I had an argument with my husband..Its not the first time.If things go this way soon we will be divorced.But still I just can't concentrate on my work.He said such bad words to me yesterday still I don't know why I want to call and listen to his voice.My mind is saying don't be a fool..He don't deserve it but my heart is killing me..What should I do??
2006-09-11 08:06:32 · 13 answers · asked by jheel04 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm experiencing similiar problem, the only difference is, he is only my boyfriend. A serious one. Anyway, this isn't my 1st time. I guess you and your hubby had experienced this a few times and finally you or both sides wanna end it. Ask yourself, if he stays the same, would you still wanna be with him? If he gets worse? Can you accept him? Don't contact him with expectation of him being better, it normally won't work. Ask yourself, is he what you want for the rest of your life? Is he worthy? Last but not least, is the reason of you marrying him still valid today? You have to make the decision. Don't rush it. Divorce isn't a solution, it can change a lot of things. Take time if you're not sure. It's always good to cool down and think than to make a decision and regret. God bless you.
2006-09-11 08:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is saying mean things to you that make you confused and unable to concentrate, then he doesn't love you.
Do NOT let familiarity and co-dependency keep you in a relationship that is hurting you.
More women than you know understand how you are feeling. If he is being abusive, you have got to get right into counseling, or leave if you know he'll never change (most abusive men won't, truthfully). You don't treat someone you love like that, so, obviously, it's not love.
Take care of yourself and let your mind be your guide, not your heart, in this.
2006-09-11 15:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by J B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are very uncomfortable with being uncomfortable. Despite his mean words, you still run to him for reassurance when you feel bad, huh? Hmmmm. Is this fixable? Can the two of you go to marriage counseling together and form a marriage that is good for you? I don't know what the fight was about or whether you want to be with him. The deal is this: If you were talking to your little sister or best friend about this man and she asked you the question you are asking here, what would you tell her? THAT is what you need to do. Best of luck. Be kind to yourself.
2006-09-11 15:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-11 15:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by TONY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your head. If you listen to your heart it will only be hurt again. If your mind is telling you to walk then that's what you should do. It will be hard on your heart but it will only be harder if you dont listen to your head. The heart will hurt regardless but its up to you for how long.
2006-09-11 15:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Need more info. What exactly happened? IF he said bad words to you, what caused it? Did you say bad words first? Need a bit more to go on first.
2006-09-11 15:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sandi A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION is the key here, it sounds like the two of you are speaking to eachother not WITH eachother. Tell him what is the issue so he knows and can learn. with out that communication, the relationship will disolve.
2006-09-11 15:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by g m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. If you allow him to treat you poorly, than it will escalate and eventually it will get to the point where he is pushing you around physically and perhaps striking you.
2006-09-11 15:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by Laquishacashaunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
settle down .............marriage is working together and working things out . it should not be one person's way or no way you should work together and not let one person controll what goes. if it is always his way i would know he is a controll freak. but sit down and try to work it out because you do seem to love him alot
2006-09-11 15:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by tistaskpickmine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about going for therapy, either together or separately.
2006-09-11 15:17:13 · answer #10 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋