There's an emptiness that just wont go away. I have the "blues" in my heart at all times.......I love my only son, but I cannot get over losing the younger brother or sister for him. And my husband "says" he wants kids.....but here I am nearly 10 years after we got together and still no kids. he doesn't want to adopt......I do, could, would, etc.......I am adopted myself......................
2006-09-11 10:36:15 · 5 answers · asked by sred 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Doctors say I can get pregnant again and others say because I have cyst, it would be hard, but I am able....husband says yes, lets have kids...but I really think that he doesn't want them...he wont go to get checked out and got very upset with me when I inquired about adoption. I feel doomed at times and have a slight resentment towards him.
2006-09-11 10:49:04 · update #1
Do not let this get between you and your husband, I know how frustrating wanting to have a baby is and not being able to, but the most important thing is not to let this destroy your marriage. I bet you it is as frustrating for you as it is for him and you too are trying to get it out of your chests attacking the other or disagreeing with the other. This is something you should work together.
Loosing someone is never easy, but you have to let them go sometime, LET IT GO. Let it rest, think about it as something that happened in your life, it will never be back again so you should fill that emptiness with love for the ones that you do have. If the doctor say that you can indeed concieve but it might take some time then try these websites, I found them when I was trying to conceive and got pregnant in 2 months. www.preseed.com, www.early-pregnancy-tests.com www.fertilefocus.com
2006-09-11 11:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister went through a miscarriage that occurred at 16 weeks. She had counseling to help her with her loss. Then about three years later she had another baby. She said that losing the baby was the hardest thing she had ever gone through. If you can get counseling, that would most likely be helpful. Your husband needs to be more supportive and understanding. The slight resentment you feel could grow and grow to extreme hatred if he doesn't get on board and help you with this. I think you really need to talk to him and express how important this is. It's your life too. Having another baby whether through adoption or naturally could help you with the grieving process, but in the meantime it would be good to get into counseling, perhaps a bereavement group.
2006-09-11 18:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have lost 2 children my son is now 18 1/2 i know i will never be able to have another child so i am going to adopt we have a meeting in DEC.
have you both tried counseling.
perhaps your husband feels under pressure that i may be his fault or something like that, if he feels this way how could he hurt the one he loves you.
he may be frightened to lose another baby or even worse to lose you.
he may not want to see these things break your heart as he knows it will hurt you, so even though he may want a child he does not want to lose you in the process.
2006-09-11 20:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by tracey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear you never fully get over losing a child, but keep your head up high and keep tring..have you been to the doc yet?
2006-09-11 17:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by browneyedbabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep trying, there's ways! I feel bad for you but I know there's other ways.You'll know in your heart!
2006-09-11 17:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by amylr620 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋