ok.here's the problem.there's this guy in my college & i'm new there,he's not.he's the only guy i haven't talked with still.
apparently he hadn't had much luck with girls & he had told my friends that he's 'kind of laying off girls for the time being".anyone got any tips on how to start talking to him without making it too obvious?my friends have this idea abt inviting us to a conference online & then signing off,leaving us to do the talking so that it won't feel too awkward at school...will that work or are there any better strategies?
p.s.he's not in any of my classes,i see him only at break but he's coming to this youth group thing in church which i'll probably attend as well
usually,i'm a very outgoing person,but in this situation the problem is that i started liking him before talking to him...
thanks for all your suggestions.really appreciate it :)
2006-09-11 10:15:55 · 5 answers · asked by hu_ru_anyway 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
"but in this situation the problem is that i started liking him before talking to him..."
...ah to be young again....
How does a person start having feelings for another person & they have never even spoken?
2006-09-11 10:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by carl l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start out as friends. My fiance' and I started out as friends and that helped us to get to know each other without all the relationship pressure. The youth group thing is a great idea. Hanging out in groups for awhile is always a great idea! Plus you have some more people around to help take pressure off of both of you. Have fun and Good Luck! I hope you make a new friend.
2006-09-11 17:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kellybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just my opinion but I have a guy who is 7 years younger and we have been together over 11 years---first of all you just have to be friends--that is the basis of all relationships/knowing the person. Spend your time just being you and not pushy in anyway--maybe you guys could have a litlle chat together at the youth group and just get to know each other--you are young take your time and enjoy learning to know people.
2006-09-11 17:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by THTH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat him as a friend. It will make conversation a whole lot more comfortable and whatever happens after that will be all that much better because you started off as friends. Take the pressure off yourself. If he was just a friend, you woulnd't be afraid to approach him to treat him that way.
2006-09-11 17:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by www.spcoins.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to see if you can find him in a position where he might need a little help, that wouldn't make him feel emasculated in any way. Helping someone, especially a stranger, is the best way to make a new friend.
2006-09-11 17:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by rallsjc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋