Before my husband and I got married, we broke up for three-four months. And I was seeing this guy, that I really feel for. I don't love this guy, I don't know him that well. But I do know that he treated me better than my husband does. I just seen this guy a week ago, and I had this awsome feeling, and a wonderful time with him. (no sex, I wouldn't cheat on my husband) I can't get this guy out of my mind. I feel stuck and like I'm in the wrong feeling for someone and I just got married. And I know this guy feels the same as I do. This is really stressing me out and its causing depression. Please give me some good advice!! Should I call for a seperation, so I can get to know this guy???
2006-09-11 10:44:50 · 8 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think your husband is going to be too happy about a separation so that you can get to know someone else. Then what? You find out that this guy is not who you thought he was and you want your husband to take you back? It's not going to work that way. Sounds to me like your not happy at all in your marriage, so why not give your husband his freedom. I'm sure he doesn't want to be married to someone who is thinking about being with someone else. My advice is too put your energy into your marriage and forget about this guy. OR if your not happy in the marriage then ask your husband for a divorce. No sense in staying with someone your not happy with.
2006-09-11 11:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how some people like u decide to get married to someone when you're not really ready to, then come on this board asking questions like this. Do u even know what marriage is all about in the first place? And for that matter, how do u know this "other" guy will treat u better than your husband in the long run, since u didn't even know him for that long?
U only have 2 choices. Either u stay in the marriage and make it work or u tell the man u gave your VOWS to that u are in love with someone else and give him the decency of a divorce because he doesn't deserve to be married to someone like u because the way I see it, u don't even have a damn clue what u want.
2006-09-11 10:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long did you know your husband b/4 marrying him.....and how long have you known this new man ??? The reason why I am asking is because.. you say this guy treats you better than your husband..... sweetie....remember..... the "courting", 'honeymoon phase is always great, and dandy.... but you don't really know someone until after ayear or so....and even then...you are still finding out new things about the one you are with. I say ... stick with your husband... you married him for a reason ... he makes you happy to some point.... (if not.. you would not have gotten back with him.. after the 3-4month breakup. You don't really know this other man.. only that you have a good time with him. He may change after a few months,, or even years. Leave that in the past. Good Luck
2006-09-11 10:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear... there is some reason you got back with your husband (fiance at the time) and chose to marry him rather than stick with this other great guy. My suggestion would be for you to focus on your marriage for a couple of years. Set any desires you have for this other on the shelf for now. You may just find that the man you are married too is wonderful!
2006-09-11 10:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? You went ahead and got married to someone even though you have feelings for someone else. I'm sorry but you put yourself in that situation and no one can answer that but you. I dont understand people. Just because you didnt have sex with him doesnt mean you didnt cheat. If you have feeling for this guy and spent time with him that was wrong. You dont seem mature enough to be married in the first place. Marriage is different from dating. I'm sorry if this offends you but thats just how I feel.
2006-09-11 10:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lucille 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him.
Really, that's my advice...
You just committed your life to someone else, and I know it's scary but that means you need to let go of this guy and your feelings for him.
You married your husband because you thought it would last forever... Right now you are emotionally cheating. It is not fair to him, and you need to stop.
2006-09-11 10:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by princessin_bluejeans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people get married like this. Get the marriage annulled until you can figure out what the heck you want out of life.
2006-09-11 10:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the HELL did you get married????
It's too late now--work on making your married relationship better and FORGET other guys.
Sheesh............
2006-09-11 10:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋