i am 24 yrs old girl.i was unwanted child of my parents.my parents physically,mentally,and sexually abused me.i was raped at age 7 by my baby-sitter. i was raped by my bf and his frd in a car.but because of god i am still alive and doing my M.B.A studies. i got a chance to participate in international student exchange programme. and thats why i am in canada now. i met a net frd from usa who is getting married in december in india. we had sex and i feel i am pregnant. we used condom but it tore. my period is on 12 september. but i am not having PMSsyndromes which i used to get earlier, i feel i am pregnant, and if i am then i have to leave the programme and when i'll go back to india my parents will kill me. i dont know what to do, as i cant use the health card as the exchange programme will know about it and send me to india early. so i cant visit the doctor, but i cant delay check up too as later it might be dangerous to get abortion done. i dont have enough money too. please advice.
2006-09-11 08:43:06 · 17 answers · asked by isha s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
my international exchange programmes is only for 3 months in canada, and one month is already over.
2006-09-11 09:01:56 · update #1
Go to a drug store and get a pregnancy test. Also call a crisis pregnancy center, you can find one in the phone book or on line. Don't get an abortion that would be a huge mistake you will regret for the rest of your life. Seek out help from a Pro-Life group. You can always put the baby up for adoption.
You don't have to leave the program just because you are pregnant. A lot of pregnant women are in college. You can stay in school, have the baby and give it up for adoption. Please contact a pro-life group near you. They can help you in more ways than you could imagine!
May God be with you and keep you safe. He loves you!
2006-09-11 08:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Tatochka 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Firstly forget the past, what has happened has happened, you have only yourself to be held responsible for the present predicament u are in so think ahead. You have very few options left with u I suggest that u approach a councillor to help u out of this situation or approach some parents of a good friend, preferably Indian who will be able to guide u through the process. Please do not repeat do not try any self medication to abort, you might find yourself in worst trouble. Try what I have advised and Good Luck.
2006-09-14 00:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by Rahul 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I m sorry to hear about your situation... Now you have to think more practical rather getting worried about problem.. Dont jump to conclusions.. Consult a doctor and confirm whether you are pregnant or not.. I dont think that will cost you much.. You can take the help your net friend who brought you to this situation.. He should help you now.. He cant leave you like this.. And discuss with your close friends if you have any in Canada.. They will definitely help you..
Finally, when you are in Canada on studies, concentrate on studies.. Not on other things.. Otherwise you will have to face this kind of situations.. I pray for you..
2006-09-11 15:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by Akshat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont tell anybody & complete your programme. After comming back to india you can consult a Dr. I think abortions are possible up to 3rd month. Take chance or try to get aborted in canada
2006-09-13 05:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by narendra k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just Live On dear ... have patience to read my answer completely and think (if what you say is true and if not dont)!!!
What are you saying???
You were raped in childhood when at 7, okay!!! Thats not your fault. You were raped by your boyfriend and his friend in a car??? I dont understand what kind of friends you have??? Now, you say you are pregnant with somone from US in Canada??? You are studying MBA and you do these kinda stuff and you are confused???
Is it true that you are taken advantage-of all the time or are you so easy even after growing up??? Dont take my words to heart or dont think I am very hard on this but just think... Dont you have your own concious before doing anything at this age??? I do accept that sex is a natural urge but you must take precautions!!! Dont you think you are being an easy meat to anyone due to your foolishness???
I really understand that it is difficult if parents dont care about their kids (if true), but dont take that as an excuse and give yourself up to anyone or anything that comes accross. If you are craving for love or caring and a good friend, why go and have sex with anyone and worry now??? Dont you have nuts???
Com'om dear ... live your life as a strong person and as an individual ... there are several orphans deprived of love or caring in ths world but all not all are like this... they grow to be great people as well!!!
Understand life and yourself first and live on happily ... Stop searching for excuses or just dont be an easy thing for anyone.
I may be sounding hard and not at all compassionate to you but try to think over my words and you would understand whose mistake is your preganancy(if true)!!! Get aborted if you really think its a problem. No hassles at all. Money??? Work part-time or just borrow for the moment and dont let this happen the next time ... you are not a fool if I have to believe you???
There are several things in life to live happily ... books, music, friends(good ones), travel, arts, sports, researching interesting issues, .............................. unlimited. but Dont tell me that parents dont like you and you want to do all that stuff to acquire love(???) ...
You are grown-up and be a grown-up, a thinking animal but not a ....... its never late coming back to life!!! You will be happy!!!
2006-09-11 18:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by Roark 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Check out this link, it will help you find a place in Canada where you can get help. Don't quit school, you can finish and put the baby up for adoption. Please get some help. These people can even give you a pregnancy test. Don't abort if you are pregnant, it will make things worse.
2006-09-11 16:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by Punky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
'Roark' is right. U must ve been cautious on such things. But, dont worry. God is der to help u. My kind words are: Dont abort ur child. Reveal the matter to ur parents. May God bless u.
2006-09-12 13:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by dina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hay dear......... I just dont know what to say and what not..........
I think i can understand ur fears....... espicially with the closed mentality of the indian community...... i can understand what troubles you can be put into by ur parents.......esp in the kind of environiment u were bought up(if wat u say is true...)
and no nonsence like others.....
Dear....... u must start understanding liffe... im sure u wouldnt like to bring up ur child the way u were bought up.....and i thank that would be possible only if u can lead ur life on ur own....
So FIRST DESIDE IF U CAN LIVE INDIPENDENTLY...........AND BE TOUGH WITH EVERY ONE.... INCLUDING UR PARENTS..... IF U CAN DO THAT U CAN GO AHEAD WITH UR CHILD.........(im not sure if u can do it.......if u could u would not have posted this here)
ELSE.........
AND SINCE U SAID UR PEIRIODS WERE DUE ON 12TH AND U R NOT HAVING IT.... JUST GO TO A PHARMISY AND ASK FOR A PREG. TEST... WHICH IS EASY TO TEST. U CAN DO IT IN UR PLACE ITSELF....... IF TESTED POSITIVE .......ITS NOT LATE NOW...... JUST HAVE LOTS OF PAPAYA AND I THINK THAT WILL SOLVE UR PROBLEM.......
BUT...... DEAR........ WITH ALL THE EXPERIANCES IN LIFE U HAD TILL DATE........ JUST TAKE A GRIP ON UR LIFE. HAVE PATIENCE..... AND TRUST IN GOD.........AND DOT FALL IN GUYS LIKE THEM.... AND WHEN U KNEW THAT UR FREND FROM US WAS GETTING MARRIED TO SOMEONE ELSE IN DEC. HOW COULD U GET INVOLVED WITH HIM....... EVEN AFTER KNOWING ABT IT....... IT MEANS UR NOT LEARNING FROM UR PAST.......
U ARE A GROWN UP NOW..... SO THINK AND BEHAVE LIKE ONE........
I THINK THATS I CAN SAY..............
HAVE LOTS AND LOTS OF PAPAYA IF U WANT TO ABORT....
pS:- And hay if u want to talk to some one u can feel free to talk to me. My Id is mavericklong4u@yahoo.com. Im also from india.... Incase u want anu help feel free to mail me...(INCASE)
2006-09-12 05:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by long m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u have to think on wht "Roark" has suggested u to do.
All the best
May God help u
2006-09-12 01:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by pooja 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not have an abortion its not the babies fault its called adoption!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!i would'nt go bak 2 india or where ever and hello!!!!!home pregnacy test!!!!!!!!!why do u still talk to your parents after all that anyway?
2006-09-11 16:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by Wow gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋