k so i found out my boyfriend of a year who i love very much and has treated me so good, still looks at porn i got upest cuz for one i didnt know and he was hiding it from me. so i may have over reacted and put a block on our computer! so anyways big fight afterwards we almost broke up cuz im "controlling" and hes a man all men do it and its not a big deal he could be out cheating on me but he doesnt he just looks at porn and handles him self when he needs to.so long story short should i just loosen up about it? thats pretty much the solution that came to our fight i loosen up and he talks to me more but hes said before that he would talk to me more...am i just freaking out and reading to much into all this???
2006-09-11 06:58:05 · 15 answers · asked by mizztaunib 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, I don't think you are freaking out or reading too much into it... I can agree and I sympathize with the whole "So you're looking at porn because I'm not good enough for you" feeling and that is NORMAL. But here's the thing, and after a similar fight with my boyfriend over pretty much the same topic, this is what I've learned...
1) You can NOT tell me that you have NEVER taken care of yourself. So if he does it every once in awhile, he's just looking for some instant "hm, feels good" feelings.
2) Guys are VISUAL!!! What this means is they can't use their imaginations for the same things we can. I don't know of any woman who CAN'T just lay back and dream of some yummy man or situation and finish the job. Men CAN'T do this, they need a picture to do it... and the girls in the pictures are nothing to him personally they are just "inspiration." Think of it this way: you don't need your fast food french fries in a handy little plastic bucket, but it certainly helps doesn't it??
Don't worry, you should relax and know that these actions aren't meant to hurt you in any way... in reality YOU don't really have anything to do with it at all. He was probably not hiding it from you, but rather not telling you about him having the porn because he knew it might bother you. Maybe compromise and tell him that if he's going to have/look at porn, he should invite you to look at it with him. (That way you can make fun of how fake and airbrushed they make everyone look and he can get what he needs done).
Good luck! = )
2006-09-11 07:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by lilhottiebug 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-19 19:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all men look at porn. we think of sex almost all day everyday. its what is built in to our minds which is to pro create, keep the human race alive. no real solution becase no matter how many times you change your man, you will find out porn(internet, magazine or strip show) is always around.
its the same as women that are so attractive and yet, continue to be in pursuit of being more beautiful with cosmetics, nails, hair style, shoes and clothes. its the built in program for women to pro create and not just look nice to feel better. its why women feel more confident when they look sexy because thats what their purpose in life is.........to attract the opposite sex.
the question is not if you should loosen up but can you accept man for who we are? life could be easier if we tried to understand gender behavior and not individual behavior. then we can understand why women find dribbles on the toilet seat and men need to be on their best behavior once a month.
2006-09-11 07:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by sillyboi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most guy look at porn. I get so much forwarded to me that I dont even have to look for it.
It has become very common among men, so now, the standard, if you look at all guys, is that porn is okay.
Just like women shaving, piercings, etc.
When I started having sex, only total sluts would shave or your gf would do it for you once in a great but make a big deal about - "it make me look like a little girl". Now, it is the norm.
2006-09-11 07:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
All guys have looked at porn at least once. Now as to whether they look at it regulary or not I dont know. Some guys can look at it and be fine others look at it and arent. But if he's hiding it from you there may be a reason why. dont freak out but make sure that he's not substituting that for a relationship.
2006-09-11 07:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by mrjwm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
everyone makes big deal out it all men look at porn it just them doesnt mean there cheating I look but my girl knows I only have sex with her sorry I just like to look
2006-09-11 07:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by jbmasterdragon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO!!!!!!! not all men look at porn. It is sick and wrong. If your bf can't be satisfied with you than he has issues. You need to confront him about it. It will become a problem if not handled. If he can't respect you and toss the stuff, you need to move on to bigger and better things.
2006-09-11 07:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Relax beautiful, it is better he looks at porn then going out and cheating on you.
2006-09-11 07:07:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
honey hes right all men do it. so yes i would say that you should be glad he isn't out cheating on you let him have some fun looking on the net.
2006-09-11 07:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by rocky 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let the man have his porn. better porn than another woman!
2006-09-11 07:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by slip-slappy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋