about a little over a week ago amy friend ang had met a guy off of my space.com. well the guy that came over was a jerk and he cpmplete;y dipped on her. well 2 days later she had another guy over my house. he seemed like a decent guy, quiet but decent. i am wary of online dating because my roomie met a guy and ended up raped and caught something. well the guy felt uncomfortable so he didnt come by again. little by little my friend started acting wierd over this guy from the net. the second night she knew him she stayed in his bed. it irked me because i look out for her and she is such a great person and i didnt want her to get hurt. well 3 days ago i wake up with a phone call from this jerk calling me names and called my 3 year old daughter a name as well. i take it him and my roomie didnt get along but i shouldnt have been brought into it.well naturally i was mad and called ang and told her what happened and her boyfriend denied the whole thing. i have been best friends with this
2006-09-11 12:25:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
girl for 2 yrs and this guy told me that if he had anything to do with it her and i wouldnt talk and she wouldnt be around my 3 year old who she considers a niece. my feelings are so hurt and i didnt know that friends did stuff like that. my daughter has asked about her so much and the only thing i can say is that she is at work..this guy is off the net she has known him for a week and a half and he has managed to ruin a friendship with a girl that i love very much. it has been 3 days since her and i talked and i guess he has prohibited her from speaking to me...it hurts me that she wld do this...what should i do? i want her to be happy but i dont think this guy is the one. he just got out of jail, and i have heard it was for a really bad thing and more people know this guy and my friemd wont believe a dang thing i say.........
2006-09-11 12:29:04 · update #1
sorry for the typos
2006-09-11 12:29:34 · update #2
she says i dnt want her happy, i do very much, i would just like the man to not be a controlling person and act like he is sooo hot and expect for me to kiss his butt to have a frienship[ with her. my boyfriend of a year and a half hates her but i wld never stop my relationship with her..how cld she do this to me?
2006-09-11 12:33:34 · update #3
I dont understand it either, I would never choose a guy over my mates, as I always say, boyfriends come and go but mates are there forever. Best thing you can do is wait it out, dont try and break them up or anything, just let her know that you're her friend but you are having trouble being there for her right now. Then wait and see what happens and be there for her to pick up the pieces if you love her that much. As for your daughter, if she's not too young to understand then simply explain to her gently whats happened and why you're upset because she's probably sensing that you are angry and hurt and she'll feel it too, kids are fantastic feeling recievers like that, so just relax and make sure your friend knows you'll always be there for her.
2006-09-11 12:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by LilMissLunatic [YummyMummy] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend whose boyfriend of 7 years left her last year. I spent many, many, many days and nights comforting her and trying to help her move on. Now, a year later, she has a new boyfriend and is finding less and less time to spend with me and even "ditches" me on occasion to be with him.
I can't speak for all women, but I think in her case, she feels like she needs a man to complete her. I have spent a lot of time trying to convince her otherwise, but she just doesn't listen. I am afraid that if she continues on this path of choosing this guy (whom she has been with for 2 months) over me, a friendship of many years will be lost.
2006-09-11 12:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by t_kauppi11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend is in a bad situition. she probably knows this and is choosing to ignore it untill something really bad happens, or she hasnt seen that hes bad yet. It sounds like your friends simply waiting to get hurt. Have you tried contacting her somewhere were he wouldnt know about it to tell her that you are worried about her? if you can. tell her you miss her and will always be there for her. She'll come back to you. expecially if she gets hurt, but hopefully she doesnt.
2006-09-11 12:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by guitar814girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have best friends with her for only two years, then there might be issues she has you never knew about. If she wants to continue seeing her jailbird, let her. When he does something to her that she wont like, she'll be back.
2006-09-11 12:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋