What do I do?

Question

My best friend since first grade like me. The only problem there is we are both girls. She bi but more towards a lesbo than straight and I'm straight with my bi moments. I dont know how to act around her without feeling akward.

Answer 1

Im gonna be totally honest with you and let you know that what your friend is thinking about with you or the feelings she has for are wrong......If you were to consent to her needs and wants do you know how bad it could end up for you? I know ive been there and the emotional pain and distress I felt was aweful.

I got sucked into the whole thing with an ex friend or person I thought was a friend and I have to tell I felt as if i were living a lie.......it was tearing me apart to keep the secret and I was ashamed of what i was doing...emotionally I was a wreck and it tore me apart.......why you might ask? because I was living a lie and doing things I knew were wrong and knew I shouldnt be doing. Those feelings were so bad I felt as if were dying in every way.......I wouldnt wish that on anyone not even my worst enemy.

My advice to you is this......if you truely do not want to do this and are straight then you tell this person you are not interested in them that way at all. I found in my case I had to walk away from this person and get away from the lifestyle she was living.....as hard as it was I did it....broke all contact with her totally and went on with my life......had i not done this I would of been drug down more and more into the things she was doing and further away from my walk with God and the people that love me.

Dont let yourself go through any unessessary pain.......Tell her no and do yourself a favor.....find some friends that arent into such things......you will be better off in the long run...trust me I know. Since ive walked away from that situation i was in......Ive had a great life.......got a beautiful niece, great family, great job and just know soon ill have a great guy. God has blessed me and given my back my life.

Good luck to you in this situation. I'll pray for ya.

Answer 2

Well, first up, what's your choice? Are you ready to try a committed relationship with her? This isn't so much about how gay anyone is, as what kind of relationship you want to have with her.

If you think she might be "the one," then you find out if she feels the same way and think about whether or not you're ready to find out if you're both right, knowing that it's easy to say "let's be friends," when it doesn't work out, but hard to do. It's a matter of if you really want to find out if she is the one enough to risk the friendship.

If you want to be friends, but nothing more, then you let her know (I'm assuming from your question that she's indicated she wants more). "I really enjoy being around you - I hope we'll always be friends." If she says she wants more, you let her know, gently, that you love her as a friend, but aren't interested in more - let her decide whether or not she can be happy with that, and respect her decision, just as she should respect yours.

As for how you act around her - you act around her the way you would around any good friend, I mean, you're not french-kissing all of your other buds, are you? You try to treat her with respect, and expect the same from her - after all, you're friends. Good luck!

Answer 3

So come to a mutual agreement that u both care about each other but let reality hit you and know that there is a thin line that we do not wont to cross in a friendship because of ones lust for the other especially when u both are not 100% sure that's what u are or wont because it can ruin yoUr friendship. Take it from me I have been there and it has brought confusion in our lives. Just think hard and talk before u cross that line and way ur pro and cons. Most of all value the friendship they last a lifetime most relationships don't.

Answer 4

I don't believe there are "bi moments" either you're bi or you're not. Since you say you've had "bi moments" I'd say you're bi even if you're a non-practicing bi :o) I would say the two of you need to talk and decide together what to do. If you don't want her in that way then you've got to tell her to move on and then you can go back to being friends but if you do want to give it a shot then let her know. Tell her your fears and what not. best of luck xox

Answer 5

you say you have your bi moments, so why not take the chance to experiment? before you do you should maybe talk it over and come to a no strings attached agreement, as in if you don't enjoy it it won't affect your friendship, because otherwise things can get really awkward afterwards. it's different of course if you don't feel sexually attracted to her at all. then you should maybe just sit down over a pot of tea and sincerely discuss your feelings towards each other. it might be difficult, but it's the only way to resolve this without causing damage.

Answer 6

If you're feeling awkward around her it's because you are completely straight-keep it that way unless you really do want to go bi or gay. I know a lot of girls who guy bi just b/c they assume it's cool, that's silly. I am straight, sometimes I may think about other girls in a sexual manner but I would never actually go ahead and act on my lesbian thoughts-I keep that as ONLY a fantasy, would not really put action into it b/c I like men. Just follow your heart-don't do anything just b/c other girls are doing it. It's ok that you think of girls sometimes, I have and still do too. That's fine. It doesn't mean you are bi. If your friend makes you feel uncomfortable, it would be best if you did not see her anymore or just tell her how you feel. Have her know that you are staight and would like to keep it that way. I'm sure shed respect your wishes. Just don't make or have her make any advances towards you and don't do anything you will most likely regret. Good luck :)

Answer 7

I have had a lot of male and female friends. Some gay some lesbian, some bi, and some still virgins. If I find myself in an awkward situation (sexually speaking). I have found that being open about your feelings toward the other person is best. I had a girl who wanted to have a sexual relationship with me and I very simply stated (without feelings) that I was touched and honoured that she would consider me. However, I do not feel the same way about my own gender. I told her I was very flattered by her comments and that friendship was all I had to offer her. We are still friends and we chat regularly. No more ugly feelings - no guessing games - no games!

Answer 8

Bull **** ur either straight , bi, or "lesbo" as u call it, not just once in a while or in "moments". Get it straight u like her sexually or u don't, that's all and tell her how u feel she's not ur type sexually but she is as a friend.

Answer 9

well, you are obviously NOT GAY, so just go on like you were before as friends. it shouldnt be a problem , tell her how you feel about the entire situation, and that you may have Bi moments, but you are definately not gay. You want to keep your realtionship with her strictly platonic - (meaning no sex - just friends)

We all have lesbo friends - and as long as we speak to them about our wishes, most are good enough about backing down from the propositions.

Good Luck!

Answer 10

just be yourself. If you have known each other since first grade then she should know the real you anyway. Your bi moments are just being curious. Just be friends if something more starts to happen you will know if it feels like if it is something that you want to keep on with or not.