I've always been really shy. I have a very hard time talking to new people. Even people I've known for a long time, it's difficult to open up and talk to them. It's not that I don't want to talk, its like I'm almost scared to. I hate this. How can I get over this? Or at least be a little less withdrawn from everyone?
2006-09-11 09:13:41 · 14 answers · asked by consumingfire783 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's not that I think people won't talk to me. I just freeze up when I'm around people, and have a very hard time talking. I know what I want to say, I just have a difficult time getting that point across.
2006-09-11 10:26:52 · update #1
Relax and be yourself. This is your personality, which you cannot change, HOWEVER you can modify your behavior. It used to be in any social situation I would be a "stick in the mud" and watch the world go by, then chastise myself for being socially awkward.
The key to getting out of this was to associate with like minded people who had the same interests as mine. We held a party and I was amazed at how I blended in. Since then I have never been shy around new people.
So find an on line forum or group about a subject or hobby you really enjoy, or find a local club that caters to your interest. There are millions of such groups!
Not knowing your age, might I suggest a public speaking course? They are great at building confidence and self-esteem.
Good luck to you!
2006-09-11 09:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by Frogface53 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I used to have the same problem. I guess that shyness can be linked with social anxiety. Perhaps you're scared of what people will think of you. Maybe you're scared that if you open up to someone, they may reject you. I guess what you could do is think of the person you want to be. Make a list of what this person is like, how she would act in certain situations, and then try to assume that character, if only for a day. I promise that if you keep on using this method, eventually it will work, and you'll feel less self concious, and more happy.
2006-09-11 16:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be very shy because I thought no one would like me. I started working with the public....like a waitresses job. It became easy after that because it forced me to deal with regular customers and new people all the time. I found I had to work for my tips and working meant learning to relax enough to be friendly. Just think of it this way....if you run across someone that doesn't like you...you never have to see them again if you don't want to. Stop worrying about what other people think about you...you probably have a great personality.
2006-09-11 16:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Bethie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question what is the worst thing that can happen when you're talking to others? Do you think other people are better than you? You are a child of God just like everyone else on this earth. So relax and enjoy everyone around you as friends.
2006-09-11 16:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u remind me of me my dear.somethings take a little time wen u'll grow up a little things will be normal.you sound like a nice person start loving ureself and wear clothes dat give you confidence that does'nt meant to start spend lavishly...i mean just dress up beautifully and vibrantly.Be nice and friendly and try to talk to alot of people and think that they are just people like me and i'm a very nice and smart person and i might be better than them.I promise that u'll be fine.Listen shyness is a good thing but dont be unconfident cuz confidence is the key to success and if u r unconfident in any way u'll not stand out at ure workplace where u have to show ure efficience.Hope it helps...learn from me ...U"LL DEFINATELY CHANGE and i'm sure u'll love ure new confident self...remember...nothing is impossible..just try and try again.Gud luck dear
2006-09-11 16:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by Vamp Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn to relax and smile, then just jump in and say things like "really, that is is weird" or make some coment so they know you are hearing them talk then just begin to talk also. Believe me life is too short to be shy!!!!!! It is not fun in any way shape or form! There should be some good self help books on line or at Barnes and Noble to give you ideas also.
2006-09-11 16:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you should speak with a pyschiatrist and join a group therapy session at least for a few weaks. This is probably caused by anxiety or depression. When you talk yourself out of doing things is a classic sign - and you are talking yourself out of "making friends" telling yourself things like...oh, they won't like me, I won't know what to say. You have to learn to tell your "internal critic" to shut up and let you live life! Life is too short to live in fear or a state of apprehension.
2006-09-11 16:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by GirlUdontKnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you afraid of rejection? Don't sweat it. Talk about daily events, current events go with the flow and relax. People open up if you try. People generally want to talk. But not about weird subjects... unless they are weird and are into that.
2006-09-11 16:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
realize that if you trust people, they dont usually blow it up in your face. If youve always been shy, trusting people is a good start. IF they know youve been shy, then they'll take it as an honor to have you open up at all.
Also, you need to figure out a way to get over it. If they dont want to hear it, there is always someone else to say it to. and there is always someone more trustworthy (not to say they arent).
2006-09-11 16:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by Skittles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're OBVIOUSLY not too shy to post a question about your level of shyness on a website that has well over a million views each day!
2006-09-11 16:19:56 · answer #10 · answered by ○Freeman○ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋