i dont know what to do,its like the sky has fallen on top of me.
i am pregnant just started the 5th month,the baby is from this man i have been secretly for 3 years,he promised me the world he promised me everything until tonight when i found out he slept with another women.my parents dont want me anymore because they were against me being with him in the first place.
they dont even know that iam pregnant.
the man promised me that even if my parents left me he will take care of me.and now what.
i am sitting in the internet club all alone and dont know what to do.
i am 19 havent even finished school yet.
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2006-09-11 08:33:12 · 25 answers · asked by brudqga 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i dont want to live anymore either
2006-09-11 08:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I feel badly for the position you are in. You have a first responsibility to the child you are carrying. Are you so sure that your parents would not support you? If you are honest with them and tell them everything, you may be surprised at how they react. It may be an ugly scene at first, but once everything is out in the open, you'll have a chance to make a plan. If for some reason they reject you, you will have to make a Plan B. It may be worth it to consider contacting an adoption agency. Couples who are wanting to adopt an infant will often pay the expenses of the biological mother. After the baby is born, then you can perhaps find a job, finish school, and pursue some happiness for yourself. You can not control the actions of this man and if he is not committed to you and his baby, then he is not worth spending so much time dwelling on. You are important and worthy. If your parents and the baby's father are not willing to support you at this time, you need to find someone who will. Look on the internet or in the yellow pages for a crisis pregnancy center in your area. In the yellow pages, look under Abortion Alternatives. If you decide to keep the baby, it will take a lot of hard work, perseverance, and sacrifice. If you have not started having prenatal care, go to a local health clinic. They can also help you. If you have a church family, confide in your pastor or another trusted church leader. There is no better time than right this minute to be active in making your life the way you want it to be. Relationships that take place in secret rarely work out the way we think they should.
2006-09-11 15:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to live anymore either sometimes. But I end up waking up everyday just like you.
I think you need to tell your parents. Your too far along to have an abortion. But then again I've had one and I would never do it again. I actually hate myself for having one. You need to let the guy know that you are pregnant. Once the baby is born have his name on that certificate! If everyone abandons you there are places you can go and have the baby. You need to finish school. Before the baby is born you need to figure out if you want to keep it or give it up for adoption. You need to go to the doctors and make sure that baby is okay and take your prenatal vitamins.
I don't mean to be lecturing you but I'm 22 yrs old I'm with my fiance who is also 22 and some of my family is happy and all of his family is pissed so I kinda understand. Let me know how things go. Good luck.
2006-09-11 16:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by adidasgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh girl, that man isn't worth the agony you are going through, if God has you in this situation is because he knows you can do it by yourself and because He has a wonderful man waiting for you somewhere along the way. You need to talk to your parents, they are gonna notice your belly sooner or later, so you better tell them now and get proper care by a dr. Sure they are gonna be mad, but they are your parents...if things go wrong you could always couint on your family member and friends, dont you? other people have given you great advice in here, take it from there. Hopes up honey, a baby is a blessing, all this will be worth in the end. Please dont hurt yourself, you are a very valuable person, and dont hurt the baby either, he has no defense, and he's not responsible for your actions. Take care..if you need someone to talk to feel free to email me, just look in my profile.
Good luck
2006-09-11 16:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That baby is a blessing. You will find out that once you hold it in your arms, that EVERYTHING will make sense to you and you will want more than anything to live to make this little person a wonderful human being.
There are tons of resources out there for you if you are homeless and pregnant. Go to the human services office (sometimes called welfare) they will MAKE him take care of his baby. Make sure that you are getting prenatal care for yourself. You can discuss your feelings with your provider and they will be able to help you!
Do not give up! Men are not worth it. Just because he left you does not mean that it is the end of the world... it just means that he is worthless and stupid and he WILL have to give you child support for the baby.
Remember, it is not the baby's fault that any of this happened.... its hard to believe and even more difficult to remember, but EVERYTHING happens for a reason. The tiny life you carry in your womb should be the most important thing in your life right now. You will be a wonderful mother!
2006-09-11 15:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by sunflower1237 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go back to your parents house now. Explain everything, apologise if you have to. They're your parents, the will always love you, no matter how much you argue and disagree. You may think they will never want to see you again, but you must tell them what has happened, tell them how you feel. You may be suprised by their reaction.
Also, as people above are saying, if you're old enough and responsible enough to have sex, you're old enough and resposible enough to have a child. Thinking these thoughts while pregnant is selfish. You should first talk to your parents and then a professional. Every single person in the world has had a moment, or more, of complete and utter despair in their life, and the vast majority of them deal with it straight on. You should do the same, if not for you, then for your child.
2006-09-11 15:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by starla_o0 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get on the Internet and find the nearest crisis pregnancy center. They will help you. You need to focus on taking care of your self and walk away from that guy, he is NO GOOD! You don't want a man like that in your life. There are so many options for you.
Your parents love you and if you humbly go to them and tell them you made a mistake I bet they would be supportive of you.
You can always put the baby up for adoption then go on with your life. There are thousands of good, loving people who would love to adopt your precious baby.
This is a very difficult thing to do and there are always consequences to bad choices. But God is very gracious and loving and kind. He will help you if you seek Him.
There is so much to live for, seek out some help, please.
2006-09-11 15:42:57 · answer #7 · answered by Tatochka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your first priority is that baby. You need to confront your parents and tell them what is going through your mind. No parent wants to endure the pain of losing their child and no matter how your parents are acting right now it might be a totally different situation now that you are pregnant and alone. I had a friend who got pregnant, quit school, and was in a useless marriage. She has raised his two kids basically on her own with assistance of course and so could you, she is now happily engaged and had her son with her fiance. Keep your head up and don't be afraid to ask for help, your definitely going to need it and there is help out there. Best wishes!
2006-09-11 20:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by I will never forget 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u may feel like crap now. but just think that u have a baby in u and it way be with a man that did u wrong. u need to tell your parents that u are prego. they need to know. my mom has raised me by her self and u can to. don't give up their are 2 many people that love u and would be their 4 u and the baby. I was 20 when I gratuded from high school. don't worry about that. just keep your head up and it will get better.
2006-09-11 15:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by hfleming_05 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First think about that baby it needs you, second do you have an friends that can help you out or other family members besides your parents? Think about all your options and try to put together and you should stay away from the man that got you pregnant you might love him but think about how he could hurt you and your baby in the future neither of you need someone like that in your life.
2006-09-11 15:40:58 · answer #10 · answered by Jenna 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go to your parents. tell them you have made a mess of things and you realize that and you want to do the right thing, but you need their help.
ask them if you and baby could live with them until you finish school and have saved enough to move out on your own.
get on the WIC program to help with formula costs and get a p/t job after school & weekends to save money for after graduation.
if you present yourself to them as an adult, then i hope they will help you and realize that you know you screwed up and you want to make things right.
my parents would have killed me and i would have been miserable for a while, but they wouldn't have abandoned me and i wouldn't have let them down again...ever.
so, put on your big girl pants and go talk to them.
oh, and forget about the dad. he's a jerk and the only thing he is good for is child support. make sure you get a lawyer to help get the financial support you and baby need.
take care.
2006-09-11 15:50:02 · answer #11 · answered by joey322 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋