I read an artical in the newspaper and it was talking about that there are more women who are attending college then men. It was also saying that women are frustrated that there are not many men who are educated, and thats important in a mate. What do you think??
2006-09-11 07:51:29 · 12 answers · asked by james w 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I think that this can be important in SOME cases. I went to high school and then to an electronics school whereas my wife didn't complete the 8th. grade and was in special education all her life, but we have been married 34 years now, have two kids, two beautiful grandchildren, so in my particular case I made out very well by marrying her. She is my soul mate.
Other people put a lot of emphasis on finding someone who is well educated. My wife is smart in her own ways. She makes beautiful crafts and sells them. She had a day care center in our home before. I couldn't ask for a better wife than her. I am truly blessed to have found her. I used to play in bands and she was there listening to me and encouraging me too. Could a college graduate have done that any better? NO!!
2006-09-11 07:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by fingerpicknboys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people have it wrong on this one. You said "education...is important in a mate" not that it was the "most important thing thing in a mate." Its just important enough to frustrate them. That's too bad.
I agree with other answers here in that intelligence is more important than education. Because intelligent people are so much more fun to be with.
As far as the women the article was talking about, They just give too much weight to education.
For me, sincerity, loyalty, and sweetness come even before intelligence. And education would be a plus but not a deal breaker.
2006-09-11 17:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by viajero_intergalactico 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're talking about formal education and degrees, it's not very important except in that it gets the mate a more secure job meaning better pay, better benefits.
However, if you're talking about men who have smarts to be about the same level as the woman then yes. It's extremely important. I have a graduate level education and my husband merely graduated high school. However, he is extremely business savvy and wise about his money, knowing how little things affect the big picture. He can think globally and be down to earth. I'd put him against a degreed business man any day.
Education.....nah. Intelligence and the motivation to use it, yes.
2006-09-11 15:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it's easier if the two in a couple have a more or less equal amount of intelligence... Both on the same level...
I'm the smarter of the two in my marriage and found out (after marriage, of course) something rather disturbing in my mate's way of viewing me... She started telling me that I thought I was "better" than her, which was (and is) not the the case... I don't see anyone as being "better" than anyone else, but I do see some people as being "better at" some things more than others... But I don't think that's what she meant... In any event, I think being able to clearly state one's position on a topic or having the ability to connect concepts in a constructive manner is a desired trait in a mate... Pray for wisdom and guidance...
2006-09-11 15:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is more important for the person to be intelligent than educated. Contrary to most, they are not one in the same.
I would choose a man with only a high school degree who has an IQ of 147 over a college graduate who can't even spell associate. (I've seen it happen.)
2006-09-11 14:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by oh really 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's important that males are educated (even if it's only tech school or college) because people who have more even education levels are more likely to be making the same amount of income and therefore, less tension regarding money will be present inside the relationship.
Plus, it would be nice to have someone as intelligent as yourself to talk to in a relationship.
2006-09-11 14:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer depends on the person in the relationship.
Some people want the status of education in their mate, they want the trophy wife/husband.
Some people want education for "conversation", they think that being able to talk about a subject is true intimacy.
Some people want education because of the financial advantages it offers, they look at a mate as a contractual provider of their desired lifestyle.
Rare are the people who see intimacy as a sharing of spirit, something beyond lifestyle, conversation about current events, and the praise of social acceptance.
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2006-09-11 15:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am attracted to intelligence, not necessarily education. There are some educated people who are not the brightest bulbs! They lack social and communication skills and are so boring! My fiance is everything: intelligent, sociable, friendly, motivated, AND educated! But I don't think education is a necessity, just a perk!
2006-09-11 14:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by j_conway83 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think women care more about this then men do, which is unfortunate, given they are becoming the more numerous graduates.
2006-09-11 14:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have to agree with j_conway83....education is not the key to or a sign of intelligence...deep thinking, a desire to continue to learn and be a better person is critical to a relationship...
2006-09-11 14:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by makinitwork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋