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Cruelty to animals or children- mistreats or abuses children or
animals, thinks cruelty to animals or children is funny, brags about
this mistreatment, sees nothing wrong with this kind of behavior.
Verbal abuse- calls you names, puts you down, threatens you, makes
fun of you alone or in front of others, tries to make you look
stupid in front of others, criticizes you, puts down things or
people you like, talks to you in a way that is not respectful.
Believes in traditional gender roles- believes men should be in
control and powerful and women should be passive and submissive,
believes the man should always pay for the dates, believes men
should be the decision makers, sees men as more important than women.
Has a past history of battering- has a history of bad relationships
and always blames the other partner for all the problems, has been
physically, emotionally or sexually abusive in past relationships,
has a history of fighting.
Threatens you with violence- does she/he scare you? does she/he
break, strike or throw objects? does she/he own weapons? does she/he
make threats of hurting you or those you love? does she/he use fear
to control you? does she/he use threats of violence toward
him/herself to control you?
Use of force during an argument- does she/he physically restrain you
from leaving when you want to or from doing what you want? does
she/he punch, kick, bite, slap, pinch, hit, or throw you? does
he/she hurt your pets or things important to you to get at you
during an argument? does she/he stand in an intimidating manner
(tower over you etc.) during an argument? does she/he not give you a
chance to say anything during an argument?
2006-09-11 08:14:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't stop that sort of behavior, you can only protect yourself and others. Report him to Child Protective Services, get restraining orders, have him arrested, charge him with domestic violence, do everything possible to not have to deal with abuse or allow your pets or children have to be around it. If you choose not to leave, then you have to leanr tools, such as self-defense and setting firm boundaries and for God's Sake - get into counseling!
2006-09-11 08:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to sound pessimistic about the idea of reforming an adult with these issues. There is the option of pressing charges and urging that person to seek professional help, but statistics show that these are only temporary quick fixes. The fact of the matter is, you should spend more thought and energy into executing a plan to exclude them from YOUR life. It's time to relocate, change your phone number, cut ties to that person's associates (who might offer a lead as to your whereabouts). The problem starts and stops with the perpetrator, not you. You not in any position to "make this stop". Take some self-defense classes.
P.S. DO NOT WARN THAT PERSON THAT YOU ARE LEAVING. This will only enrage them, causing you great bodily harm, if not more. Don't fool yourself into thinking an ultimatum will inspire them to change. Good luck and be very careful.
2006-09-11 15:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by Suz E. Home BAKER 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a realationship you are in, please for your own safety, get out of it now, leave and don't turn back. It will not change (not for the better) and it will not stop. YOU can stop this from happening to you by walking out on the relationship but that is the only way. I have been there and done that, I only wish I had someone to give me the advice that I am offering you. It will not be easy but it is necessary.
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-11 15:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by Pam of Ga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are referring to hypermasculine abuse, and it's not funny nor is it easy to get someone who has adopted the hypermasculine model to stop it. You can't change someone's behavior or thinking except your own. Remember the serenity prayer says:
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can't change, the courage to change the things I can change, and the WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.
Focus on what you can change.
2006-09-11 15:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by What I Say 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the person. It will stop immediately
2006-09-11 15:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only YOU can make it stop! Get out! Leave! You CAN NOT change it!
2006-09-11 15:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a shot gun.
2006-09-11 15:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by spidermonkeyfingers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really
2006-09-11 15:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by jeremy31593 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋