I recently became e-mail friends with the wife of a guy I had a crush on back in college 20 years ago. She's really great to talk to and reminds me of myself in a lot of ways so I really value our growing relationship. The problem is that I still kind of have feelings for her husband. If she and I are just going to correspond online and I'm not going to try and see her husband do you think that there is any problem here? I have been upfront with her about who I am and that I knew her husband and she doesn't seem to mind.
If it makes a difference, I'm recently divorced.
2006-09-11 08:51:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
To answer a question someone asked I did tell her how I feel/felt about her husband.
2006-09-11 10:00:38 · update #1
Be her friend she might be a great companion. Do not let yourself go to far in anyway with her husband though. You know right from wrong and can always stop yourself. You are an adult and realize the fact that this your friend and HER husband.
2006-09-11 08:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by kiki_t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess it's okay to be friends with her if it's going to stay online, if you don't trust yourself. You may have a crush on the guy he was 20 yrs ago, if you would see him now he's proabably bald and has a pot belly or something. Idk it really depends on the fact if you've seen him recently or not, and if your a real friend to this woman it won't matter if you had a crush on him, and think you still have feelings for him.
2006-09-11 09:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by eld13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem as long as you are truly interested in being a friend to her. But if you are after her husband or feel you could try to strike something up with him again, then don't be friends with her. As the saying goes do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
2006-09-11 09:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave that poor man's wife alone, as you are just using her to get close to him. If you are halfway decent looking then go out to a club, to the grocery store, to somewhere in person and you can get yourself another man, but don't try to live in the past.
2006-09-11 08:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by Niche Jerk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You says you've been upfront and she knows you "knew" her husband. But I'd be willing to bet you didn't say anything about still having feelings for him... right?
2006-09-11 09:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by Easygreasy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have ulterior motives, sweetie!! I would suggest that you terminate this online "friendship" and just exchange Christmas cards. You are on the prowl.....big time. Leave this woman and her husband alone.........get it???? Cut the crap about becoming online "friends".....you are not a teenager.....who are you trying to fool here????
2006-09-11 08:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with it as long as you don't use the friendship as a means to try to get him back for yourself. Never bring up your feelings for him with her or you will lose a new friend.
2006-09-11 09:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not,
You said it was a PAST crush
2006-09-11 08:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by Shawn T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋