Well it all started when i was friends with 2 woman lets call them a and b anyway a &b use to talk about a woman named c they didnt even know her, well i didnt like that a & b where talking about c so i be friended c and told c what a & b where saying well c went and confronted a&b in front of me and they all made it out like i started the gossiping and they went along with it and they have all become friends and none of them are speaking to me but are rude around me and i really dont know what to do as its really hard to do the school run around all 3 woman, i did say something about c too and than thought that it wasnt like me to say thing about someone i didnt know so decided to stop being friends with a&b and got to know c,anyway we all have bit**ed about eachother and i dont really know what the problem is but they are all happy together not that i want to be apart of it i just want an easy hassle free life and ideas?? or is this really my fault cause i think we all did wrong!!
2006-09-11 09:35:08 · 10 answers · asked by La diva R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is your fault. And what they did is wrong. And not being friends with any of them sounds like a great idea!
So why is it your fault? Because you went behind your "friends backs" to another and though your meaning was admirable, in their eyes you betrayed them. The c person also now sees you as the instigator (shooting the messenger as it were) so you have created a bond. I do not expect the bond to last as a & b will eventually revert to form and c will find out and at that moment she may think of you and realise you were the one telling the truth. But she was not your friend or she would not have brought you into the situation.
This is an old tale and one that is doomed to be repeated by every generation.
Be thankful you are out of the loop.
Find friends with better values and also better self esteem because gossips really only gossip because they have so little to offer of their own.
Good luck
2006-09-11 09:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Fromage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl relationships suck don't they????? Some girls hold such grudges against others and sometimes will forever be that way...Unfortunatly if it is that way they were never true friends. My opinion is this. I think that it was wrong of them to talk bad about this other girl, however I do feel that if you befriended girl C, then you should have talked to Girl A & B about how good of a person girl C is. If you were friends with Girl A & B to begin with they would have welcomed girl C just because you were friends. and never said anything about what Girl A & B said. Now it all backfired on you and you end up with noone. It is alright though you can find better friends. Some times girls were not made to have girl friends. I have nothing but guy friends. All the girls that i have befriended have always stabbed me in the back the minute they get the chance. So i just don't hang with them anymore. Girls are very caddy and they are just not worth my time. I am a very nice person and would walk thru fire for my girl friends but none of them would do that for me. Just be thankful that you found out how they are.
2006-09-11 09:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did do wrong, you judged someone Else's behaviour and repeated what you had been told in confidence by your friends. Just let the dust settle and next time don't take what people say too seriously. they will probably change their minds in half an hour!
2006-09-11 09:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mike10613 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dont want hassle and u want a free Life then that isnt going to happen but to make it easier ,u have to be the better person.Yes ,They were wrong but u were to for gossiping to c so basically u started but now its ur turn to end it. tell them u wont this to end and if they dont stop then basically they r imature for something lk this to make them mad.
2006-09-11 09:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... what a web. It's real simple, you messed up. You should've NEVER told "c" that "a" & "b" were talking about her. Your duty was real simple. You didn't like what they were doing? Then you should've said something to THEM. They like to talk about other people, they'll talk about you too and about each other as well. Next time, find some new friends, unless you like drama.
2006-09-11 09:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by ControVerse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You started it by gossiping to C about what A and B were saying about her. You played with fire and got burned.
2006-09-11 09:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find new friends!!!!! People that dont have the balls to tell someone something to thier face arent very good people to begin with!
2006-09-11 09:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by airgame12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have just left well enough alone. Just because some one else indulges in gossiping you do not have to engage in it to. Your befriending c only added insult to injury.
2006-09-11 09:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by VIKKI S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read this once and made very good sense to me, " great people do great things, good people do good things, little people talk about other people. "
2006-09-11 09:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by ashes_vancouver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have gotten involved i think you got exactly what you asked for in future mind your own
2006-09-11 09:39:13 · answer #10 · answered by angel 36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋