it has come more to my attention that my ex does not supervise are children that are 2 yr old twins. They constently come home w/ marks on there bodies. yes they are children they fall down and get bumps and scraps. but i think every parent should have some ides where these bumps come from. as for him he is totally clueless to anything around him.#1 reason were divorced is that he has anger issues. anyhting can set him off! he will attack you verbally and then be nice as pie a few mins later. im at great concern because our daughter came home with a black eye and a sprained ankle from her fathers. this isn't the first time and sure it won't be the last. what scares me is she said daddy got mad at her when asked what happend. i don't think he would intentially hit her but when he's in his rage anything can happen. alot of this is from lack of supervison. what can i do to protect my children and how to go about it. they also come home dirty and nasty.neglect?help. I took her to the ER.
2006-09-11 07:15:28 · 13 answers · asked by hazelis3258 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well i've been having the daycare keep a record of what time of condition they come in to school. must of the time they end up bathing themm and cleaning them this is very embarassing. but while at the hospital they contacted the dept of children and families. he just a real mental case.
2006-09-11 07:46:35 · update #1
we have joint custody but i have physical custody.
2006-09-11 07:47:39 · update #2
as for collen that left your opinion you must not be a mother. i supervise my children and yes i know where every bump comes from. supervising them is letting them be dependent but keeping your eye on them also. Well i guess the way he watches them is okay for when my 2 year old gets into a car and plays with the gears and gee puts the car in neutral and slams into a bush thats how his father watches him.I guess it's okay then that his father said it was funny. gee what if the kid fell out and the car rolled over him would it be funny then. Not to be rude but i feel that i must be towards you. you must be young or just have no idea of what it's like to be a parent. So why don't you grow up and leave the adult questions to the adults and join in when you become one.
2006-09-11 07:57:32 · update #3
Document, document, document everything. Keep a journal of what is happening and any contact with the ex husband. Take pictures of the smallest injury or bruise. If it is serious, go to the emergency room. With his lack of impulse control regarding hitting anything is possible. Go with your intuition and start talking to family law attorneys on the matter. An idea is to get a homestudy and psychological evaluation on him. It will mean that one is performed on you and your residence. Also, are there any other people who have witnessed his rages or his style of parenting over time? This can help your case too besides the documentation.
2006-09-11 07:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting dirty is normal for a child. All you have to do is give them a bath, so get over the being dirty. As for the sprained ankle and black eye I'd talk with a doctor about what she has said. At two she could have meant that she got the injuries at her father's home, not that he had anything to do with them. As for not knowing how the kids get hurt. I highly doubt that as a mother YOU have your eyes on your kids 24/7, if so then YOU need to get a life. Kids bump their heads, stub their toes, skin their knees all the time when we are unaware. It is not necessary for a parent to watch a two year old constantly when they are playing, if an injury is bad enough or hurts enough the child will come crying, so I doubt he is neglecting the children. Kids have to learn to play without total supervision, how are you going to have them ready for school when they go, or are you planning on them being totally dependent upon you for their entire lives? Since you took her to the ER what did they say there? Were they concerned about her injuries? If so why wasn't CPS called in because in the ER if they suspect child abuse the will not release the child to the parent. Did the child get released to you? If so then they did not suspect any abuse. I think you're just looking for an excuse to cause your ex trouble. Grow up.
2006-09-11 07:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you took her to the ER, what happened? Did a social worker come down to talk with her? If there ever is a suspicion of abuse, medical personel are mandated by law to report to Child Protective Services. Is your custody suit final, or are there still motions, etc going through the Court. If so, you need to see if there is someone that can come in and do a homestudy (ie- Guardian Ad Lidem). You can ask your daughter what happens when daddy gets mad. What does that look like for her? Do not supply her with any answers!!! If her response is that he hit her, pushed her, or anything- you need to call CPS in the area where the abuse occured.
2006-09-11 07:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by Celeste B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get the police involved. And, take him to court for full custody. This man needs to seek counseling for rage issues. He should not be abusing or neglecting the children. He should only be allow to see the children while being supervised. Also, you should get Child Protective Services involved. Hopefully you took pictures of your daughter with the black eye. That would be very helpful in pleading your case. Good Luck and God Bless you and your children.
2006-09-11 07:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by 2cute4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ER was the first step, now you need to file a complaint with the police. The ER should have filed one with children services. Do you have a court agreement giving him visits? If not stop them. Let him take you to court, or you take and tell them how they are coming home abused. You need to act now because the ER already has and the CS will wonder why you waited so long, or why you allowed more visits after the first signs. Get a lawyer you will need one.
2006-09-11 07:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go see your divorce attorney. I can't give legal advice, but I can give advice and a mom to another mom. I would go to my attorney and change the divorce decree. If a man is verbally abusive to you that's one thing, but being abuse to kids is a whole other thing. Think about it. A 2 yr old can't be hurt by words a remember it like an adult can. If he yells at them, which I'm sure he does, then they forget, which toddlers do, what is he to do. Pick one up and throw her. Hince the black eye and sprained ankel. See what you can do about it. Take your notes from the doctor visits and be careful. Good luck!
2006-09-11 07:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 21:24:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing go to your divorce lawyer and they will help you to follow up ,If you have a record of his violence then you can call a social worker and have them come talk to your children ,jump on it now better safe than sorry !he might get mad at you but your job as a mother is to keep the children safe ,and if he was mean to you why wouldnt he be with them .a social worker or conseler can get the children to show them what happened .I hate this so many children being abused these days I trust noone but myself with my kids not even there dad ,I will pray about this .
2006-09-11 07:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by Holly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with 'DawnCS' Stop this before it gets worse!!! File for sole custody and force him to only have supervised visits. Never let him alonewith the kids!!! Get a GOOD lawyer.
2006-09-11 07:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let dad see them anymore.or when they come home banged up go to the hospital so there is something on paper in case you have to go to court.I have seen kids die from what was thought of minor injuries.go to court and get supervised visits.
2006-09-11 07:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋