If you partner strangled you when you were 8 months pregnant with the intent to kill you, but then said sorry?

Question

afterwards what would you do? This happened to me aout 2 years ago and I still am pissed off with him (I didnt leave because I wasnt working at the time (pregnant) and there was no where else to go) Then fast forward 15 onths later when he beats my head into a wall for being on the computer (thought I was cheating, which I wasnt) after that he said he was sorry and made it sound less than it was (I dint leave because I dont work as I am a stay at home mom) and do to the fact he doesnt want me working and any job I applied for he would go off on me accusing me of bs. Fast forward 7 months, I hate him, I want out, I have a smalll job lined up, the only problem is he says I will not get the kid (since I dont have a job) and he is not playing fair, claims he will only pay me 300 a month in child support as well (he makes about a hundred grand yearly) I dont know what to do. I dont love him, rarely like him and I am calmer when HE IS OUT OF TOWN working. Need advice badly.

Answer 1

Its quite simple, actually........ GET OUT!

Answer 2

LEAVE HIM AND LEAVE HIM NOW. IT IS ONLY A MATTER OF TIME BEFORE HE DOES SERIOUS DAMAMGE TO YOU OR KILLS YOU. ONCE AN ABUSER ALWAYS AN ABUSER.
AS FAR AS GETTING THE CHILD. IT ISN'T UP TO HIM, THE JUDGE WILL DECIDE THAT. THERE ARE MANY MOTHERS OUT THERE THAT DON'T HAVE A JOB AND ARE LIVING ON THE WELFARE SYSTEM. HIS TELLING YOU THAT HE WILL ONLY PAY $300.00 IS ANOTHER FAIRY TALE HE HAS YOU CONVINCED OF. HERE AGAIN THE JUDGE WILL DETERMINE THE AMOUNT OF CHILD SUPPORT HE WILL PAY. THE STATE ALSO HAS GUIDELINES FOR THAT TOO. IF HE INDEED DOES MAKE A HUNDRED GRAND A YEAR, I WOULD BET THE COURT WOULD FIND THAT $300.00 WAS INADEQUATE. HE CAN PAY UP FRONT OR THE COURT AND THE WELFARE PEOPLE WILL COME AND GARANSHEE HIS WAGES. SO HE WILL PAY EITHER WAY.
GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND MAY GOD'S LOVE AND BLESSINGS BE WITH YOU. YOU HAVE HAD A ROUGH ROW TO HOE SO FAR AND YOU NEED THE BREAK BY GETTING AWAY FROM THE BUM YOU ACCIDENTLY MARRIED.

Answer 3

Here is a national domestic abuse hotline: [phone]
Call the number immediately and they'll help you find a safe place to go. Your husband cannot avoid supporting you and children but you'll probably need an attorney to help you get the support. He's feeding you a line of baloney about how much he'll pay. HE doesn't decide that the judge does.
DO NOT STAY one more minute. The abuse will not stop and you can't believe a word he says.

Answer 4

you can call some people in other country savage but in certain places he will have his head hang on a tree by now
did you ever report any of those abuse if you did not that was a mistake
Girls by reporting any abuse is a clear case of him not getting the children OK
Now do you have any family anywhere else other than the town that you leave in if yes ask for help and move
before you left if you have a way to get your hands on some money do it , most of all take his social security # with you
don't let that behind because you will need to console a lawyer to get child support via your state with the clause that he most not know where you live
their is help out there so go get it for you and your child
Good help

Answer 5

BEFORE YOU LEAVE (easilier said then done). Get has much information against him as you can: pictures (marks on your body), keep a journal (time, date, what was said or done word for word). I know it's hard but you will have to have a paper trail. Make police reports and STICK to them. Call those hotlines to talk to someone and give your name (that proof) Try not to talk to friends and family about your plans because people talk even when they don't mean too. As far as how much he is going to give you for child support is up to the courts not him, but if I were you make copies of his pay stubs. He doesn't want you to work because that means freedom, and reaction with others. If you have proof that he hits you when you were pregant and in front of the child, he's not going to get the child. If he gets visitation, just ask for supervised visitations. JUST BE ONE STEP AHEAD OF HIM AND YOU WILL BE FINE. Good luck.

Answer 6

It is very important to the rest of your life that you get as far from this homicidal maniac as you possibly can. There is a very real possibility that he is someday going to kill you.
You need to get to yourself and your child to an abused woman's shelter or some place where you will be safe . IMMEDIATELY!!!!!
You should have had him arrested for two counts of attempted murder two years ago.
go to the police then go to the courts and get an Order of Protection NOW!!!
There is a lot of help available to you other than this forum, Use it.
For some reason you don't seem to recognize how much danger you are actually in . Realize and react.
Hope I don't read about you in the paper.

Answer 7

You need more then opinions from here. You need to get some counseling to help get you in a state of mind where you should be concerned about your health for your sake as well as your child's. As long as he has control he's going to keep you in this hell of a relationship. He can't tell you what the child support would be if a divorce occurs, it's up to the judge to make this decision. He's not sorry, but you will be if you keep taking this from him because it only gets worse with time, believe me.

Answer 8

Ughh--tough one, sorry.

No way he gets the kids--domestic violence is now a major factor in child custody decisions in almost every state.

The amount of child support will be based on his income and the standard of living. The court decides that--not him. It will almost certainly be substantially more than $300/mo.

You need a support system if you're going to leave. 70% of all domestic vilolence occurs after a separation. Do you you have family you can go to? Most places now have DV shelters if you don't, but family/friends are better.

This is a really hard situation to cope with, but thousands of women do it every year. If they can do it--so can you.

Good luck.

Answer 9

You need to leave.
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Domestic abuse hotline for all 50 states

First and foremost, you need to call the police every single time that he hurts you, or threatens to harm you.
I can only tell you what I know about the laws in Florida, you''ll need to investigate what happens in your state, but you're going to need a restraining order. When you file the restraining order you will need to explain why you think you are in danger. You need to write down every instance of violence. You need to explain that you must retain sole and exclusive rights to the domicile, and that he has to leave.
You will also have to request a temporary judgement for custody of your child, and for child support.
Secondly your husband can't guarantee that he will get custody of your child.
He travels, right? What does he plan on telling a judge about what arrangements he can make for the childs care during his absences? He basically admits then fact when he tells you what he'll be paying you for child support.
Third, there is a mathematical formula that is used to determine the amount of child suppport he will be expected to pay, based in part, on his income, and he'll be automatically liable for the state minimum according to their scale. You should get the payment withdrawn from his pay. That way you won't be waiting on him to pay you.
You need to see a lawyer, quick. There's just too much info that you need, and I don't know the laws where you live.
You can get a free consultation with most lawyers, use it to get the info you need to get yourself, and your child safe, and they may also be willing to work with you so that you don't have to pay them a whole lot up front. They may even be able to work it so that he has to pay your legal fees.
I wish you and your child safety and happiness, you have to go make that happen. Good luck.

Answer 10

Leave him and take your children. As for the child support that is for the courts to decide. Make sure that you document everything and if it gets to be too bad call the police. This is for your safety and the kids. He just is tell you about kid there is a lot of single mothers out there and there is help for them. He is just trying to scare up and it sounds like it is working. Go get help and get out of the marriage it is not good for you or the child. Plus there is places that will help until you get yourself on your feet. Please if you don't do it for yourself do it for your child.

Answer 11

You should have called the police ASAP!!! Especially if his hand marks were all over your throat!! Your baby/ child is in danger and so are you still. Just cause he said "sorry" doesn't make up for almost killing you! Leave him! Go live with friends or relatives, get a job and get a protective order against him in court.