I don't understand why he did it. I did everything i could to make him happy. I kept my hair long, i let it go back blonde, i even joined the cheerleading squad for him. I was about to give him the one thing i had left to give him (my virginity) when he dropped the bomb on me that he wanted my cousin. She was everything he hated, and disgusting to boot. I loved him sooo much i would have died for him. How could he do this to me?
2006-09-11 07:57:27 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why would your cousin date him, if he dumped you for her? Blood is thicker than water... so I would resent the fact that my cousin betrayed family.
If she is all that disgusting and he fell for it; then please realize that you didn't lose all that much anyway. Apparently, he doesn't appreciate your high standards, your high self esteem, your goals... he probably only wants your cousin because of the sex.
2006-09-11 08:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I start by just saying lucky you. It sounds crazy but if he left you for a family member you was not the one. I understand that you loved him and all this but you was going to give him something that you could not take back and that was your virginity. From reading your question you made a statement saying that you did everything to please him. So you know that everything was not your fault. Just take this time to find yourself and make you happy and from a guy point of view stay a virgin while you can because when you give that up it cannot be replaced. Just thank god he left before you gave in. I hope that i helped some.
2006-09-11 08:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it seems like this is the end of the world, but isn't it better that you found out now how much of a loser he is? The way you deal with the disappointment is to take some time to mourn the passing of your relationship (not too long) and then move on. There are lots of people out there who would treat you well. All you must do is find one and let him be good to you.
2006-09-11 08:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have to change yourself and who you are to make someone happy because then its not you that person is falling in love for the person you arn't and why would you love someone who doesnt love you back ? thats worse then even loving at all i think
Love is amazing, the hard part about love is, are we the only one in love? Or does our loved one also feel the same? I know for a fact there is a huge difference between loving one and being in love with them. When we truly fall in love with someone it so amazing and special. I look at the way I love as a pitcher (like a pitcher of water)... my heart is full of love, yet unless I am refilled I will run dry. I think we all need love as much as we want to give it. The hard thing is most men have no clue how special it can be to truly share love. Men think of immediate satisfaction. Whereas if we withold our passion and intimacy for just 1 person. Im talking in regards to something as simple as a kiss, definitely love making. I hope some of you read this! I believe if we share our kiss, and our love without cause, or thought. We are taking away from something that can be truly magical. I am speaking from experience. I am not assuming anything about you. Regardless if you have known true love it is available to us all. If you want it... save your intimacy and passion for the one whom will love you as you love them. Is it worth it? Thats for you to decide
2006-09-11 08:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheerleading? - good that means you are young and very lucky to have shed this bad egg from your life. Who wants to end up with a guy that would have such low morals as to cheat on you with your cousin? I am sorry you are suffering the aftermath of the break-up but timewill heal and you will be wiser next time you meet a guy. I really pity that cousin that ended up with this loser. Hope she doesn't have any sisters!
2006-09-11 08:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Signilda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were ready to do everything for him and more, and you did most of it as well...some people don't appreciate it. If he likes your cousin then let it be. Don't hate her because of it, even though you might not like her for your own reasons. If it wasn't her it would be someone else.
I think you need to be relieved that you didn't give him "everything"...he obviously wouldn't have deserved it...and you would have been devastated.
Be yourself...physically, mentally and emotionally...all that you need to take away from this is that changing yourself to something for someone else never guarantees their love for you.
Don't worry...it will be hard getting over it...but once you do, remember to only be yourself and be strong...
But don't hate him either...all of these experiences we learn from and lead us closer to the person we will eventually be with.
Don't give up hope!
2006-09-11 08:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F-em.
You cannot understand him anymore than I can understand women.
The best revenge is to not let it bother you and continue on your life of acheivement. Be the best cheerleader and do great in school.
There are so many other guys. If you take care of the important things (school, career, your health), everything else will fall into place.
2006-09-11 08:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like confident girls, not girls who will do ANYTHING they want. You have to be your own person and not let some guy dictate how you will look or what you will do. This guy had you wrapped around his finger and nobody is attracted to that. On top of that he is nothing more than a piece of sh*t for going for your cousin. That in itself should be enough for you to say to yourself, Thank god I didn't give him my virginity and thank god he's out of my life". Next time your with a guy and think you should give him your virginity think about this experience.
2006-09-11 08:01:49 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your way too immature to have a relationship based on what you have typed.
Why would you want a boy that does something like this anyway? Wait awhile untill you grow up some emotionally and then date men, not boys.
2006-09-11 08:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by ~Gate~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You suck it up, realize life isnt fair, and move on while being happy for your cousin because she is happy just because you want something dosent mean that the other person wants the same. I know it sucks but really what can you do except move on.
2006-09-11 08:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by LT. DAN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋