how do i get my wife to tell the truth?

Question

i have been married for 10yrs,have a 6yr old son by my wife a daughter by my first wife. week before valentines,my daughter told me she saw my wife go in a hotel with another guy.valentines day,i found email telling her freind about meeting a guy at work! i confronted her with the letter,she said it was ment for me to find to make me jealous! yet it had a guys name and age on it. icalled where she works ,low and behold the dude worked there! she said that was a freak deal,she had made up the name? the next morning she dropped her phone on the steps on the way to work,i picked it up,seen a number and dialed it. the voice mail had his name on it! ,i checked phone bills, dang at the calls to him and her ex in florida! which by the way had sent her emails,and her,him to come pick her up for the weekend! the guy here confessed me,and his wife!he gave a hotel bill that matches what hotel my daughter told about. he described her under cloth perfect! we are trying,but she still denies it .

i make 2000.00 a week,we are trying to work it out,she say shes sorry quiet often! says she went through some midlife crisis! any,since then she has done nothing wrong,she is with me,pretty much 24/7 (her choice) now she works for me. she works because she is board. i do love my wife,but i need the truth from her mouth! if not i will allways think she is lying!

Answer 1

She will never admit it because she will lose too much by admitting adultry.So,until you catch them red faced then there's not much you can do.She is denying it cuz,she not sure of the other guy,yet and you could get her for committing adultry in a court of law.She will lose everything.Even her dignity.

Answer 2

I know you're just wanting a confession from her but don't bother trying to get your wife to confess as people who cheat lie until they're blue in the face. What other evidence do u need? U already KNOW she's cheating on u. U have all the facts to back it up. Instead of wasting your time trying to get her to tell u the truth, spend that time planning on what you're going to do next. Do u leave or do u stay?

Answer 3

I have an ex who continually lied about a particular situation(s) when I confronted him with it also. I was calm and more than once almost begged him to just tell me the truth! I prayed and prayed about the situation, even told him he was already forgiven I just needed to hear the truth, instead of all of his make believe crap! Even through the birth of his and his girlfriend's first child, he lied. he did not come clean till way after our divorce, & only then because life was not cracked up to be what he thought it was going to be. When he did tell me most of the truths, I looked him straight in the eyes and told him I had forgiven him, and that I felt sorry for their children due to the fact that their children had a lying sneak for a dad. Like father like son in his case. Give up on trying to "make" her tell the truth. Start thinking of what is best for you and the children involved, and get busy taking care of that! Do NOT try to get even with her, it is not worth losing all of your self-worth that will forever be lost in doing so, and she is not worth losing the respect & love your children have for you!! Seek God, your pastor, your best friend, a family counselor, an attorney. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself & your children emotionally, physically, mentally. These things should be your first and only concern, other than having an aids test done.

Answer 4

The facts speak for themselves. Many times we are inclined to give others the benefit of the doubt beyond all reasoning. I think there is no doubt here, my friend. She is cheating. Cheaters are liars, so it makes perfect sense she would continue lying to you about it, even though all facts say otherwise. Now, you just have to decide what you are going to do about it.
Good luck

Answer 5

what can I say that doesn't make me look like an insensitive witch, and doesn't make you look like a dopey moron?

Why does you wife have to work in the first place? Is it because you don't protect her financially? How about emotionally? Physically? Maybe the problem is you, and you're blaming your wife for your inadequate ability to be a man.

I know, I'm an insensitive ***** for saying that. But I say similar things to women who rag on and on about a cheatin husband.

Answer 6

You don't need the truth. You have it and don't want to face it. You need to figure out how to deal with a wife who isn't faithful. How are you going to take care of those kids? THAT'S the only question that needs to be answered. You know what you need to do about the woman.

Answer 7

This is obvious. She's cheating - and you know it! She's not "accidentally" leaving her phone, notes, etc. She is doing it on purpose because she doesn't have the guts to be honest and tell you she wants out. She wants you to do the dirty work so she can blame you. "He just dumped me. I am blameless. He's the bad guy." For this reason alone you should get rid of her. She is pond scum - no, that is too good for her.

Answer 8

Dude, get some balls. She is working you over it is pathetic. I am embarrassed to be a man, with the likes of you around. Kick her cheating *** to the curb. Who cares what she tells you, she's going to continue to lie to you cheat on you. What a piece of work. Dump her and be a man for once.

Answer 9

Are you really this much of a spineless moron ???????? Kick the whore out of the house and divorce her !!!! She can't even admit the truth, how in the hell do you EVER plan on trusting her again ????

Grow some balls !

Answer 10

You already asked this question - what happened? You get tired of people telling you your wife is a lying whore? Divorce the woman....