i am pregnant with my third and in my early 20s and i at least FEEL like i do not want to have any more children after this one comes ( sure it is possible that i might change my mind later in the future )
i think i have the right to say that and it be the final say as well - understandable to think about what the father wants but still...
what is your opinion?
2006-09-11 11:35:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would sit down and discuss it with him. I would not do any form of permanent birth control behind his back though, that could create major problems in your marriage. If you do not feel like you will be ready in the near future, sit down with him and go over birth controls options. That way you are leaving the possiblity open should you want another child down the line
2006-09-11 11:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by CHOCOLATE_SCORP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is up to you, but also keeping the lines of communication up and listening to what your husband has to say on the subject is very important too. Discussing family size before marriage should be improtant. Dh and I settled on 4-6 kids and when suprise blessing #5 came sooner than expected I was more than UNready. Now we have 6 and I am wanting 2 more and Dh and I have been communicating about this. I mean some days I want more and others I want to get rid of the ones I already have, roflol!
Pregnancy is definitly not the time to be discussing more children. You should definitely wait until after you have this one and even a few months if not years as things and feeling will change over time.
Good Luck!
2006-09-11 18:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by slingnmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have absolute power in deciding whether you have another child or not. He may be very upset about it, but that's his problem. He really has no right to demand another child from you.
Consider the opposite situation - you want another kid and he doesn't. How would he feel if you insisted on making him give you another kid?
Of course, you may have to consider the possiblity that the man may leave you because you refuse to have another child. It is his right to want more children, just as it is yours to say when you've had enough of them.
I hope you find a guy who's happy with your decision and whom you won't have to fight over it :)
2006-09-11 18:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is impossible to compromise on something like this, I suggest that you concede to the more conservative side...which is to say, in favor of NOT doing something.
2006-09-11 18:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it should be a joint discision you should both sit down and discust the reasons why you want more or why you dont want more maybe when you both give your reasons it would help you decide
2006-09-11 18:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by jennifertrinitysky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the Dr. to tie your tubes and keep it to yourself.
2006-09-11 18:41:43 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's why we have birth-control pills.. it's your body and you have a right to have total control over it.
2006-09-11 18:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say Sure honey. . . you can have the next one! ok?
2006-09-11 18:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by smurfee68 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋