What do these feelings mean?

Question

I have been living with my girlfriend for almost a year, and I love her a lot. Sometimes I have feelings like there is more out there, or that she may potentially bring me down. She does a lot of good things for me like keeping me focused and motivated in my career. So I am really confused. What do these feelings mean? Do I want to be with her, or am I needing to get out? I go back and forth with this all the time. Is it normal or is it sign to go?

Keep in mind we do love each other a lot

Answer 1

Hell yeah it's normal. Nothing in life is a sure thing, but she sounds good for you. One year is when a lot of couples freak out. If you have some valid doubts, give it some time to see where they go, but do not throw something good away just because you can't believe you found something too good to be true.

Answer 2

with out reading the answers u've gotten already im going to tell u alot of people are probably going to suggest that ur not ready for a commitment.. going by what ur saying..

But im going to differ..

I believe u do love her.. i believe maybe ur still not exactly ready for marriage yet.. but the fact that u realize this and wonder if its a problem makes u more mature then most men twice ur age,..

I think that ur gf makes u feel so good about urself that shes in away over inflated ur ego because she loves u so much and supports u so much.. Sometimes when we are with someone that makes us feel like we are on top of the world.. we tend to think so highly of ourselves that we think we can actually do better then what we have..
But u need to realize, thats what good relationships are about.. loveing someone so much to make them feel good about themselves.. now u can love her for it.. or u can condemn her for it.. .. and most of the time, in this situation.. u'll find out that u'll end up regretting losing someone that was so wonderful.. cause most people arent like this.. I think she's a keeper, and u'd be a fool to let her go.. Its because of her that u feel so good .. its a rare thing to have someone love u so much..

Answer 3

In my experience of relationships, we all have phases (if you will) in our life.

Those that are here for life.

Those that are here for seasons.

And those that are here for lessons.


This is where you need to do some searching. Internal. Spiritual (yuk I know). These feelings are coming from somewhere, whether it is pride (she’s bringing you down), boredom (there’s better out there), or confusion (which believe it or not can be something the ‘devil’ is complicating your life with). This phase in your life is simply a warning sign that you need to take another look. You are missing something important.

*The words of a fool*

Answer 4

Well i always say if your Heart . Mind. Soul aren't in it together then it's time to go . if you can't feel at peace and be satisfied with the one you love . then you won't be happy in the long run.
You also have to evulate what are the good qualities and bad qualities then campare them to you and what it is you want don't set yourself low cause right now it's just comfortable . think about your future down the road can you truly say you love this gal or are you just in love with all is doing right now not what she has done. and if you can wake up every morning and Thank God or your lucky stars that you are waking up to the most beautiful gal in the world and wouln't want to trade her for anything. and that she's the only one who really turns you on. and makes you miss her just thinking about her. and wake up too every day of your breathing life.
hope that works good luck you just got to protect your own heart.

Answer 5

i guess everyone feels that way sometime. let them roll on by .stay focused on the love and the good things in ur relationship. the grass isnt no greener on the other side. i have some good friends looking 4 a good relationship, they say its rough 2 find someone on a serious note. when u get 2 feelin that way keep in mind how good ur girl is 2 u. if there isnt any problems, dont create any. be happy!!!!!!! good luck!!

Answer 6

what does this have to do with marriage?

Shacking up is a totally different thing and immoral. Stop doing it and leave sex for married people to engage in. This is why things are so bad for you. It's not a normal relationship.

If your career is that important it is your first love. Take it on. There is nothing wrong with that. Just don't hurt women in the process. That's all.

Answer 7

I think he is playing mind games with you. First treating you badly, then turning around being buddy buddy with you and hurting you by telling you about his girlfriend. This dude certainly knows you're sprung on him and for some cruel reason is trying to hurt you. He is no friend of yours. You should ditch him as soon as possible. But if you wanna play games, then switch on him by suddenly acting all distant and moody. Tell him you need space. Just imagine that he is that annoying guy 'Bob' who always hits on you but that you are really not attracted to. Be a demanding diva and throw tantrums. Oh, and date a lot and tell him about it every time he asks why you are SO moody and unavailable. lol

Answer 8

It is not possible that you love her. It is not possible to live with someone like that and really love them. The only reason I see that you are doing it is pure selfish lust. Maybe your conscious is bothering you and that's what the feelings of her potentially bringing you down are. It is a negative experience for her and she will have to live with it for the rest of her life, even if it is with you. Statistically, people who live together before marriage have a higher divorce rate.

Answer 9

I have found that the right person is one with whom we can accomplish our goals. It may be possible that your current career isn't exactly what you were hoping for in the future, and that is why you may be getting these feelings. Before you decide on anything, you have to look inside yourself and try to find out what you really want in life. Then you will be better prepared to discuss it with her. It may very well be possible that she will be very happy to support you if you decide on a new direction in your life.

Good luck.

Answer 10

It may not be a sign to go yet... You probably need more time in the relationship. Don't go to that next level and commit just yet. Wait till you can't live without her.