he broke up with me over the baby?

Question

i'm 16 and pregnant i was not careless nor am i some reckless teen i'm human i make mistakes any way my boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want to be a father. i never wanted this baby and i don't want to kill him/her.

Answer 1

Just have the police show up at his door for statutory rape. Then, you serve him with an injuction that he has to pay for child support for the next 18 years.

Answer 2

You two didn't make a mistake. You two made a choice. Notice, I said "you two" not just "you".

If you do not want this baby and have no desire to be a mother, do not want to go through abortion, then should look into adoption.

As far as he goes, if you decide to keep this child either 1) you have him sign full rights if he has no desire to be a "father" or 2) file child support if he declines to sign rights away.

He can say he doesn't want to be the father and 2 years down the road he says "Yeah, going to go be one now to this child". You know what, he has a right to the child even though this child has no clue who he is. It happens ALL THE TIME. Back in the Los Angeles Times August 12th of 1993, this very case happened, expect the child was given to adoptive parents and the father protested to get his son of 2 years of age he has never seen. He got custody and full rights since he never "knew" he had a child up til that point.

Need to learn from "mistakes" and make sure it is a learning experience. Not a repetitive pattern.

Answer 3

Just let him know that he will be paying for his decision later. Be a strong woman and take care of that baby. When you have the baby, have him take a paternity test when it shows that its his baby, hit him with child support. By law he has to pay it no matter what or he goes to jail. But, at the same time don't worry, he's probably a little shocked to find out about the pregnancy and over-reacted, give it some time to settle with him then try talking to him again. If he still won't budge, tell him that your going to stick him with child support for the next 18 years of his life. Abortion is not the way to go, because it's not the child's fault that it was conceived, adoption is an option but that can put a huge strain on the child because he/she will always feel half-whole which can mentally impair him/her. But at the end of the day, the decision is up to you. good Luck!

Answer 4

Well first of all, i'm not going to scold you about you having se*x at such an early, it was a mistake, (just an more elabrate mistake)we all have mistakes, you just should have thought about it. I'm so sorry to hear that your boyfriend is being so cruel he's a complete jerk. I'm glad that you're deciding not to get an abortion, i truely admire that. Well I say that you should keep the baby your parents will help you through it and hopefully you'll never make that mistake again, you probably learned your lesson from this, a very hard lesson but a good one. I'm truly think you need to keep that baby that would be awesome if you did!! Well good luck (say away from that complete jerk....your ex) i'll keep you in my thoughts. I think your best way to go is to find a loving & caring family to care for your son/daughter, you're too young to loose your freedom, when you have a baby you loose it all, can't do anything.

Answer 5

ADOPTION, ADOPTION, ADOPTION

I have had 3 children and ALL of them I gave up for adoption because neither I nor my husband were ready for children at the time. It is a great option for unwanted or unplanned pregnancies. I reccomend Open Adoptions as you will still be allowed photos and contact with the families at their discretion only. I reccoment Mark Widelock he did all three of my adoptions and so easy and fun to get along with and they offer alot of coping with the adoption help. Also his families are very much into keeping contact with the birth mother.

On the other hand if you keep the baby. The father has a legal responsibility and will have to pay child support etc regardless.

It is hard and depends really on the person about adoption but I did it and its a huge blesisng to give something so sacred to someone who can't make one of their own mostly because of medical conditions they were born with. AND they can NEVER take away the fact that it is your child regardless of what the future has.


http://www.thestork.com/contact.html

there is the link to Marc Widelock's adoption website. He works with birth mothers and potential families all over the usa.

Answer 6

Whether you wanted a baby or not, you have one, and your baby is depending on you for love and protection. I'm very glad you don't want to kill your son or daughter! You need to stay strong and not let anyone hurt you or your baby. Remember, no one can force you to abort.

There is plenty of help available for you. Go to a pregnancy care center in your area, and they can give you referrals for financial, medical, and legal assistance, help finding a safe place to stay if you need it, a free ultrasound so you can see your baby (at some centers), pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information, and counseling and emotional support. You can find one near you here:

http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

or by calling 1-800-395-HELP. All of their services are completely free and completely confidential.

Did you know that just three weeks after conception (one week after you miss your period), your baby's heart is already beating? You can read more information about your baby's development and about other aspects of abortion here:

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm

Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Please do whatever it takes to protect your baby. You will never regret it. I am sorry to hear about your boyfriend, but it is better that you found out what kind of a guy is he now rather than later. It sounds like you have your parents' support, and you will be okay.

Answer 7

Do not blame yourself or whatsoever, just do the right thing. Get medical help that you needed and learn from your old relationship. You are young and stay in school. If you plan to keep the baby, good for you but if you give up the baby for adoption this would be the best for now. Easier said than done but, move on, there is no future to stay with the same man.

Please get yourself education.

Answer 8

Hey,

Im also 16 and pregnant . my Boyfriend is 18 yet hes is happy about being a father . I wouldnt go off trying to make your boyfriend happy because by getting rid of your baby . Babies are A blessing . No matter what your boyfriend thinks . Maybe when he sees the baby he will change his mind they are very easy to love , He might not think he wants one now but wait until he gives it some thought . and actually sees the baby when he/she arrives . Think of whats right for you AND Your Unborn Child .. dont worry about him . until later on

Answer 9

the way i read your question is that
the father didnt want the baby and your confused as to wat to do
you need to speak to your parents and ask for there opinion
i dont like abortions but its upto you
your parents can also become legal gaurdians of the baby if you cant look after it untill you are ready to become a mum.
and yes there is adoption there are plenty of families out there that just arent complete because the couples cannot get preganent that will love your child like your own.
you are only young and your bf might come to terms with the fact that your having a baby or he may not either way its upto you whether you want to be a mum or not
dont let anyone pressure you into doin something you dont want to.
good luck and once again talk to your parents and your doctor

Answer 10

Honey just because he don't want to be around you can keep your baby is it part of you too. U both layed down with no protection he knows what can happen just as well as you do. You don't have to have an abortion or give ur baby up for adoption. forget him. your baby will be loved by you. and if u need support file for child suppost he will not have a choice in that he will have to pay. talk to ur parents please...dont give the baby away it is apart of you....

Answer 11

Without judgment or comment about your readiness for parenthood, here is a telephone number you might want to call: 1-866-942-3678
The agency is the Adoption Network Law Center.