Any advice you can give me would be helpful. My husband has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend, and he has been hiding it from me. I recently found out and now he will not even talk to me about the issue at hand.
To make matters even worse, we currently are living in two seperate states due to work related issues. His Ex fortantly does not live in the same state as him which I feel is my only saving grace. I believe that cheating can be just more then sex, I believe he is cheating on me at an emotional level. I just do not even know if it is worth the pain and heartache anymore!!
I would really apperciate any advice thanks!!
2006-09-11 09:51:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I personally define cheating as hiding something from your partner. Whether it is drugs, gambling, sex, or emotional who cares. It is about trust. He does not deserve yours. Tell him to come clean, stop his contact, and you'll give him one more chance. If he protests at all, dump him. You need to control this, not him.
2006-09-11 09:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word "hiding" sticks out like a red spot on white pants during that time of the month. He shouldn't be hiding anything. How did you find out??? From his mouth or from someone elses? That is the first clue. If he had the guts to tell you, it means more than someone else telling you. You already show that you don't trust him because of what you say here, and without trust, do you really want to continue like this?? It's totally your call here, but I can just see by your writing that you know this isn't right you just want support on your thoughts. It isn't right to hide and lie about things in an everyday relationship, especially a marriage. I'd talk to him face to face when you get the chance.
2006-09-11 09:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by Rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, be sure of the facts. If your husband won't talk to you then start asking around about both of them. Call her and ask her, do not accuse her just ask her. Sooner or later you will find out what you need to know, though it is better to hear it from him. It sounds like he is guilty to me, but I cannot say for sure. Once you have some facts you can confront him. If he is not willing to talk to you make it hard on him and start preparing for the worst. Do things that will help him understand that you are serious. Start packing his things, dividing your assets (in your favor), looking for room mates, going out with friends. The last thing you need to do is, do not cause any unrepairable damage if there is any hope in this relationship. If there is none just call an attorney.
2006-09-11 10:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by BeenThere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW that's hard. I cheated on en emotional level. I believe it's worse.Work together if you want to save it. I believe you need to communicate with your spouse on how you want to continue your relationship be honest let him exactly how you feel and what you want from him. How do you know these things for sure?? Can you guys meet in the middle??
2006-09-11 09:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear your going through a tough time,
Please dont stay with someone you know is cheating, This is nt good for you, or your health, you will stress yourself out to no end, Is it that your afraid to be alone and you dont want to get rid of him, because no one deserves to feel this way, not knowing what hes doing or blah blah blah...
You now how it goes, leave him, you'll find someone who is there for YOU! and only you, the one who is in love and you will know its right when it comes, and its not right now!
GOOD LUCK AND TAKE CARE!
2006-09-11 10:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by crystald 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks when that happens. i believe cheating is more than just sex too. try talking to the ex-girlfriend to see if anything is going on. he might have some of his close buddys maybe you could ask one of them if they know whats going on. if it were me i would tell him that i would like to talk about this with you.
2006-09-11 10:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by vickie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should tell him straight up and if he doesnt want to tlk bout it he prolly is cheating just move on youre worth it
2006-09-11 09:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by kwi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face this head on - don't get angry. be assertive. Her or you. His bit of excitement or his stable family life with you. I think he will select you - if you still want him. if you have to punish him - make it quick and painful! lol
2006-09-11 09:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mike10613 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you think he is cheating, tell him your suspicions and give him an ultimatum.. failing that, file for divorce or separation and let him get on with it and you get yourself some too.. :D
2006-09-11 09:55:53 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
our sex life ran out of gas.
2006-09-12 02:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋