My husband and I have been separated for 5 months we have not filed for divorce or discussed it and this past weekend he finally visited with his 3 year old daughter. His sister called me and asked if he could see her and I agreed. He hasn't seen her for so long because of pending domestic violence charges that now have been dropped. I have asked his sister to have my husband give me a call so we can discuss visitation for our daughter. His sister says that he doesn't want to argue with me that is why she is calling for him. My husband is known to have a temper but I told his sister that we are both adults and it has been awhile already and we need to talk about visitations. She understood and said that she would have him call me that night. He didn't call last night so I called again this morning and his sister was nice and said that he was at breakfast and that she would tell him to call. Why is he avoiding me? What does he want me to think or do? Please help me understand.
2006-09-11 10:11:40 · 7 answers · asked by September 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CHARGES HAVE BEEN DROPPED. NOTHING PENDING HE IS CLEAR.
2006-09-11 10:23:12 · update #1
If there are pending charges against him for domestic violence, it would be incredibly stupid for him to contact you in any way.Once the charges are dropped or some sort of resolution is come to, then you can worry about visitation. Go through his sister, and see if there can be some sort of arrangement made for visitation until the suit is resolved.
2006-09-11 10:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of looks from here as though you're trying to get blood out of a turnip. My suggestion would be to communicate in whatever manner you can. If someone committed domestic violence, he is, at least at times, not in control of himself. Who knows what goes through his head? Does it make a difference as to why he is avoiding you? The fact is that apprently, for whatever reason, he is avoiding you. If he can be trusted to visit with his daughter, I'd urge you to talk with the sister.
BTW, you didn't ask for this, but as one who's seen the damage of domestic violence, I hope to high heaven there were good and sound reasons for dropping the charges. Reasons such as he's in therapy. Most perpetrators of such acts don't stop until they are stopped.
2006-09-11 17:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, could you be anymore soft and pathetic. Pending domestic violence charges, known to have a temper, you should be so lucky he is staying away. Are you going to wait until he really hurts you or your innocent child before you do something. Please, please seek some counseling from an abuse specialist. This is so sad.
2006-09-11 17:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child should see her father. You filed charges. He will never willingly deal with you. If he has violent tendencies he probably does not want to bring them out by talking to you.
2006-09-11 17:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dv or domestic violence charges dropped but he may blame you for something even though he may or may not admit it. suggest try family counseling or file for your safety and you daughter to know her father. try counseling first.
2006-09-11 22:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
was he abusing you or someone else an abuser is an abuser
I would be careful , if he can't talk to me about OUR children he wouldn't see them,his sister wasn't there when you conceived was she ,you are going to have to communicate ,he 's been away 5 months ,do you want him to think you have nothing else on your plate but his leftovers ,life is to short , You need to make some decisions about your future
2006-09-11 17:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are a very lucky women. Most likely he is staying away from you and ignoring you because his attorney has told him to do that. CONSIDER THIS A BLESSING IN DISGUISE.
2006-09-11 17:24:01 · answer #7 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋