to do that as often as I can. I work with the public so I do have to talk to people everyday. Somedays it is much easier than others & some days I just have to make myself.

Good luck!

Patty

Answer 3

Call me . Wish I had the answer. I have been the same way for a long time now. But the longer you wait, the worse it gets. I don't even noticed obvious signs of a girl flirting anymore. The only advice I can offer is .... put yourself forward, go out, force yourself back into public places and let the guys hit on you left and right. The confidence will come back. Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way for guys. Good luck.

Answer 4

What you want is for some female to expose you a sturdy time. What am i able to assert? You had undesirable success, and it appears like you're truly down contained in the dumps about it. yet hear to this: Take a deep breath, tell your self it is going to be "ok", and then walk as a lot as a woman you want and ask her out. All you want is a sturdy date, and all of your self belief might want to come back! maximum ladies are not from now on like the only you dated. detect a woman who's perfict for you, and then have relaxing at the same time with her!

Answer 5

Woman have it easy. Just be responsive to the guy thats all. Most of the pressure is on us anyways. Just be yourself, that seem so cliche but it so so true. Dont try to act any differently around a guy you like. Just be friendly and laugh at his jokes (if he tries any). The more outgoing the more response you'll get from them. Dont be shy, be kind and willing to talk and the rest will be history. Simple but true.

Answer 6

I think you are not ready to go out and date again yet, which is perfectly understandable. I dont think you should rush into anything,,,its obvious you are still hurt over the break up. In your own time you will just be like" snap of it"..and get yourself back to the way you were.

Answer 7

Just gotta take a Damn The Torpedoes Approach and go for it.

Forget what others Might Think .... Just go out and Have fun for a while without worrying about hooking up..... if those things happen then they happen ...... Just Dont Put pressure on yourself that you SHOULD have a Boyfriend or You SHOULD be Married.... Just Go enjoy being with Friends or People and
Screw what they think :-)

Answer 8

It's called "having left over baggage" from your previous relationship....which means your not ready to enter into another relationship, it wouldnt be fair to you or to anyone you would date. Don't jump from guy to guy, work on yourself, get your issues dealt with before entering into another relationship........ I see that your posting afew questions, this is the second one Ive answered of yours today. I hope you cant sort through your emotions and do what's right for you, which may not alsways be the most comfortable. :)

Answer 9

Make sure that you chose the guy, not the other way around. After you've chosen the right guy, Have a rebound relationship with him (4 weeks - no more)... Then you'll feel better.

Answer 10

Pause. Take as much time as you need. Reconect with some old friends. Have fun. No dating for a month . Try it .

Answer 11

Take it slow. You're not ready yet. You need time to grieve the loss of your relationship. Give yourself a little more time.