im gonna be gettin married in the spring and ive been successful in my career before and after we were together.she tells me shes not gonna sign a pre-nup.what can i say or do to keep my money if anythin happens in my marriage
2006-09-11 07:15:37 · 48 answers · asked by baseball_saenz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
put a gun to her head and assure her that her brains or her signature are going to be on that contract...sorry had a godfather moment and I took it :-) but honestly I dont see why she wouldnt want to sign it unless she's a gold digger...pre nups can be terrible with relationships and if love is all that matters to her and she trusts you I dont see why she wouldnt sign it.
2006-09-11 07:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mark D 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Tell her that you won't marry her. I believe what you come into a marriage with then it's yours and what you make together you share, so figure out what you have now and what she has then put it in the pre-nup. Then what the both of you do together each gets half. If she really loves you then she should sign it. All I can say is protect your but because if you were in the future to get a divorce women can make your life he!! and 9 out of 10 times the judge is going to agree with the lady especially if their are children involved, I know if you did you want the best for them, but this is how so many men get in the dumps is because the women take you for everything you have because they are so hateful towards you because of a divorce. Sit down and talk with her more about and see if you can come up with an agreement.
2006-09-11 07:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put "marriage strike" into Google some time. Or read a recent scholarly book, "Legalizing Misandry: From Public Shame to Systemic Discrimination Against Men" by Paul Nathanson, Katherine Young, in which the authors talk about how the laws on marriage and divorce have become so heinous that no sane man would trust his future when the deck is so badly stacked against us. You really ought to read "Legalizing Misandry" before getting married even if you so get her to sign the pre-nup. As a successful man you need to have knowledge of what you are getting into, don't just leap off the cliff following some stinky crotch.
As for how to get her to sign the pre-nup. Just tell her that if she won't sign the pre-nup, you won't sign the marriage certificate. Then stick to your decision and don't be pussy whipped into marrying anyway.
2006-09-11 07:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by bobx23456 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it all depends on how you approach the subject. Some women may take it like you dont think you guys will work out or shes a gold digger. If you have already approached her it may be to late. Im divorced and never "took everything" (didnt take anything just clothes, 2 kids, and car that wasnt pd for). I never thought about preunps til i met this guy a few yrs ago. His parents own a furniture store thats been in the family for about 75 yrs and he will be taking it over anytime now. When he explained to me it was not about him losing money but possibly his family "heirloom" if you will, i understood completely. Your life begins after marriage not before. You could ask her the same question. if shes not with you for the money then why wont she sign it. Shes going to benefit from your wealth while your married. with the divorce rate at 75% now i would stick to my guns. you are going to both make vows to be together forever and so if it is a divorce the talks youve had about not taking the other one for everything go out the window with divorce. be careful and good luck!
2006-09-11 07:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by humorme! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wonder why she refuses to sign ...... gold-digger is she????
Signing a pre-nup does not necessarily mean she would get zip, zero, squat should something happen to the marriage. Is there any room for negotiation? Perhaps an agreed upon settlement but not until at least the conclusion of 5 - 10 years of marriage or something to that effect might work.
2006-09-11 07:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight up that you want her to sign it. It's not good to start doing things in a sneaky way because then every time there is a decision to make that she doesn't agree with you are going to have to think of ways of how to get her to do things. This way she knows she's dealing with a no joke man. And seriously if she's in it for the love and not really scheming then I don't see what the problem is. If not I suggest either don't get married or at least wait more time before you do and maybe her true colors will come out. Good luck!
2006-09-11 07:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by hilda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not even a pre-nup is a guarantee anymore. You can't "make" someone sign such a contract either. That would hold up less than a pre-nup does anyway. You can only ask her to. Provide for some sort of compensation in the event of a divorce in the pre-nup, but if you won't get married without it, and she won't get married with it, then one of you is going to have to give in or you both have to give up.
2006-09-11 07:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't indignant. Pre-nups are basically something my father regarded down upon and if I drew one up, he'd be disgusted with me and ashamed. Nor might want to he ever settle for a guy who drew one up for me to signal because it heralds the theory that neither significant different might want to take care of the different in circumstances of hassle and hassle. it is all. Edit: @Mr. Metalhead re: Mr.Dance strikes: possibly i have misunderstood the message, and that i savour the very undeniable reality that your father will pay all the expenses and his cutting-edge spouse thinks a pre-nup is wonderful, yet when my significant different wasn't financially properly off, or grew to develop into unwell then the shared duty of paying expenses, between different issues, develop into mine on my own, and that i might want to settle for it. that's largely the organic and proper ingredient to do with the help of my significant different. properly, it truly is what i imagine, besides.
2016-11-26 01:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an ***!
You don't want to get married and you are making a bid deal out of something little to piss her off so she will say...I dont want to get married and it wont be your fault.
If you are that worried about it than you have no faith in your marriage to be which means you have no faith in her.
She knows that. She won't sign it because by making her sign it..you are making her a contract and not a love story.
Like I said.. Your an ***! Leave her now before she ends up passing up the moment where the perfect guy for her does coming along and you are hogging up all her time with pre nup crap. Your wasting her time and yours.
2006-09-11 07:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If she's not gonna sign, then you shouldn't marry her..I've never understood why pre-nups are such a big deal for people. You made the money, not her, so she isn't entitled to what worked hard for...and I'm sure that if you had children, you would take care of your kids in child support.....so if she really cared about you she wouldn't want to take something that wasn't hers to begin with...hey how rich are you? I'll sign your pre-nup if she doesn't. LOL!
2006-09-11 07:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by diva 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she doesn't sign the prenup, you're at the mercy of a judge if you are divorced. Theoretically, what you had when you married is separate property, what you gain after marriage is marital property. But it's all the judgement of a judge. If it is that important to you, don't get married without it.
2006-09-11 07:20:55 · answer #11 · answered by nkasoff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋