I am currently in my second year of college. I am married to a Marine who is currently in Iraq. I am going to college to get my degree, and then I want to become a USMC Officer after I graduate college. My question is, when is the best time to try and start having a family with my husband? School is very important to me, and if I had a baby during school, then I would have to miss quite a bit. But at the same time, being an Officer in the Marine Corps is very important as well, and that would be hard to have a child during that time too. My husband is open to having a baby whenever, but having a baby is a big responsibility! Any ideas? Sorry if this question sounds a little odd
2006-09-11 07:15:08 · 8 answers · asked by Katie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As a military person myself, I suggest you wait till you get your commission. That way you can totally commit yourself to your family. The military gives ample time to have children for females. As stated above, you are not necessarily giving your child the opportunity to be parentless. He probably has never been or does not know anyone who was in the military. By then, you and your husband will have grown closer and more well seeded in the military. Congrats on your thinking ahead!!!!
2006-09-11 07:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by Darin S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should discuss this with your husband. It should be a mutual agreement. By the way, as a former officer in the U.S. Army, I can say that the military life can be hard even if only one is a service member, let alone both of you. Is you husband getting out of the military when he returns? There is a classic saying, "If the military wanted you to have a spouse, they would issue you one and he/she would be OD green in color". If both of you are going to stay in the military at the same time, it isn't wise to have a baby. You have to consider what would happen to the baby if, Lord forbid, one or both of you are KIA. There also is no guarantee that you both will be stationed at the same place, at the same time together. Are you going to burden your parents with raising another kid in their senior retired years? If you really want to raise a child, then one of you has to sacrifice, bite the bullet sort of speaking, and give up the military career and even then it won't be easy to do since the other, who is in the military, might not be around much. A child ideally needs BOTH parents, but for sure needs at least one of them.
2006-09-11 14:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have enough going on and don't need to have a baby to complicate your life. Children are a full-time commitment! Don't try to squeeze one in just so you can "experience" parenthood. The kid deserves parents who are around and involved and you two don't sound like good candidates right now. Wait about 6 or 7 years and if your lives have settled down to where you can devote yourself to another human being, consider it then, not before.
2006-09-11 14:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER! An innocent child deserves a parent more competent, mature, and intelligent than you could possibly be. You shouldn't have a child if you are stupid enough to ask a world of strangers when you should start your family. If you're not responsible enough to know when you should bring another person into the world, then you are obviously not responsible enough to raise a baby.
2006-09-11 18:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
when he is back and will not be deported. a child is a lot of work and yes maybe you will have famly and friends to help but you will want him around.so he does not miss anything with your new child and it will be your first.also consider waiting until you are done with at least school.then decide if you want one before you are an officer or work a little then have one.think also about what other things you need before having a baby.like pay off unnecessary bills.this question is not odd.keep us up to date on your decision.
2006-09-11 14:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by Amry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being selfish. Don't have one until after you get out of the Marine Corps. Having one before hand only increases the chances that you child will lose one or both of its parents.
2006-09-11 14:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
live life first enjoy each other build your marriage career then start to think about a family
2006-09-11 14:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by tracey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come over and we can discuss this.
2006-09-11 14:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋