Sometime my hubby tell me he love me but just the other day he ask me a question and the question was do you have a guy calling you on the house and cell phone and I told him no why and he state he was told and then I told him if I did u should have anything to say you have been going with that girl for about 4 months now. I love my husband but I feel I need to move out cause he go to the girl house all the time call her and she call him I'll just put it like this he do any and everything for that person but still tell he he love me. But the other day I ask him do he want me he told me sometime depend on what he hear about me as for as people saying I'm with another guy which is not true but he don't want to believe that. I think its just an excuse to keep me where he think he got me. we have 3 kids together and I think I'm just here could I don't want to put them though any changes but I'm tried of going thorough this MESS with him, so please can anyone give me some ADVICE? HELP
2006-09-11 12:03:36 · 10 answers · asked by Jennifer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please don't stay together for the kids.They will more than likely thank you for leaving the "daddy" that makes mommy so sad all the time. Why would you want your kids to stay in a home that is really sad all the time and probably arguing a lot.He really doesn't believe that you are seeing anyone or even hearing it from anyone he's just testing to see how you react and if you end up telling him that you are he has an excuse to blame you and take your kids from you, saying that YOU cheated and are unfit. For yourself and your children you need to give them a better life before you end up with a disease or a STD (sexually transmitted disease) they need their mama to be strong and healthy. Put your head up, stand strong, pack your things and WALK.
2006-09-11 12:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you do it? Honestly? A relationship involves 2 people, and another inanimate thing the relationship. So you need to think about you, and your relationship. They are 2 separate things. What is best for you? What is best for your relationship.
What is best for your relationship, he obviously does not want to provide, so there is no way you, or your children will ever be happy in experiencing a family.
What is best for you...only you can answer, with the help of God.
The behavior that is being established right now is not healthy for your children. They will begin to act the same as the atmosphere at home. You do not want this too!
If he believes you to be seeing someone else, advise and offer him to check it out. Who, and when, and where....if you are not, then he shouldn't be able to verify the facts.
I would have to say something else is going on with him, whether it is a mid-life crisis, or a major depression...something isn't right with him, and there is nothing you can, or should do to change him. Change can only be brought upon by the person needing the change.
2006-09-11 19:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by Heart of Plat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have a marriage, you have a room-mate. Not only that, you are room-mates that don't trust each other and likely never, ever will at this point.
Do you want your children growing up thinking this is a normal, healthy relationship? It isn't and you know it. Staying together for the sake of the children is a very lame excuse when you are exposing them to this type of family life - which is NO family life at all. That is just an excuse for you not to do what you know is right for you and for them.
Yeah, it will probably be tough, but in the long run, you don't need him or this sham of a marriage.
2006-09-11 19:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him. You need to think of yourself and your kids. It is no good to say in a marriage that is over. If you are both unhappy then the kids will be too. The kids may be upset at first but they will be fine.
2006-09-11 19:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
PULL THE HELL UP. THATS TO MANY CHANGES. HES PLAYING U. I KNOW U MIGHT LOVE HIM,BUT WHAT GOOD IS THAT IF UR NOT GETTIN THE SAME IN RETURN. LIFE IS TOO SHORT 4 ALL THAT BULLSHIT. HE HAS NO RESPECT 4 U , WITHOUT RESPECT AND TRUST U DONT HAVE ANYTHING. I THINK U SHOULD REALLY DO SOME SOUL SEARCHING 2 PUT UR LIFE IN PERSPECTIVE. REAL LOVE DOSENT TAKE U THRU THOSE KIND OF CHANGES. BEST OF LUCK AND GOD BLESS YOU.!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-11 19:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe there's a question. If he's cheating, you know it, and know when he's doing it, your marriage is over anyway. Putting the kids through change is better than letting them watch and feel that going on.
2006-09-11 19:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by LaMorena 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have you every heard of puncuation. Your question is very hard to read. But, if he is cheating on you openly and doesn't want to end the relationship with the other woman, your marriage is over. Time to move on and find someone who will treat you with respect.
2006-09-11 19:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once they cheat it may quit for a while but they will do it again
2006-09-12 00:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by chunkymonkey7304 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this marriage is over ,move on.
2006-09-11 19:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by nanny2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM AND GET YOUR ACT TOGETHER
2006-09-11 19:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by susieq 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋