She is EVERYTHING I want in a woman. She is funny and I can talk to her about anything and as a bonus she is hot, stunning, beautiful, whatever you say. HOWEVER, she has got a boyfriend and seems to love him loads. I don't want to spilt them up (although I do feel they should have a long time ago but I digress). I am funny and have a very good personality (I have been told by MANY people) I told her how I feel (I was drunk one time and sort of let it ALL out) I have fallen out with her a couple of times....although I've never told her it is because I am jealous of her boyfriend. I love her sooooo much. I honestly would do ANYTHING to make her happy. I know she does not think I am good looking, she is not attracted to me. Basically I want to know, how will I get over her??? I swear I love her more than anything. I hate hearing about what her and her boyfriend do....she tells me sometimes, I get sooooo jealous of him....well thats all. Sorry for the long post.
2006-09-11 06:39:13 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
awww,that is so sweet.You should really tell her how you feel.It's not good to keep things in like that.If I was her I would want you to tell me. Good luck.
2006-09-11 07:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Trisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, how sweet you sound! I know this sucks, but you just have to let her be and just be satisfied with being friends. I don't know how old you both are, but perhaps one day down the road after she's been thru a few boyfriends, she may realize what a good friend you've been all these years and start to think about you as more than just a friend. And maybe being just friends is a bonus. You'll never be dumped by her and you will always have her around to hang out with anyway. Good Luck.
2006-09-11 13:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by animal_mother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look around a little. You will find that there are plenty of beautiful and wonderful women that are much more suitable for you than she is. In the first place, they are available, and in the second, they will find you very attractive. I had the same thing happen to me, (falling madly in love with a good friend) but eventually I realized that she isn't really the right person for me because i'd see things in other girls where she just falls short.
You have to realize that the fact that she doesn't see you for the wonderful person that you are (the looks included) is a HUGE failling in her. It is equivalent to her being deadly dull or butt ugly.
Good luck finding a girl that's actually worth your time and love :)
2006-09-11 13:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test yourself. you may be infatuated with the idea of her. if you mean what you say when you say that you love her than her happinesws should be the most important thing to you. if it makes her happy to be with her boyfriend can you be content with that? can you go on forever as her friend if that will make her happy? but if so then you have true love. not like in story books. if not then you really don;t love her and you just don't want to be lonely.
If you do love her then the only thing to do is to keep loving her. a pure love means loyalty, honesty, Strength and kindness. you should only feel bad when something hurts her.
Remember there is no room for envy or jealousy in love.
2006-09-11 14:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Andrew M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forget this girl she bascially does not know know something good when she sees it. Dont get to involved. If she had feelings for you she would dump this guy she is with and go out with you. How do you get over her. You go out with someone else see how she feels about that. She might get jeoulus If she likes you but I wouldn't care what she thought. Do your own thing. Collect a hobby. Like collecting hats or playing with your skateboard. The time you have dont waste it on this girl. There are more fish in the sea. So go out and catch some.
2006-09-11 13:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by girl176a1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious you are attracted to her on many different levels, but I would suggest it is more lust than love. If you truly loved this woman, you'd want her to be happy in her present relationship and not be jealous of her boyfriend. Love is not about jealousy or pain. The feelings you are having are not healthy. If you can't overcome these feelings, you may have to distance yourself from her. Good luck.
2006-09-11 13:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesnt have those feelings for you and if shes not attracted to you then you're wasting your time pursuing her . The only way to get over people is to go out and meet other people. The world isnt limited to jsut her. You can still be her good friend though just dont expect her to do more.
2006-09-11 13:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by Triskelion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how it feels and there is no solution. You have to put her first. If she is happy then you need to walk away even if it hurts.
Its true what they say..If its love..it will come back to you.
Maybe it just not your moment yet. Try to carry on with your life and be friends and when the next opportunity comes up...make your move but you can't do anything until she is single again for out of love and respect for her.
You are luck to be able to feel that kind of love.
2006-09-11 13:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend like that. She was a great woman. I told her how i felt and after that, we seemed to fall apart. It went terrible. My advice, if she considers you one of her best friends, don't ask her to be with you or don't tell her your feelings. Until, she asks you or tells you. Otherwise it will go bad. Take it from a guy who almost lost her. You'll get over her. The best way, (i'm going to have to be brutally honest here) is find any flaws in her. No one is perfect. NO ONE! So find something in her that you find unappealing and then tell yourself, "I'm glad I didn't get with her" That'll work best and fastest.
2006-09-11 14:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Brightside 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her and respect her: let her,to do her personal life with her boyfriend.You can be yes,a friend.if your feeling for this girl are too strong,let her alone.Why?Because you can hurt her feelings; if you try to cross the line with her(she has a boyfriend,remember that real fact).Think good,relax,calm down,and everything is gonna be alright.Be a good friend is better for you( or let her in peace).Good luck.Good question.Find another good baby girl only for you.Good luck.
2006-09-11 14:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey.....why are u torturing ure self.. maybe u have problem letting go... if she doesnt give u reason to love her than you have realize that ure wasting ure time , ure jeoulousy.. and ure heart.
u need too find somone who aint so shallow.. looks arent everything... there good... but the personality is alot more its what keeps u in love. hope u dont smell bad and at least dress nice..lol... .that all is bonus...keep looking fresh and let ure personality shine through.. hope fully i will find a girl who can appreciate u and love the same way...good luck....
2006-09-11 13:52:49 · answer #11 · answered by sana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋