Back in June, I had a one night stand with my sisters boyfriend. Well, I was drunk and we slept together. The next day he told her and she kicked him out and he "moved in" with me. Not what I wanted, I mean, this was a drunken mistake but anyway, I accepted what I had done. So, two days later, I convinced him to move home. She took him back and has basically forgiven us. (Btw, she is 4 months prego now too). Well, my sister and I are very very close and we spend almost every moment together. The problem is that her boyfriend wants us to be sumthing on the side. (My boyfriend of 3 yrs also took me back in June, thank god) I am NOT interested and I dont know how to get him to leave me alone. She works weekends and he hounds me constantly to have sex with him. If i stay home and away from her house, he comes to mine. (My bf also works weekends) I dont wanna piss him or her off by saying sumthing but there is only so long he'll believe I am bleeding from my period. WTF DO I DO?
2006-09-11 09:43:17 · 25 answers · asked by icantbelievehowbadmylifesucks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Relax - this is an easy one...
Rat the f***er out!
Call your sister and calmly and unemotionally explain everything her boyfriend is suggesting, and your reactions. Tell her that you want nothing to do with him and you're beginning to feel threatened.
The rest should take care of itself.
FP
2006-09-11 09:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell everyone involved what is happening. Your boyfriend and your sister deserve to know. And I beleive you should do it in front of this freak who is trying to ruin 4 people's lives. If you don"t get this situation under control, you could be the one to blame if either party finds out (before hand).
Also, know that although she may be mad at you at first, she will appriciate it in the long run and forgive you. Honesty never really hurts anybody (unless they are the scandelous one in question) Remember: Blood is thicker than a peice of replaceable a s s.
2006-09-11 16:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stuck in a very difficult place. Your sis is going to be very emotional (my sis is prego and she is) also, this is kinda a slap in the face. I really think you tell her BF to leave you alon and if not you are going to have to tell her, but you don't want it to come to that. On one hand she needs to know, but on the other it will be a slap in the face and she may not want to believe you. Another thing, if I didn't want a guy around then I would make this clear and would not let him at my place especially if he wanted to have sex with me. You really need to put an end to this. The resolution of the prob is in your hands!! Good Luck
2006-09-11 16:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say sorry I am in a relationship with a special man and I do not do this type of thing to my sister. The first time was a big mistake. If he comes over lock the door and do not answer it. If he continues to bother you get a restraining order to keep him away from you.
2006-09-11 16:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start behaving like an adult and avoiding getting so drunk you can't control yourself. Other then that, you need to tell your currently boyfriend and let him kick your one night stand in the ***. Your sister should know about it too. It's not your fault if this guys a bad egg.
2006-09-11 16:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just tell him that it happened that one time and it will never happen again. You also need to tell your sister what is going on. I understand it is a bad situation since she's pregnant but I'm sure she deserves better. Good luck!
And P.S. Don't ever sleep with you relatives boyfriends again. That is just wrong drunk or not. That is no excuse!
2006-09-11 16:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by jeter2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him this was a mistake and if he doesnt knock it off you will go to your sister and tell her the truth. Get a tape of him coming over so you can prove it is him coming on to you. Besides if he is doing this to you, do you really think he is going to be faithful to her. talk to your boyfriend and get him to help you out.
2006-09-11 16:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by brendagho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your sister a favor... TELL HER THE TRUTH! If he is willing to have a thing with you he's probably doing it with somebody else too. He's a scum and she shouldn't have that type of jerk in her or her babies life. How would she feel if she found out from somebody else that you have been keeping this from her? Think about what is best for everybody.
2006-09-11 16:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you tell your sister, for goodness sake? She needs to know what a scumbum this turkey is. You need to move and not tell him where you've gone and make sure your sister doesn't either. Sexual harrassment may be grounds for a restraining order as well (depending on your state).
2006-09-11 16:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say NO! If you truly aren't interested in him that's all that needs to be said. The fact that you are here asking us what to do shows that you are either slow or interested in him. I hope you have learned to respect your sister and yourself, Just say NO!
Oh yeah and if you really love your sister you will tell her so that she can get rid of the loser now and when/if she does PLEASE don't let him move in with you...geez!
2006-09-11 16:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋