When I broke it off, I wanted to remain friends. We didn't talk for almost two years (he sent me an IM on Yahoo) and when we started talking again I told him I had married and was very happy but would still enjoy meeting for coffee. He was REALLY nasty and mean and said he never wanted to talk to me or see me again. I was surprised and had no further contact with him . So, why now the email?
2006-09-11 11:51:26 · 21 answers · asked by old girlfriend 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Because he is hoping that the perfectly happy marriage you described isn't so happy any more.... he wants to get lucky. Nothing more and nothing less. He's a dog and he's barking very loudly...can't you hear him?
2006-09-11 11:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by john s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would proceed with caution. Perhaps he does just want to be friends now and will respect the fact that you're married... but then again he might be out to woo you all over again. Just be certain that you're completely honest with your husband and ask HIM how he honestly feels about you meeting up with this former flame before doing so. Respect his feelings... if he isn't comfortable then I would just forget about the whole thing. Maybe you ex is genuinely interested in just reconnecting and catching up... but I've heard of many affairs (physical and/or of the heart) starting this way.
Best wishes.
2006-09-11 11:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to revive old memories. Lots of guys do this. He may be thinking he has a chance to get with you again.
Don't meet this guy. You are married now and nothing good can come from meeting a past boyfriend.
How would your husband feel about you meeting him?
2006-09-11 11:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had his chance at friendship. He blew it. His loss. If he really has honest intentions, then let him prove it over the phone for a while. You stuck your neck out once, it's his turn. Just watch your back, be careful so you don't get hurt again. We all have enough problems without bringing more in willingly.
2006-09-11 11:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by blackanubis9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but it would be wrong to meet with this guy. Your married and no need to jeopardize that. Especially for someone you just wanted to be friends with and was rude about it. How would you feel if your husband wanted to be friends with his past girlfriends. Just forget it.
2006-09-11 11:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably found himself available and thought about how good you guys were and figured maybe he still had a chance (with the way marriages collapse this day, he figured why not give you a try). its no big deal - if you are not interested do not email him back. actually do not email him back - you have a husband and i know he'd rather you didn't.
2006-09-11 11:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by arewa247 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 06:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't meet him for coffee or anything else. If he was really just your friend, he should be thrilled that you're happily married.The email is most likely some piss-poor excuse to apologize for his own insecurities.
2006-09-11 12:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows what goes through the mind of some jerks. I would say: Why would you want to meet him? I would just tell him to get a life!
2006-09-11 11:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by rockin752005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he repent or successful, and want to gloat in your face. I guess it is alright to meet...put the past behind you. It might be something important, like he's dying or something.
2006-09-11 12:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by shuddupfirst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋