why do some women exaggerate when they are pregnant?

Question

they want attention or what? they always seem to be rubbing their stomach wether they are standing or sitting.
or saying stuff like "i don't feel good" to get attention.. or i want this, i want that as a craving.. it's just very annoying!! I am 3 months pregnant.. I don't like to show my face when I don't feel good.. me and my husband wanted this baby so we don't need the attention from my co-workers, nieghbors etc.. I still try to dress up normal.. wearing makeup, doing my hair etc.. but these exagerated women wear sweat pants, a mans t-shirt , slippers and no makeup.. how annoying is that.. pregnancy is something so nice, so you should make it look nice.. and stop rubbing the stomach and walking like a penguin especially when you are only like 1 to 4 months pregnant!!

you people are taking this the wrong way!! i am not trying to be mean.. and the answers everybody gives are just so freaking rude.. my point is even if they are NOT having morning sickness they just want the attention by saying they do have it just to get more attention.. yes i have had morning sickness, pretty bad.. but i sure didn't exaggerate...!!

p.s..
this is my 2nd pregnancy.. so don't tell me i don't know what it feels like in the later months.. been there, done that.. so i DO know what the full pregnancy feels like.. and I did have natural birth with my first..

Answer 1

These are the same people that strive for attention in any circumstance. Just keep doing what you're doing and you will be the one shining.

Answer 2

When you are throwing up 7 - 10 times a day you dont feel like looking sexy. Or atleast that was my experience the first 3 months. Now I wear maternity clothes rather than sweats.
Rubbing the belly thing is very annoying.
The only time I walk like a penguin is when the baby is sitting in a bad spot and my ligaments are killing me.
You said you were 3 months pregnant. Wait until you are 9 months, i think there will be days where you are going to want to wear clothes for comfort.
Not every pregnancy is the same. My last one I had no aches or pains, and this one (i am 5 1/2 months) I had all day sickness for the first 12 weeks or so.I have severe headaches, had 2 UTI's, 2 yeast infections and subchorionic bleed that lasted almost 3 weeks.
But I get what you mean about the ones who are not very far along and they go overboard with the whole thing.
I hate it when people come up to me and rub my belly....what the heck??

P.S I have never been one to wear makeup.

Answer 3

Just because your first pregnancy was relatively easy (even during the later months) doesn't mean all women have it this easy. I was never one to let myself go (no make up, walked around in bedroom slippers, etc.) but I did rub my stomach a lot. I think mainly because it was just there. :) Plus both of my boys were very active, so I liked to feel the outside of my abdomen when they were moving. Who knows--maybe a lot of women have problems that you and I didn't have--constant back pain through pregnancy, really really horrible morning sickness, bad cramps, etc. Then, I'm sure there are plenty of them who are pregnant for the first time, and are imitating other pregnant women they've seen and are relishing the extra attention. :) Congrats on your pregnancy, and have a healthy, beautiful baby!

Answer 4

Well, since you are only 3 months pregnant, you have NO idea what if feels like to have an 8 or 9 pound baby in your belly, and until you do, you shouldn't talk about people like that. You can't really help but to walk a little funny when you have an extra 20 pounds of baby, amniotic fluid, placenta, ect in your stomache. I agree that you don't have to dress like crap b/c you are pregnant, but maternity clothes are expensive!! Some probably can't afford them. Also, some women are prone to be very sick during pregnancy. When my sisiter was pregnant with her 2nd, not a day went by that she did not throw up. She was literally sick for 9 months. So, If you do not feel that way and you, like me, were blessed with a healthy pregnancy, just be thankful you aren't the one puking your guts up every day for 9 months.

To saintlyinnocent........you are right on the money!!!!!!

Answer 5

Ok, as much as I really enjoy hearing other women's stories about stuff, I find this not very bright.
Pregnant women DO NOT do this stuff to get attention. Rubbing your belly is something a lot of women do because believe it or not, the baby CAN feel that. It also helps provide a connection. Call it maternal instinct to want to connect and soothe your child, and yes, that starts in the womb.
Women who say 'I'm sick' - apparently you haven't had any morning sickness issues. Wonder just what you would say to a woman who was so severely ill during her pregnancy that she couldn't keep anything down without some help, because it can turn into a very serious problem.
Dressing normal....what the hell?!?! Do you think your belly is gonna stay small enough for you to wear what you are wearing now?? LOL! Surprise!! What women wear during pregnancy has to do with comfort. Its uncomfortable to be pregnant, your skin is stretched incredibly tight, why would you want to add to discomfort by wearing clothes that are snug, form fitting, chaffe already irritated skin? No makeup - honey, not every female on this planet wears make-up.
Walking like a penguin, well..personaly, I had no choice but to walk with an awkward, very uncomfortable step, because my pelvic bone refused to spread, and with my child bearing down on that area, it created one of the MOST uncomfortable and many times painfull experiences ever. I have had to deal with the same issue with my 2nd.
It most certainly isn't by choice, but the way women walk has directly to do with how the baby is posistioned of which, if you had something pressing down on that area, you wouldn't be walking too normal either. Just wait.
If you haven't had any interesting cravings, you aren't done yet. pfft. Only 3 months - your time is coming.
I had no incredibly odd cravings, there were a few things I craved more than others that were perfectly normal foods, just not something I typicaly ate a lot of. Its dumber to ignore what your body and baby needs.
Slippers ..... lol...if your feet never swell up, you're just lucky. Shoes become difficult when you experience major swelling issues - its called Edema - ask your doctor. Major Edema is a BIG problem, so keep yourself clued in.
If you consider pregnancy so nice, then why are you running around trying to tell other women they are wrong and stupid for enjoying theirs?? You do it your way, and when you get clued in, give the rest of us who live in the real world a shout out!

Good luck!

Answer 6

I'm glad your pregnancy is going so well for you. I do think you need to grow up and realize that no two pregnancies or women for that matter are the same. Not every person has a smooth pregnancy with little to no complications. Yes there are women who are attention seekers during their pregnancy. They are probably also attention seekers when they are not. How does it affect your life one way or another?

Are you going to begrudge a woman who cramps during her pregnancy or has vicious morning (all day) a couple of belly rubs or a pale and run moment. She is not trying to get your attention. She could probably care less about what you are thinking. Do you expect every person to be able to afford nice maternity clothes they will wear for three to four months and then never wear again? It must be sad that the world can not live up to your high expectations.

Answer 7

Let me tell you something Green Eyes...before I got preg I was always wearing heels, fitted hip clothes and makeup .... when you really do feel like absolute crap...you dont give a damn what you look like anymore as long as your comfortable. Youre still in the beginning of pregnancy .... wait until you carry 30 lbs in your stomach and see how you walk. I agree about the "I dont feel good"'s and the "I'm craving this..." I haven't had much cravings and when I dont feel good I just get really quiet. But not everyone is different .. and later on when your pregnancy gets harder to deal with...youre gonna go with the reasoning that youre pregnant and will complain if you want to.

Answer 8

You are only 3 months along. Wait a while, you'll be there.
Seriously, I get what you are saying. I tried to buy attractive maternity clothes, and I managed to get down and up from a seated position like a normal human being. Though I am guilty of the stomach rubbing but I think that was just an implusive comfort thing for myself (I tend to do that when I have my period, too). I felt great through my entire pregnancy so I never needed to complain.
It is funny you mentioned it. Look at the way they portray pregnant women on TV (especially sit-coms). I think people watch that and think they should be that way.

Answer 9

Ohhhhhhh, give it time...most women actually aren't exaggerating. It sound like you got away without bad morning sickness...good for you! Many women REALLY feel lousy that first trimester, and don't have the luxury of locking themseves away and not dealing with the world 24/7 when they're not feeling well.

When you get a little bigger (3 months you're probably not showing yet), you will find that sweat pants, because of the easy, elastic waistband and mens shirts, just 'cause they're bigger, are comfortable when you're really starting to feel uncomfortable. Your normal clothes will only go so far before you can't sit down in them without their digging into your belly - I'm sure it's tolerable not, but it won't be long before it's not!

As for rubbing the belly, I didn't understand why women did it either in my early pregnancy, but once I started feeling my baby move (in first pregnancies between 4 and 5 months, once again you're probably not here yet and wouldn't understand), it was almost an automatic reaction...the baby tickles and flutters and rubs, and my first response is to rub back...I do it when I'm by myself, with other people, whatever. It's not to get attention. Believe me, once you become visibly pregnant, you get attention even when you don't seek it out (my pet peeve are the complete strangers who feel the need to touch my belly). Please don't automatically assume that pregnant women are exaggerating for attention...some women are just stating the facts.

Answer 10

Everyone is different and so is every pregnancy. I felt great with my first, other then the morning sickness...but that was not really that bad. With my second child I had such terrible back problem that I could barely move sometimes. With my third it wasn't at all bad.

No one is down on you for being pregnant and "perfect" so why do you have to be down on others who are having different symptoms then yourself. How do you know that they are not really sick? I know people that are nauseous through their entire pregnancy, morning sickness or not. If it bothers you then stay away from those people...let them find attention from someone who wants to give it.

Answer 11

Because they can! LOL I didn't have to wear maternity clothes til my sixth month. I wore larger sweats cuz I could. I also wore make-up every day. But however much has changed since I had my baby 2yrs. ago. You don't always have time to put make-up on or dress to the hilt! Just wait and you will see how busy being a mom is! Don't try to juge other's your time will be here soon enough. Just wait til after when you have the baby. You will be so tired some days you may not even get to shower or brush your teeth! Trust me it will happen! It isn't as easy as you may think it is! Good Luck!