I was his bossman and now that I am not working at the same job I have been falling in love with him. Oh God, he is so wow and I am like putty when he is around me. I am 25 and basically a great looking guy and am responsible and on my own. He on the otherhand is out of a bad relationship with a girl and has a 2 year old he has to worry about and between homes. There isn't 1 ugly thing about Chase. He is 21 and has a beautiful face that I can imagine just laying beside and looking at and kissing and giving him the things his stupid XGF can't. He is straight and says he has never been with a guy before. He and I are best friends. I love him so much. He is so cool with me being gay and so much respects me. We flert together, ride around together, and he always hugs me and calls me sweetie just like I do him. He is so perfect for me and he is all that is on my mind. I want to tell him I want to be with him. I just don't know if I can tell him I'm inlove with him now or wait.
2006-09-11 09:13:07 · 9 answers · asked by J.C. 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You have a rare friendship in him. A straight man that can accept you for who you are. He in his own way is being supportive towards you, but calling you a sweetie. You probably are. However I think it is best at this time to love him from a distance. Continue to be that loving supportive friend to him. It sounds like he needs this more than anything else right now. He is going through some hard times. Perhaps you can find ways to help him through these times. Lend the helping hand and keep the friendship strong.
If over time he continues to flirt with you, then perhaps he does see you as more. However let him make the moves. He could be dealing with his own sexual identity crisis as well. Placing him in a very shaky place with all the rest of his life. If you tell him now, you may cause him to run from you. The fear of coming out, with all the rest may be just too much for him.
Love him on the inside, and show it through a friendship. Let him decide if he wants more from you first. Let him make the first move. If he is indeed falling for you, then he will soon enough. Be careful and best of luck to you.
2006-09-11 09:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My goodness! I remember being young and silly and in puupy-love with every guy! I will try not to be "Mr-Bitter-Old-Guy" though. At 25 and 21 you guys have the rest of your lives ahead of you. Just play it cool, be honest, and just be his friend. Sounds like he has a lot of responsibility to deal with and the last thing he needs is a friend who is adding to his burden.
If he cares for you the same way - and not just doing the ambiguous-straight-guy-flirt that is so common these days - his feelings will be known to you. If you have to spend all this time wondering and questioning, then it isn't what you think it is.
2006-09-11 09:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by guaposf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trouble.....don't do it. Keep it friendly and don't make the first move. Wait till Brokeback Mountain Part II comes out and then take him. See what happens.
2006-09-11 10:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Guam nut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suffer in Silence.
2006-09-11 09:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dusty I am sorry but if you make a move you will loose him. Let him make the first move just let him know you are there for him.
2006-09-11 09:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tread carefull mate
you dont wanna ruin a good friendship
2006-09-11 09:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would go with NO
yur friendship will never be the same again
if you dont want to reck this friendship, let it go
2006-09-11 09:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by darlene b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be careful---you could ruin a great friendship
2006-09-11 09:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No , you have to fear God. Dont be in an illegal relationship.Wheather to marry or do nothing at all.
2006-09-11 09:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by TheTruth 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋