My bf and I have had a really ruff ride but we really love each other a lot & want to get married & start a family, however my mom hates him. What can I do?
2006-09-11 11:33:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you trust each other for life? Do you want to support him in his ambitions and vice versa? Your mom would come to love him if he treats you good, and you are happy. Don't cut of contact with her. Is your man willing to keep an open mind about her? If you really trust this man and want to have him as your partner for life then everything should fall in place with time.
2006-09-11 11:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by tiger30 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your mother! My wife's mother hated her first husband. He ended up cheating on her, and the marriage didn't last 2 years before they divorced. Her mother likes me, and we have been married for 20 years. A "rough ride" probably means you don't have great communication and/or one or both of you are immature. Even if you decide you're going to marry this guy, wait until you iron out the roughness. What is OK today, tempered by the excitement of love hormones, may not be OK 3, 5, or 7 years down the road when the infatuation has worn off.
2006-09-11 11:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can see it working, and can live with him, then get married.
But why not wait a year first before starting a family? Don't you guys deserve a break & some time & money to spend on each other?
At least enjoy some time out first! If it all works out longterm, your Mom will want to meet her grandchildren & will back down. But don't rush into being a parent. Sometimes that only means being so tired that you could sleep standing up!
2006-09-11 11:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by WomanWhoReads 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to follow your own heart... you're the one who would have to live with your boyfriend for the rest of your life if you ended up marrying him (and didn't end up getting divorced). Mom often knows best, even though we sometimes want to believe otherwise. She only wants you to be happy, I'm sure. Perhaps you should wait and see how things are going with your boyfriend a year from now before making any permanent decision. There is no need to rush into marriage. I know people who were together for YEARS before tying the knot. Time will tell if you should proceed to marriage.
Best wishes.
2006-09-11 11:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you to have been ruff then want for a while don't rest into it cause marriage is forever but if you love him and want to start a family go for it and if your mother don't like that it's okay it's your life she will have to accept him anyway
2006-09-11 11:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by Scooby_doo06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. My mom didn't like my boyfriend either. But, I loved him sooo much, I didn't care what she thought. So, about a month ago, we went to Vegas and got married. I don't know if it was the right decision, but we're happy. My mom has dealt with it and is trying to help us out however she can. Just think long and hard about why your mom doesn't like him. She may be right. But, she may be wrong. In my case, my mom didn't like him for very stupid reasons. Remember, it's your life and you make your own decisions. I wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-09-11 11:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by Damon ♥ Elena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh you have a tough situation there, you know i use to have a boyfriend that my mom and dad hated, but there i was sticking to him because i thought i was in love, what i was, was blind, so i couldn't see all the bad things that my parents didn't see, i didn't want to open my eyes, but i was only with him for a few months, nothing to extreme. im just glad someone made me open my eyes in time. but you know maybe your mom doesn't like him for a reason, maybe you should have a talk with her and ask her why she doens't like him, maybe she can make you realize something, or maybe she won't. if you have been with this guy for a very long time, and you don't see why she wouldn't like him, then follow your heart honey, if you truly love this guy and you're ready to go through an even tougher road, then go for it, but if not, think about it a little more, before you make that decision. :) best of luck!
2006-09-11 11:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by Pirata!! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough one to answer because we don't know your age, but as a general rule if you are like 24 and under I would heed your Moms advise because at that point she has more experience in these matters but if you are 24 and over and you have enough reason to marry him then go ahead because it;s a strong possability your mother might not like just because not to be liking him and you would have the experence to tell if marriage would be the way to go or not
2006-09-11 11:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by primetimekj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your mom. If she hates him, there is a reason for it. Sit down, talk to your mother, and find out why she despises him so much. Then examine him yourself. Is this the man that you want to spend the rest of your life with?
2006-09-11 11:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mom's try to help you listen to her besides how old are you? you may be to young to get marry dont make a mistake let your mind guide you and lets not think with the heart
2006-09-11 11:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by Katze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋