be honest, why do you think relationships, tend to get too comfy and lose some of that spark?Realistically things can never stay the same as in the beginning, so how have you created a new spark?
2006-09-11 12:24:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The trick is to use the spark to start en intense fire and stoke the fire daily so it never goes out and if it does go out than do all you can to stoke it start it re-stack it and than you stoke it more often and nurture it. It's about fires right lol
2006-09-11 12:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most relationships that last go through ups and downs over time.
Your right, in the beginning there is a spark that you may not ever have quite the same again but if you BOTH are willing to make an effort, you can keep it going really well. As you said, people tend to get too "comfy" and forget to make an effort to continue to please each other in many different ways. We lost our spark for several years but the last 3 years it has been better than anything since the beginning! Why? We started making more of an effort for each other again just like you do in the beginning of a relationship. Sometimes it's just little things but they can be the most important ones. I wish you all the best and hope that you and your husband will always have what you want.
Take care
2006-09-12 09:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships cool after you are with someone for a long time, it's natural. If you want new spark then both of you need to want to create that spark. I've never seen any couple get it back like it was in the beginning, it just don't work that way. Be happy that your still comfy because that means a lot.
2006-09-11 20:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the begining there was infatuation. Infatuation turned into love, love turned into marriage, marriage turned into the most exciting thing that ever happend to you and you go into the infatuation stage again, and love, then children and you get busy, tired, frustrated with some of lifes challenges and finally routine.
But true love is there and as long as you communicate, take time out to date if not once a week at least once a month. (and that's away from the kids and house) then you won't have to worry about losing too much of the spark.
But I would say infatuation is that chemical high like not other (sorry never did drugs), but you know what I mean. Don't dwell on that too much or you will lose sight of your spouses love for you.
Want to get the spark back? really? Then get with your husband remember the old times on your new date and you will get it back.
Life is full of too much routine. You have to break from it, well, routinely. (sorry about the redundacy it wasn't meant to be deliberate).
2006-09-11 22:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by Martin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the beginning, there is the newness, the excitement, but you can keep the spark alive, by doing little things for each other. Small surprises can keep any relationship passionate and loving.
When two people love each other they want to make sure they keep that spark, and sometimes, all it takes is a weekend getaway, just to recharge the batteries, be a couple again, focusing only on each other.
It's easy to keep the spark alive, if you both want it to be there.
2006-09-11 19:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Angeleyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a matter of 'getting too comfy and losing the spark', relationships go through stages and mature.
2006-09-11 19:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by Chris M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True the initial spark is gone, but that is all the more reason to look for new ones. My husband and I like to get the kids out of the house for awhile and sit on the bed naked and just talk. Looking at eachother after awhile gets to be intense, and with intense, come great sex.
2006-09-11 20:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's too comfy, it's too indifferent. Good lovers like to please as much as be pleased. To keep the "spark", you must put each other above all else; kids, jobs, money, life in general. This perspective is very difficult to maintain. People change, life sucks, and before you know it you've drifted apart. Without each other, you have nothing....
2006-09-11 21:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never take their love, affection and attention for granted. Don't let them do the same to you. I start out each morning wondering "how can I show I love her today?". Then it's not a matter of rekindling a spark. It's more a matter of dampening the flames...
2006-09-11 19:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by antirion 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, there is no spark like the original. It just grew to a deeper relationship.
2006-09-11 19:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋