i m a housewife n have two and half yrs son.the whole day i spend taking care of your house n son and cooking.but nowadays i really feel bored and pissed off.husband is busy at office and when he comes back from office, i just try to chat with him either he is tired ,wants to play with son or sit in front of computer or tv.sometime i feel bad as he is nt listening to me.i have two or three friends and cant go to their house as i dont know driving.other ladies i know they are so nicely going out and mingliing with others and spending good times .i feel very depressed nowadays.
2006-09-11 06:29:20 · 13 answers · asked by kc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Uhmmm..... maybe you need to talk with your husband about this, because this problem is for all your family... if you talk to him... everything is better... because you are not alone. thinking about your answer... I think mothers and young mothers more... change their life 180 grades.... now, you live for your family... but you know what??? that is good... you will see the blessing one day...
You need friends also... and if I can be your friend write to me...
Bye.
2006-09-11 11:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by uhmmmberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh. I know how you feel!!! On grocery day you get excited about finally getting out of the house and seeing people...lol I've been there! I usually go for walks, work on my crafts, and read to pass the time. I just moved to this neighborhood and have no family and no friends, hubby works long hours
The one thing I did do was learn to drive so I can go to the library, take some pottery classes, or just go for a drive in the country...whatever grabs my fancy. Talk to your husband and tell him how you feel maybe you and he can make a once a week date to spend time with each other. If money is tight then rent a few movies or make a nice dinner for just the two of you.
Write down what you would like to learn to do, what you know how to do, and then do whatever you can on that list. Learn decoupage, scrapbooking, sewing if you like crafts. Look on the internet and join discussion groups. I know how lonely it can be and I feel for you, I really do...if you would like, contact me through email. We can always chat ...take care.
2006-09-11 07:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Bethie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound English, I am not sure of what culture or background you are from so its hard to say. My suggestion would be to get a drivers license and apply for a job, even a part time one to get you out of the house. You can put your son in day care. There are plenty of good daycare programs out there. Or invite your friends over once in a while in the afternoon for lunch. If they have children set up play dates once a week. Maybe ask a friend to pick you up once in a while to go out.
2006-09-11 06:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shoul'dnt have married at all.
You were best suited for socialising
only and for parties and Discotheques.
You, perhaps were not trained by your
parents properly to take of the family.
I think, you have manay many expectations
in life and donot like to do things necessary
for bringing up a family.
Ithink, you parents or father was in Indian
Air Force or the Indian Army or a big
beauroctare, who had lot of wealth.
Please visit a marriage Counsellor, he will
surely help you.
2006-09-11 14:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by pianist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you. Most of the Indian houswives suffer from the same problem. What you can do is make a group of 4-5 like minded friends and start having pot lucks during lunch hours at each other place. You will have better time and more fun.
2006-09-11 06:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by desi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell your husband that being a housewife is also like going to work and you are also human being who likes to be cared and loved, even u feel like oging out with your friends and need your own space. son is you both's responsbility and not only you.
you both need to speak to each other and need to make some kind of time table like on monday evenign husband will look after him and you will have your couple of hrs time off and then on next day wife will look after son and he will have sometime off, i am sure even he is feeling the same, but u need to talk and gets this sorted, rather than going into depression.
or may be you can put him in creche for sometime so that you will have some extra time for yourself.
2006-09-13 21:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by Hidimba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Mrs. Naidu. Your question is very genuine. But you will have to find ways to be happy. You will have to develop hobbies of your choice. Ask your friends to come on dinner/lunch and if you like listen music of your choice. But still if you feel bore. Just chat on net with limitations. I hope you will be more happy in your Happy Family.
2006-09-11 06:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sis don't slip Ur leg on wrong way please, because if Ur trying for fun outside then Ur future should be lose, thing positive for improving relations with Ur hubby ND told Ur friends to join u when Ur boring and even for some time u can go their place if don't no driving then take a rent means taxi, best of luck ND once again i advise u don't try to spoil Ur good life
2006-09-11 10:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a good ****** novel to read. I suggest Zane. Great author and very steamy stories. Buy a couple of toys and explore your body. Get out of the house sometimes, by yourself and do whatever. get a massage, facial or whatever. Take care of you.
2006-09-11 07:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by elementsoflife06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest that you try to get a part time job and find an affordable day care for your son. i can't understand what you typed but I think you said you don't know how to drive? learn how to drive and get your license. you should be more independent.
2006-09-11 06:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋