broke up with a guy i was in a relationship with for 11 months 18 days, 2 days before my birthday.(Lets call him D) Lately I have been seeing a new guy. Hes really sweet and i know he cares and likes me a lot. (Lets call him J) But why is it that im really happy when im with J but whenever hes not around all i can think about is how D hurt me and how he seems to be the only thing on my mind when all i want to do is just move on and be happy with J?
What will it take for me to get over D?
Had a nightmare the other night. I was with J having a really nice day out. All of a sudden D comes out of nowhere and says to me "what would you say if i said i want to get back with you and i still love you?" i ran away from him in tears and i woke up. I know most people would think how can that be a nightmare?... but the look on D's face looked really evil. Like he wanted to hurt me on purpose and he didnt have any feelings for me, but even so i would of said yes.....
2006-09-11 12:06:25 · 11 answers · asked by Invisible Tears 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When you fall in love with someone the neurotransmitters in your brain actually change. After you quit seeing someone it takes months for the neurotransmitters to get back to normal. Normally it takes 6 months of not seeing or hearing the person at all for the chemicals to get back to normal. The feeling of love is just chemicals in the brain and they are very strong just like a drug. Time is the only thing that can change this even when you are with another person. You will think and dream about this person until your brain adjusts. Just let it do it's thing and continue on with your life. Time will make things better.
2006-09-11 12:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like all news, you are dwelling on the bad. Ever buy a newspaper that only had good news? Ever remember a news story that wasn't bad?
Your dream is telling you that you made the right choice. Learn from it... and what would you say if he said he still loved you? Think about it, so you can let J know your true feelings. That is, if you still love D, let J go... you are just playing him. I you don't love D, let J know what he means to you. Once you know for sure who you want in your life, everything will become a little easier. Good Luck.
2006-09-11 12:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by J j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay hun, i am going to try to answer this based on past experience. The thing is..D KNOWS HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HIM. If you EVER run into him..and you and J are together..then wrap your arms around J and plant a nice big kiss on him! sounds deceiving..but hey...he deserves it right? why let him think that you are sitting around dwelling over him? let him think that you moved on and your life could not be happier! trust me it works! I just got out of a 3 year realationship and now i have been with a new guyfor like 4 months now and for like the fist 2 months all that i could think about was josh (my EX) and it quit bothering me after awhile, because i let him know taht i was happy and he told me at our daughter's 2nd birthday party that he had never seen me happier and since I moved on and found happieness....then he was happy for me..and then it all went away... so i think it has a little bit to do with "closure". I hope that you found this helpful!
2006-09-11 12:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Cortney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not ready for this new relationship yet. You have to spend time on your own to accept the lose of your other relationship. If you continue to see the new guy you will probably suffer rebound, end up breaking up anyway and then someone else has become hurt by your first relationship. People who have experienced breakup and rebound relationships know that it is truly best to wait.
2006-09-11 12:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard answer sweetie, you are still on the rebound. You don't really love J and you really miss the times you had with D. Give it time. It takes time to heal a heartbreak, but it heals. I think your dream is telling you that if you did go back to him, it would be a nightmare. Good luck sweetie and don't be afraid to take some time alone.
2006-09-11 12:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes if relationships that end like yours you may spend a very long time before you heal inside I have had this problem with boyfriends before and now I am having this problem with my husband and we have been apart on and off for 2 yrs. I think the best thing for you to do is try to find something fill your time that you are not with J and with time and it maybe a long time you will begin to think of him less. hope this helped
2006-09-11 12:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold off on relationships for a while, until you get over the old fool, before you start dating new fools!
You are having the weirdness that haunts everyone who ever made a decision...
Don't worry, it is a good thing. We all have these things happen to us. Time will heal it all. Meanwhile, hang with friends, work on your work.
2006-09-11 12:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just hormones playing a number with your emotions. I say dump "J"; forget about "D"; he's a player and go for the right dude for you who is, let's call him, "M"
M=me!
xx
2006-09-11 12:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to D and see if he really loves you and how he feels about you
2006-09-11 12:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by dazzledee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um........ maybe ur just in the stage of recovering from ur broken heart.
2006-09-11 12:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by laurad_16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋