My unborn baby's father & I DO NOT get along. He really DOES NOT understand me. He stresses me out so much & I'm afraid I'll hurt me or the baby. I really don't know what to do because I don't believe in abortions. I know I'll probably need him around but I hate him so much. We just do not communicate. What do I do???????????
2006-09-11 06:37:03 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
be strong and turn to your friends and family for help and if you must involve him make sure you feel safe doing so if need be have someone else there when you talk to him. you and the babys needs come first, his needs come last and if it means making him leave you alone for a while then he should understand this. stay safe and dont give up hope childern are wonderful if not little monsters at times hang on in there and im sure you will find a solution just give it time
2006-09-11 06:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by magic_pixi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOney, I was where you are, and I made the mistake of attempting to be the bigger person and get along with my son's father. 2 years later, we no longer live together and I have a peace order of protection against him. Do you and your child a favor and leave him alone. The sooner the better. Speak to a lawyer at your earliest convenience regarding the process for securing child support in your area. You do not have to interact with him, but he does have a responsibility to help you take of the child you both created. You also will need to make sure that you file for sole custody. If he wants visitation rights, let him fight for it. If he is giving you this much grief and the baby isn't here yet, Trust me when I tell you it will not get any better. You can also check with your doctor about programs for single mothers. There are resources and help out there for you. But you will just have to be dilligent about looking.
2006-09-11 06:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Meesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all and don't take this wrong but are you sure that he is the father? and next off all if you think that you or the baby is in danger of being hurt you have to either get away from him or make him understand what is going on. If you need to go talk to a preacher or maybe someone you really trust. Someone smarter and probably older who has more experience on things like this. and if you aren't a christian i understand that you wouldn't want to talk to a pastor. Talk to your mom or even a friends mom would be great. just don't have your friend gang up on him and start yellin. yelling is never a good thing it just makes people angry. I'll pray for you and i hope it all turns out okay.
2006-09-11 06:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by willow 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have to remember that the baby didn't sign up for any of this. You had sex and now you have to deal with the consequences of what happened. He may just be overwhelmed with the news and you being pregnant anything will get to you. Give it time to cool off. If you don't believe in abortions you answered that question yourself that its not going to happen. My best advice is love your baby and give it everything you can. Try your best. You DON'T NEED him to be there, the child needs him, but you cant make him be involved either. If he wants to be in his child's life he will do it on his own, The only thing you can do is take care of yourself and pray for him. When your baby gets here give him/her your all and as long as you show unconditional love you may be better off by yourself.
2006-09-11 06:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly sweety, you will not be in peace by having this baby... Me personally you will be saving yourself and you child by not having it. Me personally, I'm not for abortions, but sometimes it's for the best... I was pregnant once, and I didn't have the abortion because I was scared and I was agaist it.. Everything about the pregnancy was wrg, the timing the guy, etc ... I eventually lost it... It was hard. If you know deep in your heart, that there is more negative than positive from this pregnancy, I suggest an abortion... I know you'll feel guilty and really bad, but it's worst having someone's child and having to deal w/ that person for the rest of your life...
2006-09-11 06:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not going to say you shouldn't have slept with him. What's done is done. Now you have to deal with the future. Yes I do believe that you should have the child at least. If you want to put it up for adoption that is your choice, but please give him/her a chance to live, and experience their own life. Aborting it before it even gets to see the real world just isn't fair. I had an aunt who ended up getting pregnant in high school, and she put the child up for adoption. Today she is married to another man with 2 boys, who are in their later teens. To this day she still feels overwhelmed with guilt that she has another daughter out there, and deep down she hopes to find her someday, at least to just know that she is doing good, and find closure in that.
2006-09-11 06:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by johnny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As bad as it sounds, but you have to get away from your baby's father. You and everybody else you know don't want him ti hurt you in any ways.he has to pay child support but he can stay out of your life.Maybe he stresses you out so much because he is scared of the things which are coming up and you are stresses out because of your pregnancy and the high level of hormones, caused by the pregnancy.Hopefully everything will calm down after the baby is born.until than you are better of to stay away.
2006-09-11 06:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by rogermyloverboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you or your baby are in any kind of danger, leave him immediately. Second, if you feel you can't take care of the baby, look into placing him/her up for adoption. If you decide to be a single mom, don't worry, it's not the end of the world. I hope that you do what's best for you and your baby. Please, get counseling and be as informed as you can about all your options before you decide on anything, though.
2006-09-11 06:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jenni77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want this baby? Because this is a question that you should be asking yourself. Does he want this baby? Because if neither of you want it then I suggesttaht you need to give your child up for adoption. If you want this baby and he doesn't then he can pay child support. If he does and you don't then he can pay for all the expenses and you can give the child to him once it's born. (I've seen this happen) But you make the decision. Good Luck!
2006-09-11 06:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by adidasgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl stop stressing i was there and done is so i know you can also this is what you do go to your appt. and make sure everything will be fine with the baby and then you they the baby call him up and aleast tell him the baby is born then if he still didn't stop the **** take if for child support and that change every thing we are not together but aleast we talk for our child and can talk normal to each other remember you have your family for support so dont gave up and your friends........ good luck
2006-09-11 06:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by billie0059 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋