I need help with a problem I'm having. I have been in a relationship for some time now and my partner told me a few days ago that her feelings for me have changed. But she still continues to say "I Love You" and wants to be together. My feelings for her have not changed but the problem is I do not understand how she can tell me that she loves me and wants to be together even though her feelings have changed. Please help me understand.
2006-09-11 08:27:54 · 8 answers · asked by demo0351 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
u dont feel "in love" every single day of your relationship. maybe she's just going through a phase where she feels that her feelings arent as strong as it was a few weeks ago... it doesnt mean the end of things. u just need to work on it a bit, and try to bring things back up again. if she's still saying i love u, it shows that she's not giving up. work with her and makes things better. its what being in a relationship is about. UNLESS she means she loves u as a friend. HAHA...
2006-09-11 08:31:13 · answer #1 · answered by lil'sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal for a persons feelings to change, you don't feel the same way about issues that were in your life five years ago do you? If this partner actually loves you then it would be in your favor for their feelings to change, love requires a great deal of sacrifice and selflessness this can and does strain relating at times and can either make you more attached or less depending on how you react within the situation. People also need more attention at times and less at others, it may be that your partner is dealing with some personal inside issues that don't include you. I would take a deep breath and plunge into the communication pool, allowing your partner to see your heart is never a bad thing even if it means you show your insecurities, we wear them on the outside anyway. At the worse you get to the truth at best you show great skill in relating and gain respect from your partner. I only hope that this partner is not saying this to confuse you or to play games which is not love. If she is a sincere person she will want you know how she feels and will be grateful to have a concerned and attentive partner, if not she will block your attempt at resolution and will continue to put you and your feelings at a distance which is considered emotional abuse. I hope this is helpful and good journey, just go ahead and dive right on in.
2006-09-11 15:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by pink poodle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships change, nothing stays the same. I'm sure some of your feelings for her have changed also. It doesnt mean she doesnt want to be with you. You could be just scared that it means she is going to leave you. It's healthy for relationships to change.
2006-09-11 15:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do it to my bf too. But I dont say that my feelings have changed as that would hurt his feelings. the truth is that they have. I dont know about u but my bf kept on letting me down and I forgave him 4 the upteenth time now...and that i think is the reason my feelings changed. I feel that eventually, they'll fade away coz of the bad memories(of him) I have. As I said... I don't know what u did to trigger that change of ur girl's feelings but something did happen. Talk to her. Best of luck!
2006-09-11 15:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf says the same thing.
He says he loves me and wants us to be togeather ( we currently live togeather) we've been togeather for 3 yrs. and lately he's just not the same guy i met and fell in love with.
He dosent act like he loves me but when i ask he says if i didnt we wouldnt be togeather.
I dont understand it either.
Some times i think hes waiting on me to make the break up decision.
2006-09-11 15:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question, i can sympathize with bree i am also in such a relationship,,its odd but it does seem to feel that way..like we are both waiting for the other to end it,, if it does end for any of us in this situation , i hope it ends in freindship...
2006-09-11 15:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by kewl69charger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. We're all human beings ... and the dumbest creatures on the planet. 'nuff said.
2006-09-11 15:37:26 · answer #7 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people change
2006-09-11 15:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋