So far, its all been good. No jelousy, we both are smart and trust each other. But where is this going? A collection of expriences to add to the relationship which make us grow, or something else. I think the strong survive, but want to hear from others.
2006-09-11 09:34:11 · 29 answers · asked by Cypher 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just be careful. as long as you truly love an dtrust each other and you've been together for quite some time, it's ok. But there is always the danger of some of you falling in love....again....think about it. If what keeps you together is stong enough, there's little danger of getting burnt. :)
2006-09-11 09:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say yes it will be just a matter of time UN less you both don't care about how you sleep with yes you can say a collection of experiences but not to make you grow . its to make you grow apart from each other ther will come a time whine some body in you er life or you er wife life an say i love you an could just take you or her away from what you both have started be care full of you er choices it just might bit you in the but . stop this while you still can before you both loos what you have lift . yes Strong do survive especially when both of you work together as one . remember you where married to each other not Avery body else
2006-09-11 10:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by TONY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,in my opinion you two will be making a huge mistake unless you don't truly love each other. Nothing undermines a marriage like sharing intimacy with another person! Messing around makes sex seem cheap. Sex was designed for two people to connect souls. If you allow someone into that circle of two, you will never be the same. Sooner or later one of you will be interested in someone else and there goes the marriage. Mark my words. Why don't you two try and get creative with each other? Concentrate on each other instead of bringing in a 3rd, or 4th party?
2006-09-11 12:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by artyspiff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have perverted the union of marriage by taking part or agreeing to this type of behavior.
Marriage is sacred and ordained by God to be honored, beautiful and holy. If you have no concept of the beauty and seriousness of the covenant you made regarding your marriage then here's guessing you could care less that you both (regardless of the consenting factor) are debasing one another by participating in this type of behavior. Clearly you should not have married. What was your point in doing so anyway?
That's so sad... and truly makes no sense.... You both are part of the problem as to why most young people have such an unfavorable view of marriage....
Wow!... How Sad!
2006-09-11 09:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by 247 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This was the wrong place to ask this question. Too many holy rollers here to get an objective answer. Hey, whatever works for you guys. I assume nothing is done in secret. Secrets are what will ruin this for you. Secrets are called cheating. No secrets, no cheating. Sex is fun and is not related to love. You can have sex without love and love without sex. Lots and lots of sucess stories from swingers on swingers sites, it does work, it can work, but it is up to you both to respect each others boundaries, and communicate all issues.
2006-09-11 09:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to play with fire and not get burned is not to touch the fire. Now if you have touched the fire the question should be how badly am I gonna be burned. 1st degree or 4th. One may sting a little bit while the other will charr and destroy. My husband ended up with a 2nd degree and I ended up with the 4th degree.
2006-09-11 14:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by ushouldnoidontplay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving permission to play around can mean alot of things. I would say that allowing your spouse to play around is allowing them to have sex with someone else so where is this going! This seems to me that you are more than likely setting yourself up for failure. Allowing your wife to go to another man for her needs is breaking her need of you! Why would she stay committed to you if she can string you along and still get what she wants from someone else! This may back fire and you wont be getting any anymore!!! Think about it- This is playing with fire and you will get burned!
2006-09-11 09:42:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you get married? What's the point? What you're doing is a total defiance of what marriage means! Even if you both agree to it, it's still adultery, still unfaithfulness, and you're left with empty, broken vows. If it seems okay to the two of you now, it won't in the future. You'll definitely sorrow in the consequences. Sorry to be so negative...
2006-09-11 09:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so if u both love each other u will come to the point where there will be conflict but if there is no more love then u don't care and she dosen't care then u might just get away with doing this for a long time but might just end up seporated any ways ether or this type of thing always comes back to bight u in the *** .
2006-09-11 09:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may be having fun now, what will happen when one of you gets SICK? I dont think it is the thing to do as a married couple.
I know some people think sex is a pass time, however it should be sacred and kept that way. Most of us would like to have our cake and eat it to, however you are responsible for your actions.
2006-09-11 09:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by Brandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋