Why do some men watch porn without masturbating?

Question

What's the point really? Even if they aren't masturbating to it, do they still find it sexually stimulating?

Or are they coming up with ideas for new things to try?

Or is it just curiosity - to see what various women look like?

Or is it just mildly entertaining - something to do when they're bored?

Answer 1

Men tend to be visually acute -- they "lock onto" things by sight first. The visual stimulation of a woman they find attractive is a pretty intense feeling; many men can sit and stare at women they find beautiful (regardless of their desire for sex) for a long time.

Porn is one natural but negative outcropping of that inclination. It's self-gratifying without any responsibility towards one's relationships.

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If you want to discuss the long term effects of porn and how it can result in disinterest:

Porn begins as a form of self-stimulation (mentally and physically) but like any form of excessive physical stimulation, the body adjusts and what was useful in the past to stimulate now does not hold the same amount of interest or create the same good feelings.

This is why there's usually an escalation in the intensity of the subject matter (for example, from pics of naked people to videos of people having various types of sex). The person is still looking for the same amount of pleasure received previously and needs more than before to find it.

At some point, the person either escalates into bizarre and destructive things or they quit where they're at... leaving themselves in a real bind. Porn and sex, at that point, does not create much good permanent feeling -- it leaves numbness behind. So the person can seem lethargic, disinterested, and so on.

However, the porn obsession was not just self-stimulation, it was also a practical behavior that has now been "programmed" by the person. So when they get bored, or having empty time in their schedule, or feel stress from relationships/work, they will feel a compulsion to view the porn even if they have no real sexual desire for it. The behavior has been established previously and is difficult to "unlearn."

This explains why a person could seemingly be obsessed with porn (watching it regularly), yet seem to not be stimulated sexually by it or feel the need to physically gratify themselves.

Usually they're also miserable. The porn is taking the place of meaningful activities that would provide real mental and emotional stimulation, but they don't know how to stop.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

It is not an either/or precondition that determines the viewing of 'porno'. It is more than 'stimulation' or sense triggered neuro-sexual activation. The personality in its actual life is changing as the person experiences moment to moment of and for their life time. There is a risk to abstract as constants descriptions that conceptualize a still or motionless theory of personality. Certainly a person may be 'looking for ideas' or shopping for women types, whatever you may interpret that to mean (they are looking at pictures, not meeting real female humans). Certainly escaping from the sensations of their reality could be a predeterminant or filling a nothingness moment in their experience. I am certain that experiencing orgasm consciously is a more secure mode of self sexual activity than wet dreams or sleeping orgasm, but porno offers unrealistic and alien presentations that clutter rather than clarify real human sexual contact.

Answer 4

Because there are some men that can control themselves.

Answer 5

I dunno, I gotta. I think some guys can blow a wad without touching themselves.

Answer 6

I've seen many a family broken due to pornagraphy. It is as addictive as any drug out there. I hope someday that porn will be outlawed.