I have 3 kids and was with this girl maybe 11 years . We broke up 1 year ago and this year we got back to gether and living together . I still continue to pay child support and she went further with filling for divorce , But let me tell you this is the first time that i can say that the sex is amazing and I love having her as a partner ? is that dumb ..
2006-09-11 09:49:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not dumb at all. But uh, why the divorce? Sounds like you're doing pretty good together.
2006-09-11 09:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the million dollar question, do you love her, or just love having her as a live-in intimate partner? I don't have to tell you that it takes more than just having great chemistry with someone, or great sex to have a really strong healthy relationship;however it does make for a really really great start. Maybe you should keep an open mind, enjoy what is going on between the two of you and give this relationship time to develop if it is going to. Even if the divorce goes through, it doesn't mean you can't get married again in the future if you decide that's what you want to do. For the sake of your children, and because it is what's best for the two of you, give it time to develop and don't complicate things by worrying about anything legal. Good luck to you both, you actually sound happy, and that's a great beginning...
2006-09-11 12:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your priorities are a little out of whack.
If you have 3 kids with this woman then that should be the reason you want to get back with her. Aren't your children your higher purpose? Don't they give you a reason to go on? Doesn't making their lives better fill you with joy?
Who cares about who she is, the sex, whether she's fat, or anything like that - you have 3 children, dude, and it's time to get back together with her for your kids.
And you'd better get your butt in gear fast, especially if she's filing. If you're not divorced now and you get back together there's a lot less paperwork involved.
2006-09-11 09:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is secretly laughing at you and getting "booty call from you". Women always blame men for only thinking about sex, but then they "exploit" that male characteristic, to acquire material things. You are being had, used, etc. If she is going to have you pay all of these supports and divorce you while "drugging you with her Bush Country", then you are dumb, to allow it to go on!
2006-09-11 10:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that she didn't come back to get more out of you?.. sex is good now because she is not going to be tied to you with paper work and.. I thought if you have sex with someone before the divorce is final it voids the divorce.
2006-09-11 09:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dumb!
ok ok , let's say she doesnt give you sex again, would you still be loving her as a partner?!
For the record. Let's just hope that you married her because you knew eachother well as to think of a future and family not because the sex was great.
DumbAss haha
2006-09-11 09:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by Wpns T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it dumb................. But I will say she's ***'n you real good ................... "and I meant that both ways"!
All of a sudden she gives you "AMAZING SEX", Either she was holding out the past 11 years or in your absences she got regular visits from the "Butcher".
The child support is your obligation, but the soon to be alimony........... well consider it "sex for hire"
2006-09-11 10:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking if that is dumb?? YES...Good the children have Dad in their life. Did you cheat?? Why are you getting divorced? Not enough info to help..sorry.
2006-09-11 09:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by sassilass06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would be dumb of you. History always repeats itself and is there any reason for you to believe that it would work out this time? Get on with your life!!! Sex isn't everything.
2006-09-11 09:52:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something man we make our own mistakes in life and that's something we all just have to do so do it and see but either just deal it's not dumb i dont think it's what we do if we were meant to be perfect we would be gods..
Well if you love her whats stoping you arent you tired of other people telling you what to do...
2006-09-11 09:58:52 · answer #10 · answered by rm4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋