i am going to be 21 in about 2 months..and my boyfriend of 9 months is going to be 30 next month..he was talking to his brother last night...and said that it's stressing him...What kind of advice should i give him? I mean we love each other,, i would like to help him.
2006-09-11 06:56:26 · 3 answers · asked by Punk_Rockin' Chick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What is exactly bothering him about turning 30 -- is it the age difference between you and he...the fact that he is not where he thought he would be by now.... or what? Does he fear being a grown-up? Did he say anything specific about what stresses him about turning 30?
Thirty means he is indisputably a grown up, whether he likes it or not. It does not mean he needs to find a rocker and settle in. For some of us it means looking at our goals and evaluating ourselves as adults. Are we happy in our relationships? Are we working a job we take pride in for money we can afford to live on? Do we own our house yet or have a plan so that we will soon? If the answers to the important questions we ask ourselves are no, then it might be time to set some short-term and long term goals and sketch out a plan to achieve them. Maybe that is something you could help with if you plan to be a part of his future.
Thirty was a wake-up call for me. It probably is for a lot of us.
As far as your role in "helping" him through his age 30 landmark, I don't know what you can really do other than point out the positives, empathize, and encourage him.
It is nice for him that you care. I wish you the best.
2006-09-11 07:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is the route you wanted but try teasing him about being old and acting the part of the young innocent girl who's with the older, wiser guy.
Ask him what it's like to be a 30 year old doing a 21 year old. I like saying those kinds of things to the man I love, he thinks it's fun too. But maybe that's because we're both a little immature...
2006-09-11 13:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD. The man is going to be 30!!????? And he can't COPE with it??????
What kind of "advice" would that be? Live or die???? He can't change his age. My advice is for both of you to get over it. He can't cope with being 30 and you need advice from strangers on the internet...on second thought, my advice is for both of you to get some counselling and see if you can grow up a little.
2006-09-11 13:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋