We have 3 boys but I wanted 1 last try for a girl.
We are not on the dole and I enjoy being a parent.
What do I do???????
2006-09-11 08:12:07 · 44 answers · asked by Julia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 26,
If it was another boy at least I had another go,
He knew when I met him I wanted four and he said the same.
2006-09-11 08:17:46 · update #1
u r still young if yur husband does not want any more kids as in sex... why not try adoption its not jus for single parents or old people u could really make a diffrence u should talk to your husband about the reason he had it? was he feeling rejected?
2006-09-11 08:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by youngboff 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, I wish my husband have snip his instead of me having the surgery. In which I haven't done it yet, but in the near future. We have 3 girls and 1 boy. We still want to try out for another boy, but not sure if we want to because time and money. Talk to him why he doesnt want another kid? and why he did what he did without any part of you in it? Maybe he's afraid it might be another boy, and he's not taking any chances for it because kids take a lot of sacrifices to be a parent and they cost a lot too. Once he done it, I don't think he will want it reversed. Perhaps, try adopting a girl. Now, let me tell you the secret. You have a chance to conceive a girl. Sometime it's the sperm that decides the boy or girl, BUT you can change that by changing your body (it's 97% effective). Do some research on the interenet and there are answers and questions post here already. Give him the facts (your research) that there's some hope and he might agree to reverse it. Good luck. Now that I have the interesting information about conceiving a boy for me, we might just give it another try. Well, I don't know. We'll see.
2006-09-11 10:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by Cava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he do this without 'really' talking to you, or without talking to you at all? There's a difference.
If he didn't discuss it with you and it seems that he did so because he knew you'd argue, then you've got some communication issues.
I would be upset, but keep in mind that, just like you, he has the say over what goes on in his body.
These surgeries aren't always permanent, so have a long talk with him. Make sure he knows how hurt you are because you'd really love to have a girl. Keep in mind, though, you might just get another boy!
Good luck.
2006-09-11 08:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by J B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From an anatomical point of view, this doesn't have to be a permanent state, most of these things can be reversed.
However, as far as what you should do, I don't think it's his reproductive status which should concern you.
Yes, it's his body and ultimately his decision, but surely he could have discussed it with you. I think for now, that is the problem, which you must address. Until you can be completely honest with each other about how you feel, it's not the time to try for another child anyway....
Good Luck
2006-09-11 08:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by yodellingdolphinofkirkwall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "without really talking to me"? If you didn't discuss it, you have every right to be annoyed. He made the decision for both of you, and that's not on. You could think about a reversal, but first you need to decide as a couple if you really want more kids- what if it's another boy? Would you be disappointed? Is that fair on the child?
2006-09-11 08:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by Oracle Of Delphi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you should discuss the matter and if he really does not want anymore children, then you should perhaps try and be happy with the children that you have got. If he does reverse it, there could be complications and then it would not have been worth it. You need to discuss this with your husband, and decide what is best for you and your family. I can totally understand you wanting a girl, but dnt push too hard or you could end up loosing your husband aswell.
2006-09-11 08:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by foxy emz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean, "what do you do?" At this point, what can you do? It's done, right? I'm guessing, but if he didn't talk to you before, he probably already knew you felt this way and he wasn't interested. What are you going to do...divorce him because you can't get a 4th kid? ***** him out a little, get over it and get on to the business of raising the three you have.
2006-09-11 08:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by SAN P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough luck, I doubt any surgery would work even if you could convince him to go for it. My surgeon made a point of saying he did such a good job there is no way it could be reversed.
If you really are desparate adopt a baby that needs a home
2006-09-11 08:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard luck, I'm afraid, he obviously doesn't want another child. There is no reason for you to be upset you have already had a lot of children. Think about it this way, you wouldn't want to bring another life into the world that one of you didn't want, would you? that wouldn't be best for the child.
2006-09-11 23:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No good crying over spilt milk!
You make it sound as though the 3 boys aren't enough for you, sounds very ungrateful to me. I notice you say "and I enjoy being a parent" says a lot!
2006-09-11 08:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by Raymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both obviously need to work on communication skills........you both have the right to feel the way you do but its his body and mind....... maybe he is worried about you, pregnancy is very stressfull espesially when you have 3 boys. Just be honest with each other and respect each other FULLY without stropping at each other
2006-09-11 09:10:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋