Would YOU adopt a child to save it from being aborted?

Question

I'm extremely upset by the rush of people that feel abortion is wrong and evil... So, alright... what would you do? Would YOU, when you are older, married, and you and your spouse want a child, would you ADOPT right away, or would you prefer to have a child that is genetically yours?

Honestly think about it...
Why are there so many fertility clinics? Because couples prefer to have a biological son/daughter... if THAT doesn't work, they go to clinics and try fertitlity drugs... THEN, finally, if that doesn't work, they adopt...

IT takes WAY too long for this process to happen, and in that time, many babies that would have been aborted are put in horrible conditions, waiting for adoption....

So? Would you adopt right away? Or are you like everyone else, and would prefer your OWN biological kid?

For those of you that are not familiar with it, there is a HUGE lawsuit going on against Child Haven.
There are too many children being put up for adoption and NOT enough homes to put them in. Everyone keeps saying that there are PLENTY of homes for children, so that they do not have to be aborted, but WHERE IS THAT PROOF!?!?
Someone show me that there are MORE families then unwanted pregnancies...

I'm trying to get and the seriousness of this issue.

Abortion shouldn't be so negatively cast, because of religious and conservative people

Answer 1

I don't know about "saving it" from being aborted - there will probably always be a high demand for newborns in the U.S. (particularly healthy, white ones - yes, I know that's unfortunate, but it's how it is.). I went through a pregnancy scare recently (thought for sure I was). I'm unmarried, pretty young, just starting my career. I agree that many children go unwanted and/or end up in bad places. I may've gone for an open adoption so I could investigate the situation thoroughly - I don't know the cost, but it's something I would have looked into (I'm definitely being more careful in the future, so hopefully it won't happen until I want it to.). IF I get into a position where I'm married, want a baby, and have the financial support (not many people do these days - they just THINK they do), I'd probably want my own child. I know it sounds selfish, but adoption is a lengthy and tough process, at least for infants.

Also wanted to add, I don't have a strong stance on abortion. It would be something I'd have a hard time doing, though. When I thought I could be pregnant, abortion crossed my mind because just going through the pregnancy itself would take a toll on my career life (it's hard enough to find good jobs as it is). But, I probably would've gone for adoption or keeping, depending on the resources available and what I decided about careers. I've seen adoptions turn out to be positive, but I'm sure the kids grow up with a lot of different emotions running through their heads.

Answer 2

It is totally natural to want a child that is genetically yours. Most people do.That does not make us incapable of loving another persons child. I have 5 beautiful children of my own, yes they are all mine and my husbands. For a while we were looking into adopting another one because I cannot have any more, but my husband lost his job and adoption is very expensive. I do not know what you consider older, but we were in our mid 30's at this time. We recently were asked by an acquaintance if we would be willing to adopt his child after it was born and were very excited about it but they changed their minds and are keeping the baby. Many people try to have their own children while trying to adopt. I know several families who have chosen to adopt rather than have their own even though they are capable to do so.

Answer 3

My son's ex-girlfriend aborted our grandchild...he tried convincing her that we, the paternal grandparents would take the baby if she would just give the baby a chance. She would not even consider it, she killed our grand baby! Yes, I would adopt. we have two that I adopted, they were my husbands from a previous marriage. We fought for custody and won, so my first two were not "mine" but I love them. I do know what people go through that want one of their own really bad, it's not always the same, I think if you could adopt a new baby it could be more the same, but to adopt little kids is just not the same as having one of your own. You want to be called mom. If that were the only problem though, just needing someone to adopt so they wouldn't abort it, I doubt that is the answer in many cases. Most abortions are because they don't want mom or dad to find out, they are "too young", they don't want it to ruin their chance on the dance team at college, whatever it may be, not because there is no one to adopt the baby. There are many people on the waiting list just waiting for a baby, the problem is, not many people want to adopt unless it's a newborn.

Answer 4

I would try to have a child of my own. Adoption is a great but can also bring unexpected problems. I know a couple who adopted a child and he has many issues. The child is in grade school and is currently being treated for depression and ADHD. They take him to see a psychologist monthly. AND teachers have suggested the child is bipolar. I've seen his behavior and I happen to agree. The biological parents obviously engaged in high risk activities and have mental issue that run in the family. This is the type of child we may read about in the newspaper sometime later on. You've heard of this before - the kid who killed his adopted parents for no apparent reason.

Answer 5

I would like to have my own child, but I also want to adopt at least 2 children. The fact that people would rather have their own children has no connection to the amount of children being aborted. People that have abortions still had the option of adoption when they decided to have the abortion.

Answer 6

No, I would adopt a child already alive. Ask all the people who think abortion is wrong and evil how many kids they have adopted, and I bet that number is mighty small indeed.

Oh, by the way, I have two stepkids and three adopted kids, and they are all the best kids ever, so what does it matter if they were biological or not? They are all my kids.

Answer 7

I would Adopt a child even if I already have 5 of my own. If these kids need a home and parents that would care and love them then YES I would adopt.

Answer 8

No, because I think that the physical trauma of pregnancy is often too much and that if a woman decides to have an abortion that is her choice. If I felt I ever wanted a child, I'd certainly adopt but, I don't want to raise children. My uterus has no vacancy though and I'd never ever give birth. That's my choice.

Answer 9

Adoption is wrong and it is evil.

Your logic is flawed. You are making an assumption that death is better than the "horrible conditions" while waiting for adoption.

My question would be, "has you ever been in a "horrible condition" that you preferred death over?"

My next point would be that if so, you have that choice. An unborn child does not.

Your logic dictates that if we feel that conditions would be bad, it is better to never allow those conditions to exist by aborting the child. Would you want someone to make this choice for you? What if I felt that your future situation was going to be intolerable for you, and decided that it was my duty to "save" you from this by simply killing you before you had the opportunity to experience it.

Answer 10

I would absolutely adopt a child to keep it from being aborted. I would love to give a happy home to a child rather than have it murdered because the mother doesnt want it.