Are we too young to have a baby?

Question

We have been married for over a year. I am 20 years old and my husband is 24. We have been together for over 5 years and are absolutely in love with each other! I will be graduating from college in December and we just feel like it is time for our next stage in life. However, my parents and family do not think that we should have kids yet. His family is totally for it. I want to know we are ready and I want my family not only to support us, but to be happy and excited for us.

Answer 1

I'd say that at your age.. you should be experiencing more of life before you have kids. Once you have kids, you're going to be taking care of them for the rest of your life. Maybe wait another couple years. Since you're still considered as a newly wed., go and enjoy the next couple of years without kids.

Answer 2

This is a good question. But it's a question that only you and your husband can decide. With questions like.... Are you secure enough in your relationship that you can handle loving someone else? Is your husband ready for you to be hormonal and moody? Are you ready to have someone depend on you 24-7, 365 days x forever? I mean there's so many different things to consider. But it seems as though your family says no your not ready or too young because they are not ready. His family sounds like they are ready. It sounds like you already know the answer. Good luck!
Let's put it this way my pregnancy was unexpected and I'm thrilled, my fiance is happy and scared. My Mom is happy, and everyone else is upset or sad. But you know what I don't care! I'm 22 yrs old and my fiance is also 22. We've been together for over a year and I've known him since I was 5. I can do this all by myself if I have too. But I do have some people backing me up which helps.
Do whatever makes you and your husband happy!!!

Answer 3

Only YOU can know if you are ready. Toss out what each side of the familly has to say - good or bad - and make the decision based on what you and your husband want. I know my mom & dad had me when she was 20 & he was 21 and they had been married 18 mos. By the time my dad was 25, there were 3 more! They were great parents, who loved each other until the death of my dear father. So, from their example, I think as long as this is what you both want, you will do just fine. There are certain things in life that you simply can't in all honesty totally prepare for, some times you just have to go for it.

Answer 4

I learned this a long time ago.. do what you want to do, what you think is best. Try not to let people's opinions get in the way, especially family. They may think they are helping, but you should really just go with your own gut feeling. In this case especially, it is a very personal thing to know if you are ready to have a baby. You and your husband seem like very mature people and you can decide this for yourselves. Plus, once you tell everyone the news of you being pregnant, the opinions will suddenly change to happiness for you. I mean, how can a pregnancy ever be bad news? I say go for it. And good luck. God bless you! :)

Answer 5

It's not up to your parents when you are ready to start a family. There are many young parents who are very capable. That being said...you have to think about all of the aspects of parents and decide if you are financially, emotionally, physically, and spiritually ready to commit yourself to a child. There is a really good assessment on the March of Dimes website. Go to http://www.marchofdimes.com (and start taking follic acid right now!)

I'd also like to add that I'm 27 now, but when I was 20 I really wanted children. I look back on it now and I am so glad that I've waited because of everything I have experienced and all the places I've been and things I've learned that I can pass on to my child.

Answer 6

You are not too young to have a baby! You are married, and nature tells us that this is the best and healthiest time to procreate! (I am a health care professional, and I will tell you this, as well!) There is no benefit in waiting. Good luck to you, and on starting your family. This decision is yours and your husband's alone. Do not let anyone put a damper on this exciting phase of your lives! We had our first when I was 21, and have never regretted it!

Answer 7

Yes. You've been together five years, but how long have you been married? You don't know if things may change shortly after you get pregnant. Give yourselves more time. I had my daughter when I was 20, and her father and I didn't stay together. Life has been difficult as a single parent and I've grown up way faster than I should have. I long for some freedom, but I've sacrificed most of it to raise my child. Please please put a lot of thought into this. Maybe wait another year to really be sure that children are what is right at this time of your lives.

Answer 8

his family is all for it because you are not their daughter. Your family knows the sacrifice it takes when a women has a baby. Sacrificies you can't comprehend at 20 years old.

I'm sorry to say, but he is too young to be committed to you and vice versa. I know he's your husband and hope I am very wrong. So he's never ever been with anyone else, if you have been together for 5 years? I'd watch him for a few more years. Why don't you travel and see the world, start a business, keep yourself busy and get to know yourself more?

I'd wait

Answer 9

You should have the baby if you want to! It's not your mom and dads baby, its yours! My mom had me when she was 21 and my sister when she was 19! Go ahead but make sure your out of collage before you have the baby and 2 months before! You'll be happy you had the baby sonner rather than later so the child will have young parents. Your mom and dad will be happy for you once they know your having a baby! Good Luck!

Answer 10

I am glad to hear the two of you have been together for awhile & know each others history. Why don't you wait until you finish school then you can devote your time to the pregnancy and child-rearing. All I'm saying is make sure you have done all that you want to first because child are a huge commitment. It's not being selfish, its making sure nothing distracts you.....:<)

Answer 11

I was 21 and my husband was 23 when I found out I was pregnant. I thought for sure my family would have all said something about me being so young but when the time came they all were so happy and very suportive. When it happens it happens...you cant turn time back. I would think they would be very happy and very supportive of you two when it happens.