2006-09-11 10:10:06 · 17 answers · asked by skoobydoosmom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and kids are againt seeing him
2006-09-11 11:10:22 · update #1
He can take you to court. The best way is through the courts anyway.
2006-09-11 10:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is already a contact order in place, if you fail to obey it you will be in contempt of court. Although theoretically you can go to prison for this, the court would not want to do this unnecessarily. Realistically, it might have a negative effect on your future dealings with the court over your children. You want to be seen to be reasonable and co-operative, and to be promoting positive contact between the children and their father.
Ask your husband for assurances that he will not drink or be under the effects of alcohol while the children are in his care. If you make an application to the court through your solicitor (and this may qualify for legal help and/or exemption from court fees) then it may be possible to corner him into making a binding undertaking to the court regarding his use of alcohol while looking after the children. If he then breaches that undertaking he is in contempt of court and you would be entitled to return to the court and ask for contact to take place e.g. only under supervision by either trustworthy relatives or at a designated contact centre.
2006-09-12 05:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can take you to court to gain access. If it does go down that road you will need proof that he was a drunk around the kids, any abusive behaviuor that he might have shown you. It may sound harsh but it will save your kids from being in contact from an unsavoury character. Most times kids do need a father figure, but they need a strong role model not a drunkard.
2006-09-11 17:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat as you. He needs his access and visitation denied. Drunks are impossible to reason with. Even when their sober, you can't reason with them. They REALLY don't think that they have a problem. Talk to your attorney and have his visitation limited until he can show some kind of proof that hes tring to seek help for himself. You will probably have to go up for a hearing and the judge will (more the likely) order him to go to AA meetings. This is what needs to happen, anyway. Do you want your kids to have to grow up with a slobbering drunk father, no. Your obviously too intelligent for that. But you can't just sit back and do nothing.
2006-09-11 17:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by stephanierudder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will save your kids from a whole lotta heartache - a no-good parent whether its the mum or dad can be very damaging to a child and can affect them well into their adult life.
If you have the strength to be the mum AND dad and all that entails then you're better off alone and its better to be self sufficient than to put the fate of yourself and your kids in the hands of someone who cannot be a man and cannot provide the emotional support you and the kids need.
Good Luck xxxx
2006-09-11 17:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by clairejoolz78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he would go to court to apply for access. for the sake of the kids you could agree to supervised access but only if he has not been drinking when he visits. perhaps for a couple of hours one morning before he has had time to get loaded
2006-09-11 17:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he can take you to court and the courts will make you let him see the kids. But when he does that you need to tell the judge why you are doing what you are doing and ask the judge to make his visitations supervised until he decides to straighten up.
2006-09-11 17:18:36 · answer #7 · answered by jeter2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should deny him access, however I think his access should be in your home and only if he is sober. I understand that it must be difficult for you but you must swallow your pride and make it a pleasant experience for your children, if you don't your children may grow up with psychological problems. I wish you all the best wishes.
2006-09-11 18:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have the right to deny a child access to a parent. Sorry.
2006-09-11 17:34:35 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him take you to court that way he has to cover the costs.
if theres alcohol abuse the judge might insist on supervised visits, after all a child deserves the right to both parents even if the circumstances aren't ideal. x
2006-09-11 17:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by Girl From Mars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he can take you to court but at the same time you can go to court and say you dont think he is fit to be in charge of your children and he has to clean up his act before he gets access and then with supervision.
2006-09-13 18:31:37 · answer #11 · answered by smiler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋