My boyfriend of a year and a half has so many different moods with me. Sometimes he is the romantic that we all love, affectionate and caring. Other times he is non-interested in me, distant, and shows no respect for me. Today we went to look at a car and I really liked it. I asked him if there was a sticker on it with a priice and he said " No do you see one". I looked and there wasn't and asked him what his problem was and why he was being so cocky with me. He said, "Your an a$$hole and you don't even know that your an a$$hole"!! I just looked at him and told him to F off. I had it with his mood swings. He see's nothing as his fault. This isn't the first time. I kept going back because I thought he was having a bad day or some kind of stress but now I am seeing that this really is his personality. I don't think he will ever change. It hurts and confuses me that someone you love can show absolutly no respect for you for when he is great he gives me the world
2006-09-11 11:39:37 · 46 answers · asked by Kit Katt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The big questison here is WHY you have put up with his extreem mood swings. I personally have never had anyone call me an asshole. And if they did, they aren't the sort of person I would have in my life.
Yeah, I think you have put up with someone who has mood swinging issues. and if he won't admit it, then the chance of him improving over the years is slim to none. The chances of it getting worse and more intense is almost guarenteed.
Many people have a bad day and don't leash out so violently.
Eventually the good days won't even out the bad days.
When a guy is sweet and loveing it is easy to overlook the bad days, but believe me the bad times add up quickly and will rob you of who you are.
It is so easy to give in to the good times in exchange for the bad times. When they are that sweet it is hard to see life in a whole picture. And when the picture is that bad at times.....nothing will even out.
Think enough of yourself to want better in your life.
Something I learned in life is that love doesn't mean we have to be with someone. Many of us sacrifice ourselves for a fairy tale that turns in to a nightmare.
2006-09-11 11:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your question is how to get over it, just look at it like this: people don't have epizodes. Everything they do is really them, just maybe a part of them you don't often see. With that in mind, hopefully you won't make the same mistake again. When the next guy you meet treats you like dirt, you'll walk away the first time he does it and never look back. And you'll keep leaving them until you come across a guy who doesn't do it. Because they do exist. There are many of us. It's just that there are so many more selfish a$$holes who think they can trample on people without consequences that we are hard to find.
Good luck finding the right guy. And remember, just beacuse you care about him and really love him, doesn't mean he feels the same about you. Don't settle for anyone who doesn't genuine love you every moment you are together.
2006-09-11 14:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself the question "How does this person make me feel about myself?" If the answer after a year and a half of dating is anything less than great or at least good, than I suggest you move on. The popular thinking in this area these days is that good relationships hit rough spots from time to time, but they generally do not take a lot of work
2006-09-11 11:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by tfrileypd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus... although it's tripe it is, in a curious, accidental sort of way, insightful.. (John Grey wrote it, I think, John some thing, anyway). It'll make you laugh and possibly cry by turns, however you have a personality problem... You're letting him rule your decision making and dominate your better judgement.
Take a few days... don't write him off just yet and re think your relationship..
What attracted you to him in the first place?.. play to your strengths here.. give him space and perhaps there's something to be salvaged.
Rule of thumb:
Never slam a door when you're in a revolving one... it never works out the way you intended..
(Yikes! Where did that come from??)
2006-09-11 12:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its been said that money is the root of all evil.......... so which is it?
Think back to some of his mood swings. Are during times when you have made decisions that didn't include him or you made purchases that he didn't or couldn't pay for. ........ In other words he may be on a "ego trip". (Usually seen with financially unstable men dating independent / self sufficient women). Just the same he could be just the opposite he pays for everything, has the last say about everything, never consider your input, etc. As soon as you do something commendable without him, he blows up. (Traits usually found in men with low self esteem).
If he doesn't fit in either of these, "Let him go" ..................... he needs a psycho therapist not a woman.
2006-09-11 11:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay honey-you say he is great and would give you the
world-but he does not give you RESPECT!! Don't asso-
ciate not having a boyfriend with being worthless. He
does not care for you. If he did, he wouldn't treat you
this way. He does not realize that he has a problem and
shifts it around to make you think that you are at fault. Don't
buy into that ignorant thinking. Lose him-you can do better.
2006-09-11 11:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by saint5nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been in a similar situation myself, which didn't actually start happening until I married the guy, then I can tell you to get out of this relationship.
Having done this I felt imense relief and my whole world went from shy, hiding and aggressiveness to fun, fun ,fun. Disco's , nights out, new shoes and clothes without the put downs and boy did I feel great.
I am now happily married and everything is as it should be.
Life is to short to spend on this jerk and there is somebody out there just waiting to treat you right.
2006-09-13 06:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with the guy above me, there must be some reason you got together in the first place, but if the relationship is truly upsetting both of you then it may be in you're best interest to call it quits now before you end up hating each other. In the end honey it's your decision and yours alone, do what you feel is right in you're heart, best of luck and I hope you can work it out together,
ttfn Babs ;o)
2006-09-11 12:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Pan_24 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't need to think twice. Leave him or you will be sorry you made the wrong decision. Believe me, you will be even more miserable if you marry him. Your friends and family will stay away from you because they don't feel comfortable when he is around. When you have kids, your kids will feel ashame when he is in his uncontrollable moodiness, behaving badly in public and shouting at them and you.
So, do you get the picture? Do you want to be sorry for not being able to pull yourself out of this relationship than to appologise to everybody because you made the wrong step.
Good luck! You deserve a better life. It's all in your hands.
2006-09-12 05:56:02 · answer #9 · answered by Noel Yelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be time to think about getting out of the relationship. Everyone has a bad day once in a while...but if he is calling you names and making you feel small all the time, he doesn't deserve to be with you. Not as a boyfriend or as a friend. If you were hanging out with a girl friend and she said that to you, Im sure you wouldn't be friends very long.
2006-09-11 11:47:20 · answer #10 · answered by luckybluebunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋